Similar experience her..my wife was also bbc exclusive. She was with some many times, but the true picture was her and her regular for 5 years. Saw him at least 2 times a month, usually in our bed. More of a couple in public, holding hands, kissing, touching etc. Would talk on phone almost every day, even with me there.J prefers affairs to one nighters. She has done some, primarily when she was BBC exclusive, but her REAL enjoyment comes from a long term affair with someone she gets to know outside the bedroom first, and then is seduced in to a sexual affair. Emotion is important to her. Her longest was with her Boss/Lover that laste 11 years and broke up over COVID (he got really weird, wouldn't get vaccinated, believed all the crazy theories, had had it 3 times and nearly died the last time, may have it again). Most of them were 6 months to a year. But the emotional attachment is what makes it really work for her.
CW
I encouraged, as did he, a mini vacation which they took together for 3 days and 2 wonderful nights in quainte hotel.