Wife wants to fuck someone else, need advice

[Maxxmanasia]

Let her fuck dude but, you choose the guy! Haha

 

[Stedal01]

I’ve been quiet after the last few posts since it seemed not everyone wanted to hear about my angst. The angst is off the chart when your wife tells you she wants to fuck other guys and she’s going to Florida to fuck a friend for 5 days in June. I’m still struggling with it and we have had a couple deeper discussions. My biggest concern is what happens between the animalistic fuck sessions. Will they lay in each other’s arms caressing each other? Will she put her feet in his lap for a foot rub? Will he put his arm around her when they are sitting at the bar? Will they hold hands walking to the car. I’ve tried to talk to her about an possible intimate relationship forming between the two of them and she was able to dissuade but they always come back. Five days is a long time. I don’t think two people who love to fuck each other cannot form a deeper bond when they have 5 days together. They have never been together more than a few hours. Fuck it though. I’m sick of worrying about this ....... It’s either going to be the best thing for our marriage or the end of it. I’m hoping for the former. Either way, at least it will lead to something. I agree with her that our marriage couldn’t continue like it was. Something had to give. She took the bull by the horns and tried to do something to improve our sex life. I’m definitely intrigued and hopeful.

 

[Samsh]

I’ve been quiet after the last few posts since it seemed not everyone wanted to hear about my angst. The angst is off the chart when your wife tells you she wants to fuck other guys and she’s going to Florida to fuck a friend for 5 days in June. I’m still struggling with it and we have had a couple deeper discussions. My biggest concern is what happens between the animalistic fuck sessions. Will they lay in each other’s arms caressing each other? Will she put her feet in his lap for a foot rub? Will he put his arm around her when they are sitting at the bar? Will they hold hands walking to the car. I’ve tried to talk to her about an possible intimate relationship forming between the two of them and she was able to dissuade but they always come back. Five days is a long time. I don’t think two people who love to fuck each other cannot form a deeper bond when they have 5 days together. They have never been together more than a few hours. Fuck it though. I’m sick of worrying about this ....... It’s either going to be the best thing for our marriage or the end of it. I’m hoping for the former. Either way, at least it will lead to something. I agree with her that our marriage couldn’t continue like it was. Something had to give. She took the bull by the horns and tried to do something to improve our sex life. I’m definitely intrigued and hopeful.

No dude. She did something to improve her sex life......

 

[2wheel]

I’ve been quiet after the last few posts since it seemed not everyone wanted to hear about my angst. The angst is off the chart when your wife tells you she wants to fuck other guys and she’s going to Florida to fuck a friend for 5 days in June. I’m still struggling with it and we have had a couple deeper discussions. My biggest concern is what happens between the animalistic fuck sessions. Will they lay in each other’s arms caressing each other? Will she put her feet in his lap for a foot rub? Will he put his arm around her when they are sitting at the bar? Will they hold hands walking to the car. I’ve tried to talk to her about an possible intimate relationship forming between the two of them and she was able to dissuade but they always come back. Five days is a long time. I don’t think two people who love to fuck each other cannot form a deeper bond when they have 5 days together. They have never been together more than a few hours. Fuck it though. I’m sick of worrying about this ....... It’s either going to be the best thing for our marriage or the end of it. I’m hoping for the former. Either way, at least it will lead to something. I agree with her that our marriage couldn’t continue like it was. Something had to give. She took the bull by the horns and tried to do something to improve our sex life. I’m definitely intrigued and hopeful.

Just because people don't respond doesn't mean they're not interested. Voyeurs in sex and voyeurs in reading.

 

[Stedal01]

Absolutely Samsh, that’s a given but this better lead to improved and more frequent sex for us or it will be over as quickly as it started. I’m prepared to deal with the ramifications my decision to end it may have on our marriage. Don't get me wrong, part of me enjoys the kink of being the submissive cuck who’s wife denies sex or only gets turned on by her bf but that’s not what I want. This cuckold needs sex.

