Sorry but i could never handle that it doesnt have to be alot of sex but.at least occasionally
Wife Denying You sex , is it out of meanness, anger and hate towards YOU or different??
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My wife and i got oldernand her hormones must have kicked in she wantd it more .That whT lead her into becoming a HOTWIFE
With us it is all about control. My wife decided 11 years ago that I should be pussy free. She enjoys keeping me that way and I think it has made her more confident. I do get to jerk off and I get to clean her with my tongue when she brings a load home. She really enjoys the frustration on my face when I watch her get ready for a date.
I wish I was there with you two to listen to your conversation when you had your "talk"!
I can really understand your girlfriend's point of view. We don't just give her an additional option for sex when she starts seeing someone else, we also give her away to some extent and not all women are comfortable to shuttle between bedrooms. Some women prefer to have sex with just one man and given the choice many would choose the lover provided that some kind of intimacy with her steady partner remains.
I imagine that it must have been hard for her to sit you down to tell you how she felt about having sex with you. She would surely know that you felt strongly about having to reclaim her every time, while she increasingly felt that she didn't want you in her, at least not every time. You would probably have sensed already how she was losing interest. How she asked you to cum quick because she was sore or when she wanted to ...... overnight with him so that she could be just with him. It was courageous of her to openly discuss such a sensitive matter. I'm convinced that if a couple doesn't discuss it openly at some point, that it can affect the relationship in a more fundamental manner. So it was both courageous and good of her to open the discussion.
It goes to prove that our girlfriends and wives love us. They do not want to shortchange us. That said, in no relationship should one side feel obliged to have sex. How did you respond, other than that you simply agreed to stop having PIV sex. Did you guys still do it a last time? Did you perhaps try to negotiate some form of phasing out?
Either way, if a couple can take such a consequential decision together, then that is something really special.
Nice. So she would effectively cut you off for a week. Is this about her wanting to mentally focus on being with him and having been with him? Or is it about sperm? She wanting to stay tight and clean for him and afterwards her enjoying the idea that she still has him inside her? So you are not getting sloppy seconds this way.
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In fact there were several big steps with quite some emmmotional moments. The first: I was a little lost when she explicitely said to me that she did not want to have PIV sex with me anymore. In the same time this was also a very arousing due to the powerposition she was taking on that moment that she was refusing me the acces to the most intimate part of her body and being. It also was the moment that she took my manhood away in a kind of psycholigical castration. That moment made everything clear to us who whas who in our rleationship and triangle towards her boyfriend she then had. It also brought a lot of emotional peace in our relationship. I do not know if her boyfriend suggested, asked or demanded that she would not have any PIV sex with me. But after the following time she saw her boyfriend she told me that she told him that we agreed that we both would never have PIV sex again together. This was for me the second step: also a kind of emotional blow to me and the little manhood that was left to me. For me knowing that another man knows that I am not really a man anymore to his wife was also humilating but in the mean tlme arousing. She told me also that he much appreciated this and saw this as greater comitment from her to him. It was a quite emotional period for us. Our agreement not to have PIV sex with each other but still being a couple was as a kind of very special comitment to each other as a kind of new wedding vow. The third emotional moment was that she then also agreed not use condoms anymore with her lover what was for me the third kind of barrier that got passed that she now would accept his seed in her. In the beginning it was always awkward when she was back home after having had sex with her lover and me knowing that she had his sperm in her while she was around me in the house. With time I got used to it and saw her also regularly at our home in her underwear noticing a wet spot on het panties from his semen leaking out of her, what was for me the ultimate proof she was owned by him and that he left his DNA and to my brain the proof she was under his power and possesed by him. This was maybe the fourth step in our cuckoldrelationship with quite some impact but it were always mixed feelings of powerrush and arousing for me. It then evolved me teasing her that she had sex with him feeling ans smelling her wet panties to come to the point of most cuckolds licking the semen out of her. This was then the fifth stage or so of getting deeper into the rabbithole of cuckolding. The day she told me that she did not want to have any PIV sex with me we had a a very nice meal and some drinks and she did engage sex with me what she denied to me in the previous months. It was a kind of a ritual of closing a chapter in our lives it was almost 12 years ago on the 12/03/2012. It was the last time I that I had PIV sex with her and was aloud to cum in her and we finished with her fucking me with our strap-on. We have al this on tape it is not a fantasy....
