My wife had a regular lover, meaning maybe 1-2 times a month..no overnight..after 4 years we talked about a short vacation for her with him which ended up being 3 days two nights as husband/wife. She truly enjoyed not just the sex, but also normalacy in shopping, looking at houses together, nice romantic dinners...well worth it...they cooled off for about 5 years but getting back together now. Cant wait for their "honeymoon"..she is white, he is a professional black man