Questions about her past?

[Caldosch]

My wife has been reluctant to talk about her past. I've slowly got her to open up a bit and have found out some small details. Just like how many guys she's been with etc.
I'd like to know more but I'm struggling to think of questions to ask that won't scare her off answering, if that makes sense.
Any ideas of subtle questions that could be leading into others? Thanks.

 

[bull5]

My wife has been reluctant to talk about her past. I've slowly got her to open up a bit and have found out some small details. Just like how many guys she's been with etc.
I'd like to know more but I'm struggling to think of questions to ask that won't scare her off answering, if that makes sense.
Any ideas of subtle questions that could be leading into others? Thanks.

how many guys has she been with
did you ask if she thinks you got a small cock

 

[Caldosch]

She's slept with 3 and fooled around with another 3. That's about as much info as I have so far.
She actually says my cock is the perfect size and that she can't remember the others cock sizes. I'm not sure I believe that but it was 18years ago too.

 

[bull5]

She's slept with 3 and fooled around with another 3. That's about as much info as I have so far.
She actually says my cock is the perfect size and that she can't remember the others cock sizes. I'm not sure I believe that but it was 18years ago too.

does she know that you have a cuckold fetish and how does she feel about it

 

[Caldosch]

Yeah she does. She doesn't say much about it but she's happy to role-play it with me.

 

[Catholic_Wife]

My wife has been reluctant to talk about her past. I've slowly got her to open up a bit and have found out some small details. Just like how many guys she's been with etc.
I'd like to know more but I'm struggling to think of questions to ask that won't scare her off answering, if that makes sense.
Any ideas of subtle questions that could be leading into others? Thanks.

If your wife is ok or happy about you asking those questions and rplaying a bit, so that is a good sign.

Just take it slow and gradually.

Make use of the opportunities, whenever she shows herself more talkative or sexual with you. And avoid bringing the rp and the questions up when she is not that much in the mood. To keep it simple is just better.

 

[babyun]

My wife has been reluctant to talk about her past. I've slowly got her to open up a bit and have found out some small details. Just like how many guys she's been with etc.
I'd like to know more but I'm struggling to think of questions to ask that won't scare her off answering, if that makes sense.
Any ideas of subtle questions that could be leading into others? Thanks.

you should only worry about the present do not worry about her past just the present.

 

[Caldosch]

If your wife is ok or happy about you asking those questions and rplaying a bit, so that is a good sign.

Just take it slow and gradually.

Make use of the opportunities, whenever she shows herself more talkative or sexual with you. And avoid bringing the rp and the questions up when she is not that much in the mood. To keep it simple is just better.

Yeah I've finally worked out it's all about the timing. During a session yesterday she brought up me watching her with another cock which is something she doesn't normally do. It's usually me that brings it up.
Thanks for your advice.

 

[Loridan]

Wife won't talk much about her past. We've been married 25+ years. We're late 50s.
5 years ago we-she did the deed with a guy we know while I watched. We'd been drin.king, it just happened, whole thing took maybe 4 minutes. He left right after. I was like what just happened? She cried and apologized over and over. We talked about it and agreed it wouldn't happen again.
About 6 months later same deal, same friend. Same outcome. I knew she was into it but was afraid admit it.
It's become a semi regular thing for us. Pretty steady for almost 2 years now.
Her past...when we were on our third date(we'd had sex once on 2nd date), we were out drin.king. I knew she'd be coming home with me. We were chatting and learning about each other. Conversation turned to sex. I had no idea of her past at all. She asked me where the unusual place I'd had sex, in a car I told her. She said in a closet where she worked once. All good.
I'm feeling big and bold, I asked if she'd ever had sex with two different guys on same day. Answer...yes. I'm thinking whoa... I asked for details.
She tells me it was with her then boyfriend and his roommate. I thinking a hookup with roommate during the day? Then boyfriend that night? She tells me it was a threesome. I was blown away and not happy about what I was hearing.
Apparently she stayed over with boyfriend and roommate joined in. I asked how many times....a few. I was completely caught off guard.
She will not talk about it to this day. The way she enjoys fun with our friend I'd bet she was really into it.