We have dome this too but I wish we had been more explicit about it. My girlfriend's bf lodged overnight at our home twice every week over a 10 month period, mostly on Mondays and Thursdays. We should have set the rule that we would not have intercourse on the Sundays and Wednesdays. To me that makes sense. I consider it entirely 'not done' to send her over to him with my cum in her. He couldn't care less I suspect, but I felt strongly about that.
Some of these questions and the narrative in this post seem to indicate that you do not understand the cuckold dynamic. It is ok, you don't have to - there is nothing wrong with that. It is not for everyone - much like how a triple layer chocolate cake does not appeal to everyone in the world, no matter how delicious it might seem to some. Some of the bullshit answers - lot likely from people who write crappy fiction - from the thread also suggest a incorrect understanding about cuckoldry and the couples that practice the lifestyle.
Cuckold couples are typically lot deeper in their love for each other than normal couples do .. Contrary to popular belief, cuckold men are not weak. They are probably some of the strongest in terms of their will (likely alpha males/leaders in their regular life) - Think about it, it takes a lot stronger man to confidently share his wife with a much more potent male and never having to worry about losing their relationship.
It is not just the sex or the denial or the humiliation that makes up the dynamic (while being a good part of it), but a lot more goes into actually building fundamental elements of the relationship - empathy, support, depth of connection, selflessness among others. If a wife denies sex/humiliates, its based on the mutual understanding and respect for each other and an innate part of the game. Some cuckold husbands are wired to enjoy it - much like how you might enjoy chocolate cake.
When my wife was cheating she wouldn't let me have sex with her and I asked her if her boyfriend told her not to or if she already got fucked before he dropped her off she denied everything
When my wife denys me sex she usually wants me to lick her pussy instead, i am certain it is because her hate of my small cock
When I think of it, this makes me laugh. There are some people here that can apparently refute this statement, while on your death bed, saying, "I wish I had spent less time fucking!"
Apparently some people truly enjoy not getting to fuck! But isn't that the thing? Everybody is supposed to want to fuck. Even if you have the smallest cock in the world. You still get horny, right? That denial from what is culturally and instinctively driven flies in the face of conventional thinking. That's what makes denial appealing. Not wanting or expecting something that everyone else thinks is a given, it sets you apart from all the others. It's a special kink that no one would or could understand, right?
So what happens when a husband/bf accepts his fate? He knows for a fact he will never ever fuck a pussy again (like me knowing I won't be an astronaut). Doesn't that kind of ...... the buzz? Even once the successful mission to convert him over to cleaning creampies and fluffing has been accomplished, what then? Even if you say you get the kink from your wife wanting to do it with someone else and not you, where does that leave your sexual satisfaction? Horny people like me will never understand this kink.
My running joke regarding denial is, "I get my denial the old fashioned way. I married vanilla!"
Apparently some people truly enjoy not getting to fuck! But isn't that the thing? Everybody is supposed to want to fuck. Even if you have the smallest cock in the world. You still get horny, right? That denial from what is culturally and instinctively driven flies in the face of conventional thinking. That's what makes denial appealing. Not wanting or expecting something that everyone else thinks is a given, it sets you apart from all the others. It's a special kink that no one would or could understand, right?
So what happens when a husband/bf accepts his fate? He knows for a fact he will never ever fuck a pussy again (like me knowing I won't be an astronaut). Doesn't that kind of ...... the buzz? Even once the successful mission to convert him over to cleaning creampies and fluffing has been accomplished, what then? Even if you say you get the kink from your wife wanting to do it with someone else and not you, where does that leave your sexual satisfaction? Horny people like me will never understand this kink.
My running joke regarding denial is, "I get my denial the old fashioned way. I married vanilla!"
Good post and I’m rapidly approaching the point where I’ve had enough . Having problems with my entitled / spoiled fucking doormat stepdaughter and her abusive controlling boyfriend . After about 5 occasions of her being accused of cheating , dirty abusive names , cutting up of Xmas presents and running her into a load of debt ,after she went back to him I said he would never be back in my house again - so I’ve been told byMY WIFE - no sex until he gets back in - organised a birthday weekend to Amsterdam for her - he had been staying when we were away - obviously my wife knew - then I was told to cancel my summer motorbike tour to Europe - eh no . If I don’t want someone I don’t want in my house that’s what’s happening . You can see who’s side my wife is backing in this - so I don’t give a fuck about her pussy , they all have one right . It’s about respecting your husband and if she has none for me why should I give her any . Next step is telling stepdaughter (30 years old ) if she doesn’t like it to move the fuck out of my house ! . Women can withhold sex and pussy all they want - plenty more out there .
