Why do we enjoy cuckold lifestyle?

The types of cuckolds.....which are you?
I'm so glad to see this chart of the various preferences of cuckolds. I'm #2 and #8.
I actually don't want to watch her. I want her to do it then tell me in lusty, dirty tones how much she loved it and how good his cock was. The closest I'd like to be to what she does is to imagine her having an old male friend visit us, then her getting up in the middle of the night to sneak into his bedroom. I like to fantasize waking up but pretending to be asleep as she quietly goes from our room to his, then lying there and listening to her being fucked in the guest room...her whimpers and dirty comments to him as she takes his superior cock...then when she stealthily comes back to bed, I roll over and enter her creamy pussy to add to her sloppiness. mmmmm
 
Easy question - difficult answer

1st reason - I enjoy her enjoyment
2nd reason - I enjoy her enjoyment
3rd - refer to reason 1 or 2

Think compersion

On another note there are times I'd rather watch her fuck another guy then fuck me.

Last and not least 'if one needs to ask they wouldn't understand'
I would agree totally! I love the thought of her enjoying another man's (preferably bigger) cock. I can get myself off just from fantasizing the lusty look on her face as she cums from another man fucking her.

I will add that there is also the 'dirty factor' about her fucking other guys. She is a somewhat innocent acting lady outwardly...a somewhat shy, but cute and sweet girl. The thought of her being lusty and naughty is such an incredible turn on. The idea of her totally and boldly enjoying the pleasures of another man's cock is overwhelmingly the most arousing part of my cuck desires.
 
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I listened to a podcast that said cuckding is either eroticization of inferiority or vicarious expression of bisexuality. Im no psychologist. Interesting idea though
 
There's so much to this question, and not a single answer. Obviously everyone's experience is going to vary, but for me there are a few things that really stand out.

Lust - My wife is my favorite person in the world to have sex with. I've always adored her body, but watching from the outside and seeing how it responds to someone else gives me a whole new appreciation for how sexy she is!

Pride - I've always loved when other guys openly check her out or hit on her, even before I ever discovered my cuckolding fetish. Knowing that other guys look at my wife and lust after her is great! Not even so much as an ego boost for me as for her, but getting outside validation that the woman I love is as sexy as I think she is is wonderful too. I've had guys send me videos of them stroking and cumming to her naked photos, and I always end up stroking to them stroking.

Insecurity- Maybe not an entirely healthy aspect, but I can't deny that it's a part. Knowing that she's fucking someone else triggers a very deep-seated fear of being replaced. It's not logical. My wife and I have great sex, and we have a solid relationship that goes far beyond just the bedroom so I know in my head that she isn't going to leave, but I have a history of getting cheated on, and that's created a definite vulnerability. Dancing around the thing that's caused me so much pain in the past is an extremely intense thing, and I suspect that viewing it through the lens of arousal instead of fear is a coping mechanism. This has become less of a factor over time, but it's still there. It used to be that I had to not cum until the end, as the loss of arousal was like my shields going down. I still prefer to hold off, but now it's because my arousal enhances my enjoyment of the experience.

Fantasy - My wife only fucks people she knows well, and has zero interest in strangers. This is hands down my biggest unfulfilled fantasy! I have little doubt that if she tried it she'd get hooked, but it's her body and her call. The thought of her fucking strangers, and especially in a public or gang bang situation, never fails to get me hard as a rock and I think I know why that's the case for me and for a lot of other cuckolds. I knew my wife for over a year before anything sexual happened between us. We grew together gradually, I courted her, and we enjoyed countless hours together before I even got to see her naked. The idea of her getting naked with complete strangers and giving full access to her body to random men whose names she doesn't even know, is the most erotic thing I can imagine! I can't fully explain it, but the idea that I had to invest so much time and energy before being granted access to her most intimate pleasures, but that other men could get that same physical intimacy with the woman I married- the intimacy that society says should be reserved only for her husband- just by showing up and fucking her... that's heady stuff. In a way I suppose it feels like the intense arousal stems from a perception that it cheapens the value of my efforts and cheapens my own value in the process. That's odd though, because I don't think I really get off on the humiliation aspect of cuckolding. Maybe I actually do!
I couldn’t put it in a better way ,that was masterly explained as if you described myself , Well put.
 
