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You guys are one of those blessed couples that have had fun for years (you've been posting here for a while) and managed to stay together. Whatever or however you're doing what you're doing works for you guys and my hat's off to you! You two are an amazing couple!
I have no need to watch. Just knowing that my wife is having sex with her lover is an incredible thrill for me. Waiting for her and the anticipation of us making love afterwards is mind blowing for me. Then hearing the details, feeling, tasting, smelling the results of their coupling is out of this world.
I often imagine his dark black cock disappearing into her pale white body, her soft thighs wrapped around him. But I’ve no desire to see it for myself. In fact, I’m afraid that it could ruin my imagined version of that special moment. Instead, I get to hear all the detail as we make love and I do t want to risk losing the wonder f that.
I often imagine his dark black cock disappearing into her pale white body, her soft thighs wrapped around him. But I’ve no desire to see it for myself. In fact, I’m afraid that it could ruin my imagined version of that special moment. Instead, I get to hear all the detail as we make love and I do t want to risk losing the wonder f that.
itsmagic1954
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I may be a rare bird, My kink is to let her enjoy her lover without having to think about me. The moment is about the woman entirely.
I want her to succumb to passion without me jerking off in the corner, hiding in a closet, hiding under the bed. Any choice to record digital audio, or to take pictures and vifdeo, is her choice, not mine, if she wants to share after the fact, well, then you can expect to see the documentary evidence.
It’s important for the man to be included in try he debauchery
I want her to succumb to passion without me jerking off in the corner, hiding in a closet, hiding under the bed. Any choice to record digital audio, or to take pictures and vifdeo, is her choice, not mine, if she wants to share after the fact, well, then you can expect to see the documentary evidence.
It’s important for the man to be included in try he debauchery
My wife isn't a hot wife but she/we tease about it when we have sex. I told her a long time ago the idea turned me on. She was then, and still is in the "never gonna happen" camp. She has at least incorporated the "dirty talk" in bed and that's a big improvement from my viewpoint.
I've thought a lot about whether I could take witnessing my wife getting better, longer, more satisfying sex from a younger man. I think I'd rather go the way you are, better to wait at home and get used to it. Eventually you might decide to watch when you feel like it wouldn't ruin things. Do you ever think or feel like she holds back anything when you reconnect?
We spent many years in that same ‘dirty talk’ phase before she eventually made it happen. Circumstances just changed and everything aligned. She took the initiative and once her mind was changed it was done within two weeks.
I’ve often wondered if she holds back on detail. But I don't think so. It’s all so detailed and seems real that I doubt it. Of course, I’ll never know with any degree of certainty. But sex is so good that, frankly, I don’t care.
Enjoy the fantasy. It worked well for us for almost 20 years!
Her and I already know my skill areas and the ones that arent. So she doesnt have to scale back anything. One of the main points is for her to finally get to pull out all her skills she cant do with me bc I would cum too quick or am not big enough.
Its all good.
Its all good.
My wife lets go. She loves to make me feel inferior and humiliated. I love taking it from her.
At first I felt my wife held back a bit and sort of emulated what our sex was like. She did and still has a tendency to "perform" for me at times. It can be an acknowledgement, a wink, doing something she knows I would like to see etc. It isn't all the time but in instances where she knows I am choosing not to participate just to be able to watch, those times are usually when she performs. She had one on one sex with her boyfriend a few times before the three of us got together. When we did get together it was MFM for the next several meetings but at one point I decided I was going to just watch that time and I told her in advance I was doing so and to just do whatever she wanted to do. In comparison to where we are now, she was a bit reserved but she definitely was performing for me but also enjoying herself at the same time. I had to trim this down quite a bit as she is very oral and it went on for awhile but you get the idea.
Watching is a HUGE part of our fun. I watch our friend and her, he watches us and she likes us watching.