So from roughly January on once I was told no sex until the abusive stepdaughters boyfriend is allowed back into my house I’ve had no fucking action and damned sure I wasn’t going to whine or beg for it so it’s been pussy stalemate for what 8 months - I’m strong willed and can and will hold out - she doesn’t even like tempt me or dress sexy or anything so she’s obviously happy with the situation . She’s well aware of my interest in sharing her so you’d think she would maybe mention that or ANYTHING to get things moving and get me on side but oh no . I’ve said 2 times about getting our sex life back on track / spicing it up a bit so there won’t now be a third occasion .
So many of the people here will say ...... like, "This is what you signed on for now take it like a good cucky!", or "You need to support her need to humiliate you because you have a little dick!", or "You don't deserve sex!" That will work for only so long. Routine kills enthusiasm no matter what kind of relationship you're in, monogamous or non-monogamous. That's why I believe only smart women can recognize that routine denial or being routinely ignored will become ineffective even if it is asked for.
What you are dealing with is when reality meets fantasy. The true reality is that if there's nothing in it for you then what's point? You used the term, "spicing up OUR sex life" but in your case it is defined as "spicing up HER sex life". After reaching a breaking point nothing she says or does is of any interest to you because you're not a consideration. She has lost her power over you by ...... her freedom. Withholding sex from you has lost it's potency, it's an empty threat because you don't have an expectation of having sex with her.
I get that many people here will say they get pleasure from the pain. Eventually, getting NOTHING but pain will result in not deriving any pleasure from it. It will only build resentment and while intended to build sexual tension it will do exactly the opposite. So often I read posts here about women that extend their sexual freedom into having authority over every aspect of a relationship (ie you can't go on that motorcycle trip). It's as if they are ...... and lack the capacity to recognize their words and actions will have natural consequences. They fail to acknowledge that their freedom increases their responsibility and they usually realize that too late.
Go on that motorcycle trip! Fuck them! You're not getting sex now and you don't expect to. Too much "stick" and not enough "carrot"!
We will do denials occasionally as something different. I like to cum a lot and she always takes care of that and in the best ways but we’ve gone a few weeks with me just jerking off while she verbally degraded me. I wouldn’t want it all the time but rotating it in a few times a year can be fun.
Don’t worry I did just that and as you say fuck them . With every arguement the desire to remain married reduces greatly and although I don’t like confrontation when I put my mind to it will see it through to the end . Just don’t think my wife realised how thin the knife edge she’s on right now . To take the side of a fucking abusive controlling little rat of daughters boyfriend over her husband who pays for everything . He had her at ...... counselling with his behaviour , ran her into debt , got that sorted then 3 weeks - yes 3 weeks later behind my back but her ...... knew and eventually told me started seeing the ...... again , had 2 kids to another woman he conveniently forgot to tell my doormat - I mean stepdaughter about etc etc . But I’m the bastard - the abuser who won’t let him into MY HOUSE . Her brothers are all friendly again with the boyfriend - just me it seems and feels like I’m the abuser / controller here - as the great Andrew Tate says - say what u mean and mean what you say . I’ve had it - I’ve had better pussy and will do so again .
I get to be in her once a month or so. When she found "Mr. Right" and realized how good sex could be with him, she first asked me how I would feel about not being "in her for a while." I was getting an erection as we started this talk, but hesitant. Hadn't considered that this could happen. "Forever?," I asked her. "No," she said, "once in a while I'll need to have you in me, and I'll use other ways to help you cum." I said I needed a few days to think about it.
A few weeks later after he spent the night with her in our bed, dressed and went to work, I'd just gone down on her (for you guys obsessed with "cuckold," yes, I lovingly cleaned her before bringing her to orgasm) and we were enjoying the afterglow moments. Not so subtly as the last time we talked it she said "it would probably be better if you weren't in me any more." I was caught a bit off guard as she told me she had "feelings for him" and wanted to tell him he would be the only man in her vagina. Being "denied" can be very erotic, as some of you may know. And when your first time back in does come, it's very much like the first time you had PIV sex with a girl.
A few weeks later after he spent the night with her in our bed, dressed and went to work, I'd just gone down on her (for you guys obsessed with "cuckold," yes, I lovingly cleaned her before bringing her to orgasm) and we were enjoying the afterglow moments. Not so subtly as the last time we talked it she said "it would probably be better if you weren't in me any more." I was caught a bit off guard as she told me she had "feelings for him" and wanted to tell him he would be the only man in her vagina. Being "denied" can be very erotic, as some of you may know. And when your first time back in does come, it's very much like the first time you had PIV sex with a girl.
