cuckold reality vs fantasy

[dingdong233]

I've wrote a long post in how me and my wife got started, try and give it read, I was similar to yourself.. in short we went out and had sex semi public, started letting guys watch n then she sucked a few cocks. That first sight of a stranger's cock going in her mouth is something I'll never forget, I hope it helps

 

[lala]

Fantsay....reality ?
Everyone has fantasies. It's whatever is in your mind.
Reality...for me...inadequacy pleasing my wife even tho she's never said anything about how she obviously likes sex with our friend.
Reality...for me...jealous feelings watching them together.
More reality...seeing a completely different view of how her body moves with him, it's exciting but I do feel weird sometimes.
...seeing her cum while he's doing her.
More...the way she holds me tight when I do her after he's done. How she moves with me, how she kisses me, when she tells me I feel so good inside her.
WHILE we're doing it it's VERY exciting but after he's gone she and I have guilt issues and some remorse. But we have fantastic sex for days after. She's horny like I can't describe for days.
It's much different than a fantasy...fantasy is only fun, reality involves emotions.

do you still feel regret or guilt

 

[coastalkid]

Fantsay....reality ?
Everyone has fantasies. It's whatever is in your mind.
Reality...for me...inadequacy pleasing my wife even tho she's never said anything about how she obviously likes sex with our friend.
Reality...for me...jealous feelings watching them together.
More reality...seeing a completely different view of how her body moves with him, it's exciting but I do feel weird sometimes.
...seeing her cum while he's doing her.
More...the way she holds me tight when I do her after he's done. How she moves with me, how she kisses me, when she tells me I feel so good inside her.
WHILE we're doing it it's VERY exciting but after he's gone she and I have guilt issues and some remorse. But we have fantastic sex for days after. She's horny like I can't describe for days.
It's much different than a fantasy...fantasy is only fun, reality involves emotions.

No one wants to talk about the burden a husband/bf carries when they witness their inadequacy proven by someone capable of producing reactions and responses from their wife that they have not EVER been able to produce. By allowing another person to fulfill those needs, a husband can deflect their inadequacy but they can't remove it from their heart and mind.

Many times you read here that wives/gfs need an emotional connection with their extramarital lovers. The physical act alone doesn't provide the FULL experience that satisfies them. Far too often it is made out that the wife/gf is oblivious to maintaining that same emotional connection for a husband/bf that feels inadequate and has realized someone else provides what she needs and not him.

It sounds like your wife IS sensitive to your self perceived inadequacy. As you say, she's never put it in your face regarding the obvious satisfaction she gets from her bf. She isn't denying you. She tells you that you feel good inside her. I get the impression that your wife knows you feel inadequate. She knows you well enough to know that she doesn't need to "pile on" and amplify your feelings of inadequacy. Despite that sensitivity, as you say, when it's all over and he's gone you still have feeling of remorse and guilt.

You almost NEVER read anything about a wife/gf that KNOWS her husband/bf feels or knows he's inadequate and does anything to protect and reassure the loving relationship that you need to go on. I'm learning that most people in this kind of one-sided relationship are actually living in the fantasy and NOT the reality. In reality EVERYONE has needs. In reality EVERYONE has desires. It is a fantasy to think those things go away.