 

[Stedal01]

Just an update if anyone is still following this. My wife canceled the trip to Florida in June due to family issues I won’t get into. She is probably going to fuck him in sometime in July and August when he comes up. She won’t be going there for the time being. I’m both disappointed and relieved, but mostly relieved. For the moment I don’t have to worry about her spending 5 days with this guy.

 

[Mpree]

To me its about getting a big cock head deep inside my wet pussy, lol

Cathy i got BIG COCK...

 

[Stedal01]

I promised to update you folks on here so here it is. My wife’s fuck buddy came up to our state on Fourth of July weekend to see his family but was unable to make time to see my wife. Needless to say she was very disappointed. After that she created an online account on a swingers site and she soon had guys lined up wanted to fuck her. She found one she liked that lives 20 minutes away. They went out on their first date on July 16th.

They hit it it off and they got a hotel a few nights later and fucked. So I’m officially a cuckold now. She called me after was all said and done and told me to come to the hotel right away so I jumped in the car and obeyed. When I got there she opened the door and was naked. He was gone. After she let me into the room, she walked to the bed, laid down and opened her legs revealing a glistening vagina. She said “He fucked me three times and I made a decision to not make him wear a condom. So I now have three loads in me. I’m going to need you to clean them out and if you do a good enough job I’ll let you fuck me”.

Well I went to work right away and cleaned the other mans cum from her pussy lips and got any that dripped down to her asshole before probing deep inside her pussy and getting as much as I could. When she was convinced I did a good enough job, I fucked her hard and put my load in her.

Afterwards we laid on the bed and she described how hard he fucked her and other details of the night. She showed me three videos she took of them fucking and one she took of me fingering her before I fucked her. When I asked her if she took those for me, she gave me a devious smirk and said no. I was confused but let it go at the time. We both went home and I asked her about the videos and she said she sent them to her boyfriend who lives in Florida, the one that blew her off last time he was in town. She said she was texting him during the day leading up to them meeting up at the hotel, saying she was nervous to fuck this new guy. He was giving her pep talks evidently and helping her through it. She said she filled him in on what went down after they fucked and sent him the videos of them fucking and is as well.

I was immediately irritated by this news. We have had several arguments about it afterwards and it still is not settled. My main issue is that her first time with boyfriend #2 (the other dude will always be her #1) seemed to be more about her and boyfriend #1 than her and me. It feels like I’m being double cucked: first cuck is her fucking boyfriend #2 and the second cuck is me having to share the recap and her excitement befor during and after with boyfriend 1.

We fought about it a few times and she said he is her confidant, someone she can talk to about this, she has no one else she can talk to about it. I get that but he got to enjoy that experience almost as much as I did.

When we argued about it a few days later she asked me if I want her to stop sharing with bf#1 and I said yes. Then I relented and said she can’t tell him about her escapades with bf#2 until the next day.

I’m torn, do you see an issue with this or is it just me?

 

[Hwcouple702]

I promised to update you folks on here so here it is. My wife’s fuck buddy came up to our state on Fourth of July weekend to see his family but was unable to make time to see my wife. Needless to say she was very disappointed. After that she created an online account on a swingers site and she soon had guys lined up wanted to fuck her. She found one she liked that lives 20 minutes away. They went out on their first date on July 16th.

They hit it it off and they got a hotel a few nights later and fucked. So I’m officially a cuckold now. She called me after was all said and done and told me to come to the hotel right away so I jumped in the car and obeyed. When I got there she opened the door and was naked. He was gone. After she let me into the room, she walked to the bed, laid down and opened her legs revealing a glistening vagina. She said “He fucked me three times and I made a decision to not make him wear a condom. So I now have three loads in me. I’m going to need you to clean them out and if you do a good enough job I’ll let you fuck me”.