I have sex with my wife every night, will that change the more we grow into this lifestyle? I don't know. She is in agreement with me that she doesn't like the idea of no sex between us because our sex is different our sex is love and emotional, with others it's fucking.
My wife and I have been married for 35 years, and dated one year.
I had been cheated on in my previous 2 relationships, and I loved beating off to the thought of my girlfriends cheating before it happened.
Well my wife is fucking hot and so sexy, first time we made love, I was so excited, I couldn’t believe this hot woman was with me, that I was inside her.
After we finished, I thought I hit a home run!!! I asked how it was , she replied “Jeff is Bigger!!” (He was her ex-fiancé) I was jealous, hurt, deflated……but so turned on!
For about 10 years I beat off to her with him and other men.
We had sex 3, 4 , 5 times a year, sometimes once and occasionally not at all. But there was always love, and 5 kids.
I found cuckolding on line, I couldn’t believe it, I was SHOCKED!!!!! There were other guys like me!! All that time I thought I was the only weird guy thinking these thoughts.
So I started telling her, writing notes, cards…….telling her dreams.
Then one night, I told her another man was inside of her, he was going to fill her pussy with his cum (while I fingered her) she was soooooooooooo wet, and came (for the first time)
She said she would never do it (I was all she needed) although she teased me about being small, and letting me know that I didn’t satisfy her sexually, ever!
She caught me playing with and wearing her panties (sometimes I found cum stains in her worn panties)
She asked me about the panties one time when she caught me, I explained again my cuckold desires, reminded her that I was small, submissive and she deserves to feel satisfaction.
She told me, if you really want to be a cuckold, I want you to tell your father and sister, and that you wear my panties.
I did and told her there reaction (my dad confessed he used to wear my moms panties and my sister said if it turns you on)
My wife told her friends and they all were all giggles.
Well years later , she had an affair, I found out by accident……..she told me that it only ended because he moved out of the area.
She knew I was turned on by it (as I fucked her that night like never before)
The next time we were about to have sex, we were heading out of town , we were naked, I was fingering her, kissing her body…………….she said “hurry up and get it over, (grabbing my dick) this does absolutely nothing for me”
So I asked, does S do anything for you (her boyfriend she had the affair with), she was pissed and said “What!!!! What did you say!!!” I explained that I just wanted to know if S made her feel satisfied when he was with her, she said “get dressed, we have to go, get ready……….YOU MISSED YOUR CHANCE!!”
Well she caught me wearing her panties again (they were in my suitcase that she unpacked)
So at first she wanted to know why I had a woman’s panties, then why hers, and I explained my sub, my cuckold desires and my need for humiliation.
She told me, “you will approach me, I will not instigate this conversation, I want you, to initiate this!, come to me and tell me your desires, your fantasies, WHAT YOU WANT “
I took her to dinner, I explained that I long to be a cuckold, for her to have a boyfriend, lovers if she desired (she asked , that turns you on??? Me being with other men??) yes absolutely, I told her that I LOVE denial (she questioned “denial??”) I told her that I love being denied, not allowed to make love to her, that I don’t deserve access to her, that I have a NEVER made her cum in 31 years and that I am small and have never satisfied her, and that I would love chastity (full time), humiliation ( she asked ,what humiliation??) I told her that I love when she teases about my size, my lack of satisfaction given to her, and that’s why I love wearing your panties (small thongs, and rock hard, I still fit in her panties).
She looked at me and said “I don’t know what to say!!!! I think you have weird thoughts!!!, I don’t know………you know some of this makes sense…….you know, I have told you this before, I feel like whenever I’ve made love with you, let you inside me, afterwards, I always felt like you treated me worse (I denied that)
She said, “I just want you to think about it, really think about it…….i don’t feel like your as kind and considerate, as close after we have sex”
The next day, she came up to me and said “you enjoy denial?????” Yes I answered, “GOOD, you are in denial, you are being denied, remember you want this, and you enjoy this, I will find a man, I will find a man to satisfy me!!! And I will look good for him! Really good, I will workout, I will take care of myself, I will get my hair done and go to the tan salon, and you will pay for it all, do you understand??” Yes I replied, “and I am buying new panties, do not wear my panties, and DO NOT PLAY WITH YOURSELF!!!! I WILL KNOW IF YOU DO!!!”
It’s been 4 years without pussy, and I love her so much more, we have an emotional and spiritual connection that is so much deeper
And it’s crazy, I do treat her better!!! And this feeling of wanting her, to be inside of her, it’s something I can’t describe, my dick gets so much harder and the feeling so much stronger, I love being denied (I’d love to know if she is getting fucked, has been fucked) but the not knowing drives me deeper also
I had been cheated on in my previous 2 relationships, and I loved beating off to the thought of my girlfriends cheating before it happened.