There's so much to this question, and not a single answer. Obviously everyone's experience is going to vary, but for me there are a few things that really stand out.

Lust - My wife is my favorite person in the world to have sex with. I've always adored her body, but watching from the outside and seeing how it responds to someone else gives me a whole new appreciation for how sexy she is!

Pride - I've always loved when other guys openly check her out or hit on her, even before I ever discovered my cuckolding fetish. Knowing that other guys look at my wife and lust after her is great! Not even so much as an ego boost for me as for her, but getting outside validation that the woman I love is as sexy as I think she is is wonderful too. I've had guys send me videos of them stroking and cumming to her naked photos, and I always end up stroking to them stroking.

Insecurity- Maybe not an entirely healthy aspect, but I can't deny that it's a part. Knowing that she's fucking someone else triggers a very deep-seated fear of being replaced. It's not logical. My wife and I have great sex, and we have a solid relationship that goes far beyond just the bedroom so I know in my head that she isn't going to leave, but I have a history of getting cheated on, and that's created a definite vulnerability. Dancing around the thing that's caused me so much pain in the past is an extremely intense thing, and I suspect that viewing it through the lens of arousal instead of fear is a coping mechanism. This has become less of a factor over time, but it's still there. It used to be that I had to not cum until the end, as the loss of arousal was like my shields going down. I still prefer to hold off, but now it's because my arousal enhances my enjoyment of the experience.

Fantasy - My wife only fucks people she knows well, and has zero interest in strangers. This is hands down my biggest unfulfilled fantasy! I have little doubt that if she tried it she'd get hooked, but it's her body and her call. The thought of her fucking strangers, and especially in a public or gang bang situation, never fails to get me hard as a rock and I think I know why that's the case for me and for a lot of other cuckolds. I knew my wife for over a year before anything sexual happened between us. We grew together gradually, I courted her, and we enjoyed countless hours together before I even got to see her naked. The idea of her getting naked with complete strangers and giving full access to her body to random men whose names she doesn't even know, is the most erotic thing I can imagine! I can't fully explain it, but the idea that I had to invest so much time and energy before being granted access to her most intimate pleasures, but that other men could get that same physical intimacy with the woman I married- the intimacy that society says should be reserved only for her husband- just by showing up and fucking her... that's heady stuff. In a way I suppose it feels like the intense arousal stems from a perception that it cheapens the value of my efforts and cheapens my own value in the process. That's odd though, because I don't think I really get off on the humiliation aspect of cuckolding. Maybe I actually do!
My wife absolutely loved fucking men she didn’t know at all. She experienced a great excitement and I suppose the thought of never have to worry about kiss and tell escalated that feeling. I absolutely loved it and it excited me tremendously when a big Dick penetrated her for the first time although she did have her regular fuck buddies to keep her happy , I m one of them😜
 
My wife was very sex active even before we were a item and I didn’t want her to change her lifestyle and be stuck with 5-6 inches for life or have other guys riding her behind my back and have to look over her shoulders all the time.She was hand reared by her grandfather where she had to spend her school holidays. I think it would have been highly inappropriate if I thanked him for a job well done.(chuckles). But I can say she grew up with a dick and o boy did it suit me . We were absolutely meant for each other .
 
I feel in love accidentally with my wife--she was 12/almost 13 yrs older than I & very overweight--the complete opposite of girls I normally dated at the time-- but her personality drew me in & the sex was Great-- She had not tried much variation in her sex life ---but we could & did talk about everything & anything--& most importantly--she had an Open mind & actually Wanted to explore different things-- I had already had experience swinging ect-she wanted to at least try it-- so I didn't have the jealousy thing going on-- We tried it & then she was reading everything about open marriages she could get her hands on-- & we would Try new things--I think--she loved the fact that even though she was Fat--she could make men desire her (being fat there is a lot of discrimination in life) & I was just Sooo Proud of her learning how to get past the insecurities & actually make an effort to learn more about sex & sexuality-- being Obese & being in high demand for sex just was such a turn on for me--She was my Porn star--& she like being the center of attention-- We really were a perfect match-
Amazing what self confidence a few different dicks can give a woman, my wife changed from a very reserved person to a self assured woman who love attention extracting and tasting cum from multiple partners and don’t know of a single time she refused a good fuck. An erect penis was definitely her weak spot.
 
