Why do we enjoy cuckold lifestyle?

[jane don]

Any psychologists out there? Because I'd like to hear why do we have this kind of desires. I'll share my observations if anyone joins.

I feel in love accidentally with my wife--she was 12/almost 13 yrs older than I & very overweight--the complete opposite of girls I normally dated at the time-- but her personality drew me in & the sex was Great-- She had not tried much variation in her sex life ---but we could & did talk about everything & anything--& most importantly--she had an Open mind & actually Wanted to explore different things-- I had already had experience swinging ect-she wanted to at least try it-- so I didn't have the jealousy thing going on-- We tried it & then she was reading everything about open marriages she could get her hands on-- & we would Try new things--I think--she loved the fact that even though she was Fat--she could make men desire her (being fat there is a lot of discrimination in life) & I was just Sooo Proud of her learning how to get past the insecurities & actually make an effort to learn more about sex & sexuality-- being Obese & being in high demand for sex just was such a turn on for me--She was my Porn star--& she like being the center of attention-- We really were a perfect match-

 

[Wendy]

My first sexual experience was with an older married woman. Now this was a secret affair, hubby had no clue. So early i came to realize that best sex for a young guy is with a MILF! MILFs are all about getting it on, about bumping and grinding! You dont need to call her. You dont need to bye her flower of candy... You dont need to "romance" her... You do need to large and take charge! They do like to flirt and if you can make them laugh to, you will own her pussy!
Having an affair with a married woman was always to me like braking the cultural rules... like eating a forbidden fruit.
Now being in a cuckold situation its just a lot more sweeter then having a secret affair with a married woman. Having a husband watch me bang hes wife gives my ego such a great boost ! ! ! In a way it kindo motivates me more to go an extra mile, to bang her a bit harder, to bang her one more time then i normally would....

Don't like men who cheat

 

[italkedherintoit]

My first GF I found out was fucking some other guys so since I was in love with her and I knew she was loose when we met I turned it around from jealously to excitement. I have been a cuck ever since. Several GF's later I am still into it and love it.

 

[angstme79]

italkedherintoit -
^^^^^^^ Read my post #7 on the first page. I had a similar cheating GF back then. Turned the cheating into a HOT-HOT turn on and she loved getting to date other guys on the side. We were together for a while and the agony, jealousy, angst, ...... was just the BIGGEST sexual high I ever experienced!! Once we came to an agreement - it became soooooo hot for both of us. And she LOVED to share all the details with me!!

 

[phbbhp238]

For me it's that it has made my sex life with my wife much better! We started when we were looking for ways to spice things up. We looked at a bunch of different stuff, but somehow kept coming back to the hotwife thing. My wife has always been the "driver" in this - it was her idea to actually try it and has decided how we would do it. It has made her much more forward with me, more adventurous in how she dresses (but only for her lovers). I never thought letting my wife fuck other men would be good for my sex life!

 

[robandkate]

I think that the wife fucking other men does wonders for a relationship. I am not a sissy-cuck, so I am only guessing, but I think that for a sissy-cuck, the humiliation of being married to a whore is satisfying on some level. For us hotwife/stag-vixen couples, I think that it is more about instilling a sense of competition.

We know that our wives are sluts/whores and we like them that way. We know that they get hit on all the time by other men and they are likely to accept an invitation to fuck anytime. For me and other husbands like me that we know, it makes us more attentive husbands. I think that we try harder to stay in shape, to be well dressed and well-groomed, and to try harder to please the wife sexually.

I do not respond that way out of fear of losing Kate, I just don't want her to lose interest in having sex with me because she has sex so often with men who are younger, better looking, more muscular, have a bigger cock, and might be better in bed.

 

[Criticalkink]

I think that the wife fucking other men does wonders for a relationship. I am not a sissy-cuck, so I am only guessing, but I think that for a sissy-cuck, the humiliation of being married to a whore is satisfying on some level. For us hotwife/stag-vixen couples, I think that it is more about instilling a sense of competition.

We know that our wives are sluts/whores and we like them that way. We know that they get hit on all the time by other men and they are likely to accept an invitation to fuck anytime. For me and other husbands like me that we know, it makes us more attentive husbands. I think that we try harder to stay in shape, to be well dressed and well-groomed, and to try harder to please the wife sexually.

I do not respond that way out of fear of losing Kate, I just don't want her to lose interest in having sex with me because she has sex so often with men who are younger, better looking, more muscular, have a bigger cock, and might be better in bed.

I’ve said this a million times. I was once asked wasn’t I afraid that another man would have a bigger dick and fuck my wife better than I ever could?”