Well I went to work right away and cleaned the other mans cum from her pussy lips and got any that dripped down to her asshole before probing deep inside her pussy and getting as much as I could. When she was convinced I did a good enough job, I fucked her hard and put my load in her.

Afterwards we laid on the bed and she described how hard he fucked her and other details of the night. She showed me three videos she took of them fucking and one she took of me fingering her before I fucked her. When I asked her if she took those for me, she gave me a devious smirk and said no. I was confused but let it go at the time. We both went home and I asked her about the videos and she said she sent them to her boyfriend who lives in Florida, the one that blew her off last time he was in town. She said she was texting him during the day leading up to them meeting up at the hotel, saying she was nervous to fuck this new guy. He was giving her pep talks evidently and helping her through it. She said she filled him in on what went down after they fucked and sent him the videos of them fucking and is as well.

I was immediately irritated by this news. We have had several arguments about it afterwards and it still is not settled. My main issue is that her first time with boyfriend #2 (the other dude will always be her #1) seemed to be more about her and boyfriend #1 than her and me. It feels like I’m being double cucked: first cuck is her fucking boyfriend #2 and the second cuck is me having to share the recap and her excitement befor during and after with boyfriend 1.

We fought about it a few times and she said he is her confidant, someone she can talk to about this, she has no one else she can talk to about it. I get that but he got to enjoy that experience almost as much as I did.

When we argued about it a few days later she asked me if I want her to stop sharing with bf#1 and I said yes. Then I relented and said she can’t tell him about her escapades with bf#2 until the next day.

I’m torn, do you see an issue with this or is it just me?

Leave her alone, she's a hotwife now and soon she'll be a slut and advance to slutwife. She's going to do what she wants anyway now. Why all of the rules? Just let her enjoy her sex life now with her friends. You get to enjoy her hotwifing so you get yours. She's no longer "yours", she's shared. Her sex life with others is just that, her sex life with others. It's hers to do as she pleases. Sure, she might tell you what you want to hear about all of this but she's going to do whatever she wants to do now and she IS NOT going to stop. You wanted this and you got it, but it's going to be on HER terms.

Mrs Hotwife

Mrs Hotwife

 

[Lynnandhubby]

I can't really see your problem. She confided in someone she felt she could talk to and that gave her the confidence to do what YOU wanted her to do which is fuck another guy. So it's natural that she shared that with the guy that helped her.
And then after doing what you wanted her to do as much as she did, you give her a hard time because she fed that back to the guy who had supported her.
Ask yourself why she felt more able to talk this through with someone else rather than you and stop beating her up about it!

 

[Stedal01]

Thanks for your input here. I am better with it now. One thing I want to point out though is that this is not what I wanted. She proposed the cuckold lifestyle to me because she is a very sexual woman who was wild before I met her and She wants to get back to that lifestyle. Me as the loving husband can’t give her the wild sex she with other men that she craves. Sex is her ....... She can only get her fix with other men.

I reluctantly agreed to do this for her and our marriage. I did have a secret cuckold fantasy but she didn’t know about that. And no, she didn’t check my browser history for cuckold porn or websites. In light of this, I believe she should have some patience and show me extra care as we start this because she’s jumping right into the deep end before we know how to swim.

 

[Sgt Ray]

Hello, I’m looking for some advice. Sorry if this is a little long winded but believe me, I left quite a bit out to shorten it up.

