I understand this is a post from a man about men’s judgement, but as a woman I find it interesting so many men seem to know what or why women think about this. Just a couple comments, first I think there is a double standard, in that women are not allowed to have a past or talk about it but men are, although most men’s past are somewhat limited, second why is someone’s past so interesting if not for the sake of judging, why not be happy to have a great relationship now and not in the past. I know we all go through different phases in our relationships as we grow together, but if two people have a strong relationship the past should not matter, but when asked sharing the past should not be intimidating assuming you are secure in your relationship. Perhaps I am very fortunate to have a wonderful loving husband, with whom I share a strong trust with, so sharing my past or hearing his causes no ill feeling but aids in enhancing our current relationship and aids in building or enhancing our sexual relations. Perhaps why when he brought up the concept or idea of swapping or swinging, I was open, and together we have both grown closer together through our open sharing of each other with other people.
Please don’t take me wrong I’m not judging or being critical just expressing my spin on the topic.
Thank you all for all your input and ideas of how it works. 💋💋💋
