Some questions for the wives

[Little_devil]

Our experience is a little different as we are more swingers than anything and when we do have another guy join us we are together. But for the part about becoming engrossed I will share our experience. Once we started, we jumped in heavy. It was every weekend for months. And we did forgo time with friends and family turning down invitations regularly to enjoy our new lifestyle. We eventually realized we were ignoring important people in our lives and we began to feel bad for making excuses for not spending time with them. We made a conscious effort to slow down and not lose those connections. I think balance is really important.

After a while, we also had a desire to share our lifestyle with friends. We were never ashamed of what we were doing but worried about what others may think of us. In time we decided to tell a few carefully chosen friends who we thought wouldn't look down on us for our choices. Most were shocked, but totally fine with it. A couple were even envious of us. However, one couple surprised us and did not approve and it hurt our relationship with them to the point I really wouldn't consider them friends any longer. We see them at some group gatherings and are friendly with them but it's different for sure. And we never hang out with just them any longer.

As for family, her brother knows a little. He over heard us talking once and we explained it by making it sound like it was a one time thing. I am not sure he believed us about it being just once but my wife didn't want him to know anymore than we accidently let out. And my daughter accidently knows in a horrible way. One night after spending the evening with a guy friend, I went to send pictures I took of the action to my wife. They have the same initials and at a glance similar looking names in my contacts on my phone. Well, I sent them to my daughter. She was away at college at the time. She is my daughter from a previous marriage so my wife's step daughter. She didn't take it well at first. In fact after an initial "why????" response, she didn't talk to me for a couple weeks. I felt horrible. But then we talked it out and it's actually fine. She asked a lot of questions and I was honest with her in my answers. We have a great relationship and while it took a little longer with her step mom, they are fine now as well. Other than a few jokes she makes about it from time to time, it's not really a topic of conversation with her now.

 

[majorem]

I guess it somewhat depends on where you live and the disposition of your friends. I think there is a significant risk for women in more conservative areas of being labeled a whore (but in a bad way) and becoming a town pariah. I mean, look at what has happened to some women when people in town found out they were on only-fans, even if they were sharing relatively mild stuff there and were found out because obviously some dude was enjoying only-fans. I think also, as in the story above, you can end up with women distrusting you because they suddenly think you might want to sleep with their husbands.

Fear of being found out and public shame is a huge part of why my wife has been reluctant to taking the step from fantasy to reality. We also used to post pictures / videos online elsewhere of her playing with toys and such but she was also super paranoid about it. I admire the fact that you're not afraid of people knowing but I definitely think some caution is warranted.

On the other hand, I think you can probably sense which female friends might seem receptive to something like that and sort of test the waters by first revealing something more tame, like that your husbands enjoys seeing you dress sexy in front of other men, or watching you flirt with strange men at a bar, etc... then gradually reveal more increasingly more naughty info if it is received well.

 

[ruby doo 1]

As it was my husband’s desire to watch me taking a much larger black cock than his own little white cock , during the many conversations with him about cuckolding him . He would say if we both agreed to me being with a black guy with a very large cock then how could it be adultery or cheating . But as I have never been with anyone unless my husband is present we have both accepted the enjoyment that we both get and hopefully so does our bull as he uses my body for all our sexual pleasures.

 

[Jalongkok]

This is exactly how I've always felt but you know what, I miss going out with girlfriends and laughing and giggling when talking about out sex lives. Now I just have to make stuff up, I would love to shock them and tell them exactly what we've been doing for the last few years.
I think what @ViennaCouple says is on the money. I might just pick one or two who I trust implicitly and see how it goes.
I just want to share... as well as be shared 😈

You can share with me 😉

 

[Joey69]

My wife is collecting cum,from glory holes to make her own facial lotion. I do admit her skin is soft and has a glow to it.do other wives make their own cum lotion?

 

[Cuckcumsshorts]

Hi all, I’ve been lurking here for quite some time and now I guess it’s my time to post.

My husband and I sort of fell into this lifestyle by accident about three years ago but since that time we’ve become very active and enjoyed what it has to offer.

My question is to other wives really, do you ever feel guilty, feel like you’re cheating? Now I know I’m not cheating but still three years later it feels like I’m doing something wrong. I enjoy my time with other people and my husband loves hearing all the details so I know there is nothing to worry about from that regard but there’s just that nagging feeling that won’t go away.

My husband thinks it’s because we are very secretive and wants to out ourselves to the world so we can just be who we are. People will either accept us or won’t but at least we’ll know where we stand. The thought of being able to open up to some girlfriends quite excites me but the risks attached seem huge. Has anyone gone down this path? How did it go? Do other women treat you differently if you’re around their partners once they know thinking you might try something?