So about a week ago, my wife told me that we have to talk about something important. I got that nervous pit in my stomach and we sat down to discuss. She told me me that she has been unhappy lately in our marriage and she knows I’ve been unhappy too with the current state of affairs and our sex life. She accepted guilt for this and said “I need to start doing things for myself to make me happy and improve us”. She mentioned how she started a diet a few months ago and has lost weight and as a result she has been feeling more confident and sexual. Some background, prior to this we were in a rut and I hadn’t noticed an increased sexual appetite from her. In fact prior to this discussion we hadn’t had sex in 3 weeks. The times we did have sex, it seemed like more of a chore for her than pleasure. Sex was obligatory to her. She then proceeded and asked me how I would feel about giving her a hall pass for her to take a trip to Florida in June for 4 days and get a hotel with a guy she had sex with previously when we were in an open relationship back about 4 years ago. To give you some background, we have been married for three years and we were a little wild before then. The open relationship lasted for about 6 months and stopped at her request before we got married. The open relationship was her idea, she is naturally very sexual and had experience with the swinger lifestyle prior to meeting me, that world was completely new to me prior to meeting her.

Moving on with the conversation that night, I asked her “so you want to go back to having an open relationship” and she responded “well no, this would be for me only”. As you can imagine, I was completely floored. Within a split second I was flooded with a tidal wave of emotions that crested over me. I was speechless for a several minutes. The range of emotions I was feeling were fear, excitement, extreme sexual desire, anger, resentment, extreme sexual desire, sadness, self loathing, and did I mention extreme sexual desire? As you might have guessed, I was secretly very interested in cuckolding as my porn search history would tell you.

Well I tried to hide my emotions and I asked her if this would be a one time thing and she responded that she plans to fuck this guy “once or twice a year” and in the same breath said this would very much benefit me as well. I told her I didn’t understand why she should be allowed to do this but I can’t fuck other women, I think I said that to hide my secret desire to be a cuckold. She replied “it would be different for you because you still have the desire to fuck all the time”. She then confessed that she doesn’t have that same desire to fuck all the time and this would increase her sexual desire with me. Then she looked over and saw my cock was hard and I was touching myself so she knew she had me right then and there. She proceeded to hop on top of me and we had incredible sex. It was the most passionate sex we’ve had since the open relationship. So right then and there I knew this was going to happen but I didn’t give her my decision right away, I wanted to drag it out and enjoy this for a few more days. I knew she was playing me and I took full advantage of that.

We continued to have great sex for two days, more than we had in the previous 3 months combined. We had sex 3 times in less than 24 hours after that conversation, twice that night. After the 3rd day I felt bad for dragging this out and I told her I would allow this under one condition. In order for me to get the most out of this arrangement I needed her to be in complete control. I didn’t want a hotwife arrangement, the cuckold fantasy is much more appealing to me. I told her that I would no longer have a say in what she does. She needed to be driving the car and making the decisions on what she can and cannot do, and also what I am allowed to do and not do as well. I also told her that she has the proverbial keys to our marriage and warned her that by having this complete control, she will responsible for the fate of our marriage and whats to come of it if this turns out badly. Basically with great power comes great responsibility. I was surprised that she accepted this so readily, almost without thought. Needless to say, she was very happy I “allowed” this even though I thought to myself that I have no other choice. It’s either this or divorce. We both had failed first marriages so I don’t want to see this one end in a divorce.

So my only reservations with this is the fact that the guy she is going down there to fuck has money and made reservations for 4 days at a 5 star hotel. I looked up the rates and they are $450 a night! I can only imagine what’s gonna go down in appreciation for this. I pay ...... support for two kids to my ex wife every month and don’t have expendable money like that to throw around. I’m a wreck thinking about her staying at this stupid nice hotel with this guy for four days on a romantic weekend getting fucked and sucking his cock every which way till Sunday. She is getting a Brazilian wax on her pussy for him. She’s never done that before, this is her first time. She said I would enjoy it as well. Typical cuckold angst, good feelings mixed with bad. The whole “she might leave me for him” concerns filter through no matter how much I try to tell myself that would never happen. This guy also has family in our state and comes up from Florida about once a month so I’m imagining that she will take full advantage of his visits when he is in town. How much she actually tells me about will be interesting to see. But that comes with the territory I guess with this lifestyle so I will have to learn to cope with my emotions.