My answer: I hope so

 

[robandkate]

I’ve said this a million times. I was once asked wasn’t I afraid that another man would have a bigger dick and fuck my wife better than I ever could?”

My answer: I hope so

Exactly!!!

I want every guy who fucks my wife to absolutely rock her world in bed. The more she enjoys having sex with other men the more often she will do it.

 

[Kev627]

Exactly!!!

I want every guy who fucks my wife to absolutely rock her world in bed. The more she enjoys having sex with other men the more often she will do it.

Yes, definitely. But I just find it so unspeakably difficult to enter in to the conversation about it.
"Darling, I want to have more sex with you so will you fuck a stranger for me? The more times the better!"

 

[jane don]

For me it's that it has made my sex life with my wife much better! We started when we were looking for ways to spice things up. We looked at a bunch of different stuff, but somehow kept coming back to the hotwife thing. My wife has always been the "driver" in this - it was her idea to actually try it and has decided how we would do it. It has made her much more forward with me, more adventurous in how she dresses (but only for her lovers). I never thought letting my wife fuck other men would be good for my sex life!

Yes--We tried Sooo many things but for us the cuck/hotwife thing worked the best-- watched Friends /family & acquaintances get divorced but when she passed we were still happily married--That says something-

 

[Myhotwife]

Yes, definitely. But I just find it so unspeakably difficult to enter in to the conversation about it.
"Darling, I want to have more sex with you so will you fuck a stranger for me? The more times the better!"
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It's not easy to bring up...but it does feel so good to get it all out there so she can hear why you like it

 

[verkitwme]

YEs initially I was VERY reluctant...…………….after two years of prodding we took the plunge...……...BEST move I ever made !!

 

[atantonov]

Don't like men who cheat

I was not married she was!

 

[jane don]

For most of us (I think) it starts with telling each other our fantasies or "something Interesting" we read--

 

[verkitwme]

Bottom line………………….IT"S FUN !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[angstme79]

^^^^^^ verkitwme -
I'd love to meet you two for dinner - not for what you'd think ……………….. but just to talk & BS with you!!! I'd love to see the expressions on your faces as you tell me of your fun times!!! My wife hasn't taken the big step - maybe never will ………………… but I know the feelings from some years back with a then-girlfriend. It's like being in the electric chair ...…………… but set to "medium jolt" .................... not fry until dead.

 

[2wheel]

Easy question - difficult answer

1st reason - I enjoy her enjoyment
2nd reason - I enjoy her enjoyment
3rd - refer to reason 1 or 2

Think compersion

On another note there are times I'd rather watch her fuck another guy then fuck me.

Last and not least 'if one needs to ask they wouldn't understand'

 

[Criticalkink]

Easy question - difficult answer

1st reason - I enjoy her enjoyment
2nd reason - I enjoy her enjoyment
3rd - refer to reason 1 or 2

Think compersion

On another note there are times I'd rather watch her fuck another guy then fuck me.

Last and not least 'if one needs to ask they wouldn't understand'

If she has been with the man before and she really enjoyed him then for sure the Next time they hook up I’m straight up watching.

 

[Bdriver]

The psychology of a cuckold fascinates me, as well. Nothing turns me on more than watching another man fuck my wife and deposit his seed in her.

We started in college. With my encouragement, she started fucking my best friend. She loved it. He had a bigger dick than me and he was very dominant. I loved seeing the look in her eyes and the smile on her face as my best friend destroyed her pussy and gave her one orgasm after another.

I figured I was probably gonna lose her thanks to my cuckold kink, but I didn't. As much as she enjoyed fucking him, she didn't want to marry him.

She married me but we made a deal. I knew how much of a slut she was and she knew how much of cuckold I was. The deal was she could fuck whoever she wanted, whenever she wanted and as much as she wanted as long as I got to watch and occasionally participate. That was over 30 years ago and going strong.

 

[verkitwme]

The psychology of a cuckold fascinates me, as well. Nothing turns me on more than watching another man fuck my wife and deposit his seed in her.

We started in college. With my encouragement, she started fucking my best friend. She loved it. He had a bigger dick than me and he was very dominant. I loved seeing the look in her eyes and the smile on her face as my best friend destroyed her pussy and gave her one orgasm after another.

I figured I was probably gonna lose her thanks to my cuckold kink, but I didn't. As much as she enjoyed fucking him, she didn't want to marry him.

She married me but we made a deal. I knew how much of a slut she was and she knew how much of cuckold I was. The deal was she could fuck whoever she wanted, whenever she wanted and as much as she wanted as long as I got to watch and occasionally participate. That was over 30 years ago and going strong.

My kinda couple !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!