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My wife would describe it the same, exact, way.

Two nights ago, I got back, late, from out-of-town. I'm an airline pilot, so I'm gone a lot. As I walked into the bedroom my wife was in bed with her bf. She was on top, riding him. She turned to me, smiled and said "welcome home, honey." I walked over to her, gave her a kiss, then gave her bf a kiss on the forehead. I was able to do this without the two of them missing a single beat in their motion.

Believe it, or not, this was no surprise to me. My wife had texted me, earlier in the day, and told me that her bf would probably be at the house when I arrived. She, and her bf, know I love coming home to this type of greeting.

I set my bags in my closet, stripped naked and went back into the bedroom. By this time, they were doggie style and my wife's bf was pummeling her with his thick, 10" cock. As I got in bed with them, she sucked my 6" cock a little bit, but her bf was fucking her too hard for her to continue sucking mine.

After a while, he finally came in my wife and treated me with a bed-time snack. After I cleaned them both, the three of us curled up in bed together.

Many people find this hard to believe, but this truly is the life my wife and I have. I love it and so does she.
What a wonderful arrangement and mutual understanding People who find it hard to believe are the ones that lack the experience. Our experiences will sound impossible that one woman would do all those things.Only thing she don’t do is anal . I experienced that from a fuck buddys wife , was quite good .
 
For me I think because it’s so taboo, that’s what makes it so great. With Robin it was more about how amazing her pussy feels, and how I just couldn’t imagine keeping her all to myself. From the very beginning I had this urge to allow as many guys, and girls, to have an opportunity to sample a pussy, that I feel is the best I’ve ever had, and almost felt like it was mine and her obligation, to share something that’s so incredibly unbelievable and so rare to come across. I’ve actually told her many times, and has also been told by several other guys, and girls, that she should become an ......, and that she’d be at a level classified as an expensive, top shelf, high class and a well sought after girl. We even had a friend, Heather that we had discovered was an ......, and she was really trying her best to recruit Robin badly. I was all for it, but Robin would say that she didn’t think it was something she could do. However, and to be completely honest, I think there were at least 3 situations, where I believe she was very possibly talked into it by our friend Heather.
 
I got into this through swinging with my first wife when I discovered I got far more turned on watching her getting fucked than participating myself.
When I met Lynn she was a real slut - fucking other men every chance she got even though she was married. When we became an item, I had no wish for her to stop seeing other men as it really excited me. We've been married 21 years, together 23 and she's fucked whoever she wants the whole time we've been together and I wouldn't want her any other way.
We are very close and have a normal, loving relationship in every other way except for the fact that she couldn't stand being tied down to only having sex with one partner and I'm more than fine with that.
 
I got into this through swinging with my first wife when I discovered I got far more turned on watching her getting fucked than participating myself.
When I met Lynn she was a real slut - fucking other men every chance she got even though she was married. When we became an item, I had no wish for her to stop seeing other men as it really excited me. We've been married 21 years, together 23 and she's fucked whoever she wants the whole time we've been together and I wouldn't want her any other way.
We are very close and have a normal, loving relationship in every other way except for the fact that she couldn't stand being tied down to only having sex with one partner and I'm more than fine with that.
So, the KINK is watching her getting pounded by another guy..hearing moaning gets you off....
 
#1. It allows her to feel like other men also find her hot and sexy and how it feels to experience another guy, or guys, cock, body and tongue.
#2. It allows another guy, or guys, to experience what she has to offer. So other guys can feel just exactly how amazing her pussy feels.
 