She likes to hold my hand or touch me. I don't recall how it started but she has told me she enjoys that intimacy with me even during a time I am not participating. What I enjoy most is kissing her while this is happening but not always about me,
This is all new and nothing has happened yet, not even a discussion but there is no way I would want to see my wife having sex with another man. I do not need that image burned in my mind forever. I don't know if we could have any intimacy (oral,vibrator, hand) if that were on my mind.
What you're describing is the reality. Until you witness it, everything, including your supposed preparedness, is just a theory.
I know for me I would have struggles with it. I've been trying to get my wife more interested in sex our entire marriage. I've been patient. I haven't pushed her. I've been aware of and sensitive about the things I can suggest that won't offend her principles. She does know the "idea" of her having sex with someone other than me is exciting to me. She understands but says it will never happen in real life.
If she changed her mind and tried it I'm not certain of my feelings now more than ever. It would be tough if I witnessed a younger, more skilled, better endowed lover change her mind about sex in one meeting while I've been trying for decades. All that effort I've put in to developing our sex life would feel like a wasted effort. I have no doubt that I would feel less significant and not desirable. If her world got rocked I'm certain that mine would too but for way different reasons.
All those fears and insecurities would crush me unless my wife anticipated those concerns and was proactive in addressing them. No one seems to acknowledge that the wife has the ability to easily bring out the heart of a ...... in her husband and she can just as easily crush that heart in an instant. Most likely, since everything is so new to the wife too, she doesn't have experience with the balancing of her experience and her husband's and mistakes are made easily with or without intention.
This is why my version (because it fits me specifically) of this lifestyle would be NOT to watch or be there. Maybe I could eventually. Never say never right? I would hope that she would always come home to me and her "new" excitement would carry over to our sex life.
Even if I was totally confident and comfortable my presence might cause her to hold back from really enjoying herself anyway. She may be afraid of letting me see her carried away. There's a lot to consider but considering is not enough, it needs to be discussed honestly in a non-sexual situation because when the problems arise you'll be dealing with them at non-sexual times.
Great take on things. Let me offer a couple thoughts that may or may not pertain. I believe the visual he will have in his head is worse than the reality. The mind can play a lot of tricks and paint a vivid picture of things that may not even be real. I am not advocating you have to be there every time or even for the entire act. In fact maybe let them get the first few initial meetings out of the way, but before you brain plays games with you-witness something, even if it is just foreplay. Witness your wife and new friend in a setting that you can be comfortable with. I think it eases your mind and likely theirs as well. You are going to see it either way, memory or brain fiction but when you lay down at night you are going to see it. This is why you need to be completely at ease with this before anyone unzips. Take your wife out, let her get dressed up and wander off for drinks, take unusually long. Men are dogs, somebody will make a move. Watch what happens and let that feeling resonate. It can help you think things over without bringing it up to her yet (or ever).
Anyone who gambles will tell you your brain and your heart are sometimes at odds with each other.
I understand I need to be OK with allowing it to happen but I don't think I could watch it happen. How do you allow it and also watch it? It seems that would just be too much to process. I don't think I could remain calm and might do or say something.
For me it was easier to see than imagine. Mind you my filthy fetish is watching so maybe a bit different but they had been together a few times before I was part of the meeting and in that time frame I imagined a LOT of things. I suggest you watch at least a couple of times. There will be things that are tough to watch, maybe in the moment not as much but you will reflect on them. She will lay back and welcome him into her, and that sounds she makes, you know the sound, she will make that sound a little louder if it has been sometime and a new lover. Be ready for that, the visual and that sound will be like the little angel and devil on both shoulders. At least it has been for me. What stimulates me also eats away at me at times. If you are ready for her to ...... with another guy you need to be ready emotionally for what it brings. Will she act different the next few days afterwards? Probably. Will it be sexual release or just a bit of guilt? Maybe both. You can't turn around and be critical of her for liking it. She could really like it and start wanting to go over to the weekly meeting early and stay later or even more than once a week. Can't fault her for it. You would do the same. Again, don't rush.
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