Well my wife is fucking hot and so sexy, first time we made love, I was so excited, I couldn’t believe this hot woman was with me, that I was inside her.
After we finished, I thought I hit a home run!!! I asked how it was , she replied “Jeff is Bigger!!” (He was her ex-fiancé) I was jealous, hurt, deflated……but so turned on!
For about 10 years I beat off to her with him and other men.
We had sex 3, 4 , 5 times a year, sometimes once and occasionally not at all. But there was always love, and 5 kids.
I found cuckolding on line, I couldn’t believe it, I was SHOCKED!!!!! There were other guys like me!! All that time I thought I was the only weird guy thinking these thoughts.
So I started telling her, writing notes, cards…….telling her dreams.
Then one night, I told her another man was inside of her, he was going to fill her pussy with his cum (while I fingered her) she was soooooooooooo wet, and came (for the first time)
She said she would never do it (I was all she needed) although she teased me about being small, and letting me know that I didn’t satisfy her sexually, ever!
She caught me playing with and wearing her panties (sometimes I found cum stains in her worn panties)
She asked me about the panties one time when she caught me, I explained again my cuckold desires, reminded her that I was small, submissive and she deserves to feel satisfaction.
She told me, if you really want to be a cuckold, I want you to tell your father and sister, and that you wear my panties.
I did and told her there reaction (my dad confessed he used to wear my moms panties and my sister said if it turns you on)
My wife told her friends and they all were all giggles.
Well years later , she had an affair, I found out by accident……..she told me that it only ended because he moved out of the area.
She knew I was turned on by it (as I fucked her that night like never before)
The next time we were about to have sex, we were heading out of town , we were naked, I was fingering her, kissing her body…………….she said “hurry up and get it over, (grabbing my dick) this does absolutely nothing for me”
So I asked, does S do anything for you (her boyfriend she had the affair with), she was pissed and said “What!!!! What did you say!!!” I explained that I just wanted to know if S made her feel satisfied when he was with her, she said “get dressed, we have to go, get ready……….YOU MISSED YOUR CHANCE!!”
Well she caught me wearing her panties again (they were in my suitcase that she unpacked)
So at first she wanted to know why I had a woman’s panties, then why hers, and I explained my sub, my cuckold desires and my need for humiliation.
She told me, “you will approach me, I will not instigate this conversation, I want you, to initiate this!, come to me and tell me your desires, your fantasies, WHAT YOU WANT “
I took her to dinner, I explained that I long to be a cuckold, for her to have a boyfriend, lovers if she desired (she asked , that turns you on??? Me being with other men??) yes absolutely, I told her that I LOVE denial (she questioned “denial??”) I told her that I love being denied, not allowed to make love to her, that I don’t deserve access to her, that I have a NEVER made her cum in 31 years and that I am small and have never satisfied her, and that I would love chastity (full time), humiliation ( she asked ,what humiliation??) I told her that I love when she teases about my size, my lack of satisfaction given to her, and that’s why I love wearing your panties (small thongs, and rock hard, I still fit in her panties).
She looked at me and said “I don’t know what to say!!!! I think you have weird thoughts!!!, I don’t know………you know some of this makes sense…….you know, I have told you this before, I feel like whenever I’ve made love with you, let you inside me, afterwards, I always felt like you treated me worse (I denied that)
She said, “I just want you to think about it, really think about it…….i don’t feel like your as kind and considerate, as close after we have sex”
The next day, she came up to me and said “you enjoy denial?????” Yes I answered, “GOOD, you are in denial, you are being denied, remember you want this, and you enjoy this, I will find a man, I will find a man to satisfy me!!! And I will look good for him! Really good, I will workout, I will take care of myself, I will get my hair done and go to the tan salon, and you will pay for it all, do you understand??” Yes I replied, “and I am buying new panties, do not wear my panties, and DO NOT PLAY WITH YOURSELF!!!! I WILL KNOW IF YOU DO!!!”
It’s been 4 years without pussy, and I love her so much more, we have an emotional and spiritual connection that is so much deeper
And it’s crazy, I do treat her better!!! And this feeling of wanting her, to be inside of her, it’s something I can’t describe, my dick gets so much harder and the feeling so much stronger, I love being denied (I’d love to know if she is getting fucked, has been fucked) but the not knowing drives me deeper also
