The stigma for men due to social conditioning is much higher than for woman. (In my opinion). It also a reasonable fear of being seen as less masculine. No woman has ever been thought of as less feminine if she fooled around with other woman. Not the same standard for men. FWIW I don't think sucking cock makes anyone gay even if it is a "gay act". No more than a woman kissing another woman would make her gay.
Wife asked if I'd be willing to suck and swallow her lover
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That makes a lot of sense.
Yeah, it isn't always perceived as an equal comparison. Somehow the act of a man sucking a cock is portrayed as being submissive or effeminate and not so much with women that enjoy other women.
Well... men are more often seen as less masculine if they fool around with other men, especially if they're bottoming.
However, 'butch lesbian bulldyke' is a thing I've seen thrown around at women who fool around with other women. Not always, probably less common than less-masculinity for men, but I have seen it.
petco
Male
I would definitely agree to suck someone's dick and even take cum in my mouth in your presence
Something they remember the rest of there life.
Yeah, and probably turn them too. 🙂
In my opinion, she wants you to be submissive to the superior lover or she likes some guy on guy action. It's up to you but you should try it if you ask me.
SexualOptions
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For real? Your wife is into this? I see it took a few year but now it turns you on but how did she/you get you past this?
thx, Lil
knight4princess
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I think she's been turned on by guy-on-guy sex from the time she was a teenager. I think it's sort of a fantasy come true for her to have conditioned me to enjoy sucking cock.
Is this something that interests you enough to want, or are you just excited by the thought of it? Please know I'm judging either way you choose. I'm simply curious about wives that find this exciting/interesting. Personally I'd be interested if my wife was but I'd carry some deep concerns about how she would view/treat me afterwards. I'd also be concerned about if it changed her desire for me or her respect for me. I'd like to say I know my wife well enough to not worry about those things happening. At the same time, I'd want some reassurances spoken out loud. I'm completely curious and would love to try it. I just love sex! I don't want less sex or negative results from experimenting with a curiosity. What are your thoughts?
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That is absolutely amazing!!! Knight? Do you know why? Your wife is turned on by it? What prompted it?
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I find it thrilling to think about and try to get my husband to discuss it as well as RP it. Once in a while I get him sooooooo turned on he will go with the flow in a big way. I imagine it might be the same in real life. It would take quite a lot of patience, time of course, and work. I am curious as to how other wives have done it. How long it took, and so forth. As knight4princess said, his wife was turned on by it as a teenager, I am like that but do not know why.
Knight? Do you know why? Your wife is turned on by it? What prompted it?
I know I definitely want to try BBC, no doubt, it is something I should have done in college when I had the offers, but I also do not want to do it without my husband which means he'd have to do bisexual things with me. I love doing Anything with my husband and these are the things I am most interested in now. How I'd view my husband during and afterwards, most likely I'd still be so turned on I'd want to do more. A day later, more. A few days, more. I think it will be addicting based on what I have read from others, especially the men. I have no idea if my husband will feel like most of the guys here but I'd be okay with it as long as I am included in Everything. Now if my man went and got all effeminate on me, yes, sure I'd look at him differently. That would not be my man. To each his/her own but that is not who I married, partnered with, am best friends with. No offense to any guys like this but it is no way in any form attractive to me. I guess in response to how me as a wife can view this, be manly in all things you do, you definitely can be all into it in all ways but do not go girly. I believe be what you are now that she loves so dearly only with new sexual fun. I've said it to my husband this way.
Thanks for your reply! It is nice to read a post by a wife that wants something special.
Would it be enough to try BBC in a threesome without your husband having to do bisexual things? That could be a sort of "baby steps" kind of thing and maybe he would be more receptive to the idea.
Does your husband know you "definitely" want to try BBC? Is there anything that your husband wants that he feels the same sort of thrill you have for seeing him suck cock and watch you with a BBC? Maybe you could work a deal with him.
What has your husband said about the idea? He may feel deep down that sucking cock IS effeminate in the first place. If you're not sure how how your husband will feel or if he'll respond like others here then shouldn't you discuss that specifically? He may be wondering how he could be "a man's man" and do what you want him to do. I'm sure you'd rather him be into it than him doing just for you. How would you feel if he did just do it for you and you knew he didn't REALLY want to do it?
So often I read posts here about how husband's that want their wives to become a hot wife/cuckold. They go way out of their way to build confidence in their wives. They make all sorts of concessions, or willing to accept restrictions to make it happen. It makes sense that when the situations are reversed and the wife is wanting/promoting something they REALLY want then they have to do the same things a wannabe cuckold husband does to make it happen.
Thanks again for your honest reply! No judgements here. I'm just throwing out thoughts.
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Apparently there are many here. I love reading from them. I am also learning.
That is the plan right now.
Yes
He is not certain about any of it but has opened up to RP and using the sex toys firly liberally.
He enjoys cum play now, is not interested in men, but gets that more cocks equals more cum, then there is the safety of it all.
There is no problem talking with him about anything.
It is of no interest to him right now,
except for me.
He is his own person, he can decide for himself. We both do things for the other and if he wanted to do it for me I am fine with whatever he choses.
That is most likely what will happen. I am okay with this also as long as we do things together, grow together, explore together.
You sound honest and realistic about how you'd like for this to progress.
I finally got the nerve enough to tell my wife that the "idea" of her having sex with someone else was exciting to me. I knew better than to say I actually wanted it to happen. I immediately followed up with I never expected her to do anything she didn't want to do. She told me it was never going to happen. I told her I understood.
I did ask her if she would mind "pretending" she was a hot wife when were having sex. We've been together a really long time (46 yrs) and she seems to like a certain routine. I explained that I needed a little "mental assist" to stay hard for her. She was very gracious and said she would. She has gone from really awkward and tame to stuff that has even surprised me! Now I get a thrill just knowing those thoughts are tumbling around in her head!
It may never happen. I can at least say our sex isn't as routine and more fun than ever. We have even increased the frequency we have sex. She even has admitted that she has huge orgasms when I tongue her ass and she presses her Hitachi Magic Wand on her clit. She never really liked her ass played with in the past. It seems tiny in comparison to the stories you read here. I've learned there are lots of little victories along the way.
In your case I think you can make this happen in a way that everyone feels secure and satisfied. You come across as realistic, sensitive and intelligent. People like that have a way of making things work out. Has your husband ever said anything about sucking cock? Have you ever thought about wearing a strap on when you role play?
knight4princess
Male
I really should ask why but she is shy on this subject. So much so that, when I first married her 40 years ago, I asked her "what is your wildest sexual fantasy," she declined to answer. (I was shocked by that response but accepted it.) But, years later, she admitted that me sucking cock --- and guys generally having sex -- were her kinkiest kink.
About that time, some years ago when the Internet was new and video sites were too, she got on ICQ or some platform as that and had man after man jack off on cam for her. I watched discreetly off camera as they shot their loads watching my wife. She and I talked about their cocks. It's really a long and twisted tale. But suffice it to say that she was supportive the first time I told her I had sucked a cock or a few at an adult bookstore. By this time she was a hotwife and soon after I told her I had sucked cock and liked it she had me lick her clit beneath as a man fucked her doggy style and told the guy to pull out and cum in my mouth.
Other times she has started out by sucking on a guy's cock and then beckoning me over to kiss her. But held on to me as she resumed sucking the cock. Then kissed me again. Then back to the cock. Back and forth, the distance between our lips and his cock grew shorter. Finally, we were both kissing and kissing the cock together before she shoved it into my mouth and went up to make out with the guy as I continued to suck.
Do you always play with guys that are open to you sucking them? Do you have trouble finding them?
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