Any psychologists out there? Because I'd like to hear why do we have this kind of desires. I'll share my observations if anyone joins.
I will tell you that I am bi male that takes part in teaching/helping cuckold situations in person, live. I have a Bachelor’s in psychology. Just so you know, you being in a cuckold situation is normal. That is a style of sex normally in which the husband wants to feel or be made sub while normally entertaining a very dom top (like me) that takes sexual charge of the 3 way situation. 90% of the time the men find that they love sucking and swallowing me while the women, once they get on this horse size cock, they cum nonstop around the clock. Try me out.
 

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My wife plays with another guy 3-4 times a year. I think relative infrequent by hotwife standards. We are busy and find leaving time in between makes it all the more fun. For me the anticipation is just as much fun as the event. We will some times set the date a month in advance.

Once the date is set, I find the anticipation drives me crazy. We tend to have sex more often, role play as to what will happen we both will drop hints as to what would we would like to see happen. It's like waiting on the best gift you know you are get. It's definitely made our bond and communication stronger.
 
I am recently on this site and I read many amazing stories, the pictures of your wives made me rub several times with many fantastic completions. I would have liked my wife to be so open, to want more than she has done so far, not to give up the idea of being a hotwife, to let me clean her and lick her another man cum filled pussy and to be a happy cuckold. I have had a chance to watch her when she's fucked only once, since then I want more and more that she be with other men, even if she doesn't want me to be next to her, I'm glad to knowing that she's stuck in a big cock and that she enjoys it to the fullest and have an cuckold hubby. If you want to read our story: https://www.wifewantstoplay.com/threads/our-story.18280/
 
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The Bible had it right: sex equals knowledge. Husbands who playfully expose their wives (in the reality or on the internet) and those who go all the way, giving his wife’s body to another man’s eyes and hands and cock and nose, are granting experiences that should be the husband’s private possession, something only he should know. And, thus, should be viewed as a theft of sorts, but the result is just the opposite: you haven’t been robbed, but enriched; your wife is not diminished, but grows in value to your eyes.

For example, I remember once going to Hawaii with a girlfriend that I was rapidly growing tired of and I feared having a boring time in paradise. (She was a tall, slener 27 year-old woman whose hobbies included ballroom dancing competition.) But then she wore a small black thong bikini—one that she would never wear back at home, it being just too tiny—everyday at the beach and the pool and the communal hot tub, exposing all of her amazing behind and shapely body, making every guy and some of the women check out her naked butt cheeks. I saw her rejuvenated in my eyes (and in another body part); this restored luster lasted for about a month after the trip. If she hadn’t been such a pain in the ass in so many ways, it might have lasted a lifetime.

It wasn't just that her ass cheeks got tanned; it was that, in my eyes, having all other men looking at her shapely ass imbued her body with a renewed sexual charge. (She often wore a T-shirt over her bikini as we traveled over the island. I loved the way it made her look naked beneath the T-shirt, as from behind, you could only see the T-shirt covering the top half of her round rump half and all of the thong material, the bottom half of her ass completely on display. I remember with a stiffening cock, both of us waiting in a long line to buy “shave ice” and seeing at least five men behind us shamelessly ogle her exposed bottom half of her ass and her long, shapely legs. As far she was concerned, she was properly dressed. As far as the gawking men were concerned, she was completely naked under her short T-shirt.)

Back to the subject: knowledge, when my first wife took a new lover, I wanted him to know everything about her body: what her breasts looked like and felt in his hands and mouth. How smooth her legs were and what they felt like wrapped around his torso. How lovely her feet and toes were. How soft and beautiful her hair was. How her lips felt and how she kissed and the taste of her mouth. What her ass looked like and how it jiggled and filled his hands. What her pussy looked like, its shape and size, her pubic hair’s color and texture, her urethral opening, its scent and her sticky vaginal secretions—most importantly, how her vagina felt gripping his cock. I wanted him to hear the moans she let out while being eaten and fucked. I wanted him to experience her face and body contorting, as she orgasmed; and how sleepy she looked afterwards. The more he knew about her sexually, the more sexually charged she became to me.