I think I’m ready for what’s to come and I’m excited to give this a try but I’m hung up on the circumstances leading up to this. The lack of sexual desire towards me prior to this arrangement and the fact that she said she’s doing this to benefit us concerns me. From everything I have read, couples should only embark on this journey if their relationship and sex life is healthy prior to doing this. It should not be a fix for a relationship. I keep thinking about her main argument for doing this, having sex with this other guy she will lead to her being more sexual towards me and we will have more and better sex as a result. I want to believe it, I really do, but I’m having trouble believing it. What I truly think will happen is that it will be hot in the weeks leading up to her leaving and the weeks after but it will soon fizzle out and we will go back to the unsatisfying sex we have been having previously. She will need to fuck this other guy more and more often to make her happy. He will become her source of happiness and sexual gratification and crave that more and more. I will become less and less important once I will eventually become adjusted and less emotionally attached to the situation so she doesn’t won’t have to worry about making me happy anymore, before or after the act.

I’m also having trouble processing the fact that her maiden voyage in this new arrangement is a 4 day romantic weekend at a 5 star hotel The kicker is that they were making arrangements to do this prior to her discussing this with me. In fact, they even had the hotel picked out and reserved a room. She first said she was going to Florida as a personal time out and escape to find herself type of trip, kind of a Stella got her grove back vacation. I found out their plans because she let me read their texts (after I asked and she consented). The texts only went back a week before we had the discussion, she deleted everything previous to that so I don’t know how long they have been texting and sexting each other about this while I was in the dark. I’m irritated by that but I have fantasized about being a cuckold for the past few years and this is my one and only shot I’ll ever have to realize it. I want this but at the same time it’s hard for me to rationalize and mitigate my concerns about the circumstances leading up to this and her doing this behind my back. After she let me read her texts she said she wouldn’t have done anything without telling me and I want to believe her but the fact that she was in communication with him for god knows how long, making plans for the weekend and saying she can’t wait to see him with a kissy emoji taints my trust. I of course have the thoughts that she will eventually leave me for him but I realize that comes with the cuckold territory and time and trust will most likely build my confidence that this won’t happen, hopefully.

Cuckolding is a true dichotomy of feelings and emotions. The thought of her talking to this guy and making plans behind my back incenses me but at the same time it turns me on. Her using her pussy to get what she wanted from me that night and the following days bothers me as well but also turns me on. In a way, this is the ultimate cuckold situation though. There’s no pretending she has the power, she really does have it. I didn’t have to talk to her about this secret desire I had, and try to convince her, she brought it to me. I honestly don’t know how this will end out but I’m willing to put my concerns aside, try to be the best cuckold I can be and let the chips fall where they may. Any advice for this newbie?

Jesez, ur a CUCKOLD! Its what you want AND how she views you! Resign yourself to that. She gonna fucks guys whenever she wants to to. Ur gonna be the clean-up cuck.
She may have enough distain for you that she'll make you clean his cock.
Thats ur future. Get ready to deal with it or move the fuck on!

 

[Sgt Ray]

I’ve been quiet after the last few posts since it seemed not everyone wanted to hear about my angst. The angst is off the chart when your wife tells you she wants to fuck other guys and she’s going to Florida to fuck a friend for 5 days in June. I’m still struggling with it and we have had a couple deeper discussions. My biggest concern is what happens between the animalistic fuck sessions. Will they lay in each other’s arms caressing each other? Will she put her feet in his lap for a foot rub? Will he put his arm around her when they are sitting at the bar? Will they hold hands walking to the car. I’ve tried to talk to her about an possible intimate relationship forming between the two of them and she was able to dissuade but they always come back. Five days is a long time. I don’t think two people who love to fuck each other cannot form a deeper bond when they have 5 days together. They have never been together more than a few hours. Fuck it though. I’m sick of worrying about this ....... It’s either going to be the best thing for our marriage or the end of it. I’m hoping for the former. Either way, at least it will lead to something. I agree with her that our marriage couldn’t continue like it was. Something had to give. She took the bull by the horns and tried to do something to improve our sex life. I’m definitely intrigued and hopeful.