 

[Ht805cpl]

Sometimes my man asked about my past, usually when we are really turned on or we’ve had some great sex and I’m still glowing, I’ve shared many things of my past, as I seen it turned him on, my past was a wild one and included many men, as is his as to women, but he still enjoys talking about my past, and I will also ask about his, especially women I don’t know when we run into them, but for us sharing our past has only enhanced our sex life, but it has been revealed a little at a time over a long period of time. Be patient and not pushy, perhaps she may be reluctant to revile some things as she is worried as to how you will feel towards her. Slow and steady always wins the race!

 

[Seapride]

She's slept with 3 and fooled around with another 3. That's about as much info as I have so far.
She actually says my cock is the perfect size and that she can't remember the others cock sizes. I'm not sure I believe that but it was 18years ago too.

Sounds like my wife’s story. She says she can’t remember too. They remember, don’t care if it was long ago. Esp if she only has been with a few. Get her a little tipsy or a lot, then ask again. You will get different answers if she is like mine. I have fun dragging it out of her. She is uncomfortable talking about it but it’s getting easier.

 

[Man&wife4fun]

Why is it such a turn on to hear our wives tell us about their sexual experiences and want to hear about all of the details and how turned on she was and everything?
It's one of the hottest things to hear my wife just start telling me about things that she's done. Sometimes she'll just be in a certain mood and start telling me what kind of guys turn her on or what she liked about the porno we watched.

I get so turned on by hearing my wife tell me about some guy in a porno that turned her on and what she likes to look at. There's a story that goes along with my wife and I watching pornos but it's a longer story so I won't put that here.
But I bet every man resding this would get turned on hearing their wife talk about what turns her on that she's done or has seen in a porno and what parts on a man she likes to look at and what guys she likes etc. There's just something about hearing and knowing she gets turned on by other men and seeing the way she looks at guys in a porno.
One time my wife and I were at a restaurant and she was watching the TV above the bar just staring at it and had this look. Then I noticed men's water polo was on and she was checking out all of those muscular guys in a pool It was like they had a BLACKED porn on or something the way she was staring at them. For some strange reason she really likes watching the movie 300 but I can't figure that one out??? Lol yeah right.

 

[Spice]

Why is it such a turn on to hear our wives tell us about their sexual experiences and want to hear about all of the details and how turned on she was and everything?
It's one of the hottest things to hear my wife just start telling me about things that she's done. Sometimes she'll just be in a certain mood and start telling me what kind of guys turn her on or what she liked about the porno we watched.

I get so turned on by hearing my wife tell me about some guy in a porno that turned her on and what she likes to look at. There's a story that goes along with my wife and I watching pornos but it's a longer story so I won't put that here.
But I bet every man resding this would get turned on hearing their wife talk about what turns her on that she's done or has seen in a porno and what parts on a man she likes to look at and what guys she likes etc. There's just something about hearing and knowing she gets turned on by other men and seeing the way she looks at guys in a porno.
One time my wife and I were at a restaurant and she was watching the TV above the bar just staring at it and had this look. Then I noticed men's water polo was on and she was checking out all of those muscular guys in a pool It was like they had a BLACKED porn on or something the way she was staring at them. For some strange reason she really likes watching the movie 300 but I can't figure that one out??? Lol yeah right.

I know what you mean I get so turned on when my wife talks about her past, I know she's been with several guys since she was 17 and a few after we got married, she's given me some details and depends on her mood she'll go into further details, it's always hot to hear about the guys she's been and how the sex was, my wife is not picky when it comes to guys or their size as long as she enjoys the sex.

 

[SCBlknNsty]

My wife has been reluctant to talk about her past. I've slowly got her to open up a bit and have found out some small details. Just like how many guys she's been with etc.
I'd like to know more but I'm struggling to think of questions to ask that won't scare her off answering, if that makes sense.
Any ideas of subtle questions that could be leading into others? Thanks

Not saying you specifically, but too many men ask at the wrong time or in a way women sense as leading to judgement. @Loridan said his lady talked and he wasn't happy what he was hearing.... she learned right there to say no more. The best way is actually to tell her you understand why she, and women in general, won't talk about it with men. Then tell her why you're curious-to grow closer to understanding her sexuality, to share the enjoyment of reliving the experience with her, to be thrilled by her bad ass self.

