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[Catholic_Wife]

I'm with you! I don't want to imply what is good or bad. I'm trying my best to respectfully ask questions to understand things better. To make sense of things a person normally applies conventional wisdom. I've discovered there are many inconsistencies to conventional wisdom in the hot wife/cuckold world. The most glaring example is the wife is free to have sex with others and the husband is not. That's accepted here as the norm.

You are the third person (or couple) that has recently said their wife thinks it's only right and fair for her husband to seek out their own experience with other women. You and the two others stand out in stark contrast to very different trend. In light of what you said about the "fantasy driven" versions that never materialize, maybe that skews the norm here falsely in favor of the fantasy and not the reality.

I completely agree with you about the guys that actually do any of the extreme stuff. They do it because they want to. They have some kind of different self perception and set of personal experiences that lead them to the extremes. For whatever reason, they are more willing than tortured. I believe these extreme relationships are statistical outliers.

Did your wife come right out and say you should find another woman to have your own similar experience? It has to be an amazing point in a hot wife's life that she wants her husband to experience something similar to what she's enjoying. I would guess that it puts everything in balance and de-emphasizes control. How did your first time of being with a woman besides your wife go?

You nailed it. It seems the only prevalent narrative is in fact the outliers in reality. The skewness and not the gaussian.

Well, we (couple) came to a sort of agreement (I say just sort of because "agreement" might sound like a business term, and it was very afar from that).

Issue was that I travel a lot due work and our financial life depends on it. A situation to this day cannot be reversed. This created an unexpected vacuum in our sex life, and we soon ended up discovering that wife started dating other guys (cheating on me), and in equivalence I started dating "playful" girls whenever I was away.

It was a huge blow. We lost our ground for a while, but we didn't think about breaking up for real. Then we processed and concluded it wouldn't be feasible to live with such sex vacuum. Plus, I realize it didn't bother me if she has sex with other men, as long she made it crystal clear to me. Wife on the other hand said that she could allow me having sex with other women, but as long as I avoid romances, pregnancies or making it personal like revenge sex - that's what I called some sort of "agreement" because the risks still exist.

In practice, we both looked after other couples to go out, have same room sex and thereafter some swinging. Within time different men seek my wife to have sex with her while I was away, something that she craved the most. So, we navigated until find ourselves in a situation where she is now a wife shared with other men and I am a voyeur husband who extract pleasure watching, knowing, hearing and so.

But I still crave her pussy and she still craves my dick. Why we would waste away such desire?

What do I mean by our story here? Every single couple has its own trajectory but rarely it is like a dogfart productions script.

 

[Catholic_Wife]

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About the first times I had sex with different women after our "agreement", well, it was bland. Yes, bland.

Maybe because when I was single, I had my share of thrills while having affairs with married women. But then, suddenly I was experiencing the inverted perspective. I became the husband of a hot woman.

I didn't seek that much going out solo with different girls.

With the exception of swinging and swapping times when I had sex with other wives while other husbands had mine, those times were delightful,

I find myself more interested about dealing with my wife in her more liberated manner, naughty. Unlocked and more talkative about her sexuality. But it wasn't premeditated at all.