Come on, man, face tge reality: she's done with you. It ONLY gets worse from here!
Move the fuck on!

 

[Lynnandhubby]

Thanks for your input here. I am better with it now. One thing I want to point out though is that this is not what I wanted. She proposed the cuckold lifestyle to me because she is a very sexual woman who was wild before I met her and She wants to get back to that lifestyle. Me as the loving husband can’t give her the wild sex she with other men that she craves. Sex is her ....... She can only get her fix with other men.

I reluctantly agreed to do this for her and our marriage. I did have a secret cuckold fantasy but she didn’t know about that. And no, she didn’t check my browser history for cuckold porn or websites. In light of this, I believe she should have some patience and show me extra care as we start this because she’s jumping right into the deep end before we know how to swim.

Well look at it from her point of view - it might seem to be jumping in at the deep end to you but to her it's just getting back to how things were for her before you. So she may not have even seen it as such a big step where as for you it's been a huge leap so I can understand it's taking some getting used to.
So it was her that proposed this in the first place. Well that's good - she wanted you on board and wanted your permission because she loves you. Lots of women would just have cheated so as not to rock the matrimonial boat but she didn't do that so give her the credit for that.
But now you've given her permission don't rub it in her face or try to impose rules around how she can excercise that freedom or she will resent you for it.
Let her have her fun and be the loving husband she comes home - that way you get to share in her adventure and all the excitement too. The more freedom she has, the more she will trust that you are really on board with this and the more openly she will share it with you.
I know it must feel like being on a roller coaster but now she's started down this road there only really two ways this can go. 1. Be onboard with her and share in the fun having a hot wife can bring. 2. End up resenting each other because you are both pulling in directions.
I do genuinely wish you both well and hope this works out for you.
Lynn x

 

[Sgt Ray]

Well look at it from her point of view - it might seem to be jumping in at the deep end to you but to her it's just getting back to how things were for her before you. So she may not have even seen it as such a big step where as for you it's been a huge leap so I can understand it's taking some getting used to.
So it was her that proposed this in the first place. Well that's good - she wanted you on board and wanted your permission because she loves you. Lots of women would just have cheated so as not to rock the matrimonial boat but she didn't do that so give her the credit for that.
But now you've given her permission don't rub it in her face or try to impose rules around how she can excercise that freedom or she will resent you for it.
Let her have her fun and be the loving husband she comes home - that way you get to share in her adventure and all the excitement too. The more freedom she has, the more she will trust that you are really on board with this and the more openly she will share it with you.
I know it must feel like being on a roller coaster but now she's started down this road there only really two ways this can go. 1. Be onboard with her and share in the fun having a hot wife can bring. 2. End up resenting each other because you are both pulling in directions.
I do genuinely wish you both well and hope this works out for you.
Lynn x

Well said & practiced. I wonder, Lynn, how long it will be before she starts putting him in sexy little panties & bra? Makeup, lipstain?
And we know a strap-on dildo for fucking his cuckold ass/pussy can't be far off.
Oh, such fun! (Maybe she'll use her lovers cum as Lube on the dildo, ha ha)

 

[Stedal01]

I get it. This is my life now and I must let her do what she wants whenever she wants. She a true sexual being who needs cocks, multiple. She texts her boyfriends 30-40 times a day on average, sending sexy pics and dirty texts all day. She wants me to join her and her two boyfriends in a four way. She has a date next Wednesday with one of her bf’s and she wants him to tie her up. That’s my slut wife. That’s who I married. I knew she was like this before but thought she got that all out of her system. But no, she’s still a slut who just wants as much cock as she can get.