This is why women go to the ladies' room with gf, to talk about things they don't want their men to hear.

 

[Spice]

Not saying you specifically, but too many men ask at the wrong time or in a way women sense as leading to judgement. @Loridan said his lady talked and he wasn't happy what he was hearing.... she learned right there to say no more. The best way is actually to tell her you understand why she, and women in general, won't talk about it with men. Then tell her why you're curious-to grow closer to understanding her sexuality, to share the enjoyment of reliving the experience with her, to be thrilled by her bad ass self.

This is why women go to the ladies' room with gf, to talk about things they don't want their men to hear.

This is true in some situations, women are usually reluctant to talk about their past fearing they'll be judged because of what they did, who they did it with or how many were there, others are reluctant fearing their spouse will compare them to their past women, most women like being the center of attention when it comes to their husbands.

 

[Ht805cpl]

This is true in some situations, women are usually reluctant to talk about their past fearing they'll be judged because of what they did, who they did it with or how many were there, others are reluctant fearing their spouse will compare them to their past women, most women like being the center of attention when it comes to their husbands.

I understand this is a post from a man about men’s judgement, but as a woman I find it interesting so many men seem to know what or why women think about this. Just a couple comments, first I think there is a double standard, in that women are not allowed to have a past or talk about it but men are, although most men’s past are somewhat limited, second why is someone’s past so interesting if not for the sake of judging, why not be happy to have a great relationship now and not in the past. I know we all go through different phases in our relationships as we grow together, but if two people have a strong relationship the past should not matter, but when asked sharing the past should not be intimidating assuming you are secure in your relationship. Perhaps I am very fortunate to have a wonderful loving husband, with whom I share a strong trust with, so sharing my past or hearing his causes no ill feeling but aids in enhancing our current relationship and aids in building or enhancing our sexual relations. Perhaps why when he brought up the concept or idea of swapping or swinging, I was open, and together we have both grown closer together through our open sharing of each other with other people.
Please don’t take me wrong I’m not judging or being critical just expressing my spin on the topic.
Thank you all for all your input and ideas of how it works. 💋💋💋

 

[Carl Knoxville]

My wife got fucked twice the first time she got her cherry popped the second was same guy at around 2am at a hotel where he came on her busty tits the third time she was about to start dating me, so she gave him a last handjob

 

[skoocum]

Why is it such a turn on to hear our wives tell us about their sexual experiences and want to hear about all of the details and how turned on she was and everything?
It's one of the hottest things to hear my wife just start telling me about things that she's done. Sometimes she'll just be in a certain mood and start telling me what kind of guys turn her on or what she liked about the porno we watched.

I get so turned on by hearing my wife tell me about some guy in a porno that turned her on and what she likes to look at. There's a story that goes along with my wife and I watching pornos but it's a longer story so I won't put that here.
But I bet every man resding this would get turned on hearing their wife talk about what turns her on that she's done or has seen in a porno and what parts on a man she likes to look at and what guys she likes etc. There's just something about hearing and knowing she gets turned on by other men and seeing the way she looks at guys in a porno.
One time my wife and I were at a restaurant and she was watching the TV above the bar just staring at it and had this look. Then I noticed men's water polo was on and she was checking out all of those muscular guys in a pool It was like they had a BLACKED porn on or something the way she was staring at them. For some strange reason she really likes watching the movie 300 but I can't figure that one out??? Lol yeah right.

have you ever been out with your wife and you run into one of her customers?

 

[Carl Knoxville]

have you ever been out with your wife and you run into one of her customers?

I have twice..... It gets me jealous and rockhard, and I felt like telling him come here and f*** her again in front of me

 

[skoocum]

I have twice..... It gets me jealous and rockhard, and I felt like telling him come here and f*** her again in front of me

wow. what a amazing experience! did she point him out to you? it would've been fun if he came over to say hello and you both invite him to join you. i picture you in a bar with your wife when it happened