Thanks for your reply. It was everything I expected it to be, honest and sincere!For better or for worse I did not let on to my wife the feelings/emotions I was going through in the moment. I kept everything to myself and continued to encourage her and act (albeit a small act) like I was very turned on by seeing my wife with other men. Each time we had MFM adventures it became less and less difficult to process until reaching the point where I was turned on by what she was doing with other men. So to answer the question of facing my feeling alone, yes I faced them alone. This also answer the next question since I never shared my true feelings at the time there was no opportunity for her to help or know I was struggling. I should clarify that the most intense feelings where in the first few MFM encounters. Sharing her went from partially negative to extremely positive very quickly. I was able to handle it and did not need to say anything to her. It isn't a science but I would say or give advice along the lines of if when you first get in to the lifestyle and your feelings of doubt, jealousy, bruised ego, inferiority, threatened, etc. subside then you will be alright.
I can only speak for myself but can say that if my feelings did not lesson over time then I would have put an end to what we where doing. It would have been a big red flag that sharing the wife with other men was not something I could not only handle but learn to enjoy. I think I said it before but this lifestyle is not for everyone. The marriage has to be rock solid and communication between each other open and honest.
Now that you've adjusted and you're "into" it, have you ever told your wife about how you felt back then, or is it something that's better left unsaid? Your telling of your story doesn't seem so unusual in regard to what I've read. I read many posts where men faced exactly the things you mentioned. Do you think it would make a difference in women if they were more aware of those feelings a husband has?
Once again, thank you for your reply! My questions are as sincere as your answers are! It makes sense when everyone says (including you) that, "The marriage has to be rock solid and communication between each other open and honest." I also believe that you need to have your own head together so you can have that rock solid marriage and open communication!