She asked me yesterday if I wanted to end it and I told her that I don’t have a choice and I must let her continue or else face the consequences of an unhappy unsatisfied wife. I just have to learn to deal with it. It consumes every part of my soul, I think about it constantly. I see the qty of texts that go back and forth between the two every day, I check the text log 15 times a day at least to see the level of activity. When I look and see all the texts, it feels like a stab in the heart. I can’t stop myself from looking though. I hope it gets easier because this is my new life.

 

[Lynnandhubby]

I get it. This is my life now and I must let her do what she wants whenever she wants. She a true sexual being who needs cocks, multiple. She texts her boyfriends 30-40 times a day on average, sending sexy pics and dirty texts all day. She wants me to join her and her two boyfriends in a four way. She has a date next Wednesday with one of her bf’s and she wants him to tie her up. That’s my slut wife. That’s who I married. I knew she was like this before but thought she got that all out of her system. But no, she’s still a slut who just wants as much cock as she can get.

She asked me yesterday if I wanted to end it and I told her that I don’t have a choice and I must let her continue or else face the consequences of an unhappy unsatisfied wife. I just have to learn to deal with it. It consumes every part of my soul, I think about it constantly. I see the qty of texts that go back and forth between the two every day, I check the text log 15 times a day at least to see the level of activity. When I look and see all the texts, it feels like a stab in the heart. I can’t stop myself from looking though. I hope it gets easier because this is my new life.

Ah well I think you have hit the nail on the head there.
You married a slut and you thought that married life would change her but it's not something that you can turn on and off at will if it's in your nature.
I know - I tried! I married my first husband young, I was only 20 and I really tried to be faithful. And I managed for all of 3 years - the most miserable years of my life apart from the gift of a baby girl. And when I couldn't stand the monotony any longer, I cheated and I don't mean the odd fuck here and there. I cheated every chance I got, for years because I had a husband who wasn't prepared to talk about anything sexual.
Your wife IS trying to talk to you and involve you because she loves you and wants you to be involved. It's up to you whether you make the most of that or not. It can be a lot of fun being married to a slut - ask my current hubby of 21 years!
You knew she was a slut when you married her, she's always going to be a slut. You can either celebrate that and make it a part of your relationship or you can let her go. I know that's a tough choice but the worst possible outcome is that you paper over the cracks on the surface while underneath the resentment builds and you end up tearing each other to pieces.
But just know that it can work out. I got lucky the second time around and married a wonderful man who not only accepted me as I am but also enjoys me as I am. We have a very close and loving relationship and the fact that I fuck other guys is only a part of our relationship, an exciting part for both of us to be sure but by no means the entirety of our relationship.
So I guess the ball is in your court. Obviously you expected that your marriage was going to be very different to how it is working out. Only you know if that is something you can accept and get fully onboard with. I can't remember who said it but there's a famous quote "you can't change another person, the only person you can change is yourself".

 

[Stedal01]

Regarding the texting, my issue is that she has been texting him excessively and downplaying it instead of engaging me about it and telling me how much they have been texting. She was trying to hide it rather then bringing me into the fun. I’ve told her numerous times before not to hold back on info like that and that I would be turned on if she told me that she’s been texting him all day and he makes her so wet,
yada yada yada…. Think the secrecy of it turns her on and I’m sure she was also trying to protect my feelings.

She didn’t know I was looking at her text log. I don’t feel good about snooping on them so I came clean and told her last night what I was doing. I just couldn’t take it anymore. There were 71 texts between them yesterday. That’s excessive. she was texting him during a family get together we had last night. She couldn’t stop herself for a few hours even after they were texting all day long yesterday.

She was irate and she said she wanted to end the arrangement (not our marriage). I don’t think this is really the end though, just her bluffing. Sex is her ...... and she’s an addict. I proposed we continue but we have an open marriage if she’s going to hide things on me. That way she can do her thing and I will do my own and not feel like I’m being left out while she has fun texting, sexting, and fucking. She turned that down. So we will see what happens next. I’ll keep you updated.

 

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