Sorry for the barrage of questions. We’re totally engrossed in this but I feel I’m drifting away from family and friends so I can spend another night or weekend with a lover. Do people set limits, like only once a week/month? Have you ever declined invitations from friends because you would rather spend the weekend with a lover? I’ve been finding that when I go out with friends that all I think about is what I could be doing instead.

Thanks.

Cuck here , very normal , I pushed for her too cuck me years , so she likes telling me I warned u be careful what u asked for.now i will never go back and never stop fucking his monster cock . and I always say I did and you have no reason too feel bad ,, and I love you more every time he pleasures you ,, you deserve it n need it .
You are in control

 

[Mr.G The Sweet]

We’re just starting out and only have had one experience so far. We want this to be an “Us” thing for now. He will be present ori will if or when we are looking to have a female join us. My first time had a very taboo feeling before,during, and after. But still enjoyed it while my husband watched.

Good girl!

 

[widowedcuck]

Your feeling that way is probably somewhat normal. With us I don't really go out with guys by myself. We normally just have guys over for MFM. However if i did go out on a date etc. i would probably be thinking about what my husband is doing etc. We are totally open with each other and most likely he would want me to video having sex with my lover so he can see all the details later. We are not secretive really about our lifestyle but we don't advertise to people openly.

My Wife and l share similarities with you and your husband. 6 weeks into our dating life l asked my new girlfriend if she wanted to accompany me to a nudist festival in Roselawn, In. Right off she said she didn't want to go naked. I told her neither do l. I was planning on buying you a very fashionable bikini swimsuit and l would wear nice shorts, tennis shoes and a smile. She went.
Hyapatia Lee emceed the event. There was a Miss Nude Galaxie and Nude Galaxie Man of the Year contests. Most of the women, but not all, were tittie bar dancers from throughout the midwest. Chicago, Detroit, St Louis, Louisville, Indianapolis, etc.
My future wife came to me once, telling me there was a small herd of photographers following her and taking photos. I said,"Whadda ya want me to say? There is 3 or 4 hundred naked women here and they WANT your picture. If l wanted an unattractive woman with me, l'd have done so. I WANTED YOU.
Oooh that put it in a totally different light. We also were fortunate to spend a little time with Hyapatia. She encouraged my girl to enjoy her natural sensuality, not hide it. Have some fun when the opportunity presents itself. Know you have a good man that adores you and loves showing you off. Years later we attended a Gentleman's Club in downtown Indianapolis with Hyapatia Lee as the featured Entertainer. A question and answer session with her followed her dance performance. I can't thank Hyapatia enough. She reinforced the things she told my then-girlfriend to my now-wife. And she did so in a sweet, down to earth way.
At the "Nudes-A-Poppin" festival, July 1985, with my then-girlfriend soaking up the attention from her herd of followers, we befriended a man with a VCR camera. I invited him to follow us back to our hotel if he wanted some really good footage.
Our new friend captured about an hour and 45 minutes of quality lovemaking. l was 24, my girl 28. "l did not know our age difference until after we'd been dating 2 years.My family taught me to never discuss a lady's age, weight, or politics. I never did."
I nutted inside her 4 times. Right after my 3rd ejaculation, with my cock still inside her and beginning to soften l asked my girl if she felt any sympathy or appreciation for our new friend's efforts on our behalf. "Would you let him put his obviously straining hard member in your pussy and let him thrust in and out a few times to see just how good that pussy is?"
She thought for a time. Probably felt mine beginning to swell again. Seeing how incredibly turned on l get when showing her off.....and agreed. (All this on film mind you)
The cameraman apparently got stage fright and declined the offer of easing his cock into my

 

[widowedcuck]

Your feeling that way is probably somewhat normal. With us I don't really go out with guys by myself. We normally just have guys over for MFM. However if i did go out on a date etc. i would probably be thinking about what my husband is doing etc. We are totally open with each other and most likely he would want me to video having sex with my lover so he can see all the details later. We are not secretive really about our lifestyle but we don't advertise to people openly.

 

[Vincenzo]

Most of her her friends know, she has actually recruited a couple of guys from them due to them saying they had large cocks. Only my best friend knows of my friends, and he and his wife are regs of ours.

 

[dickhurtz]

Yes I can see that and agree. I'm just finding that the longer and further we move along our experience in this lifestyle that our normal is more towards the scene than it is away from it. Then I question why can't I be the normal me all the time. I'm tired of living two lives. I'm the good faithful wife to all our family and friends but the horny slut with an understanding husband at all other times. I guess it's true that the two can never merge but a girl can dream can't she?

We had dinner with friends the other night, four couples, and later in the night the guys were outside watching some sport and we were inside with the usual girl talk. As it does the conversation eventually gets around to sex and I am just itching to share. Instead I talk about my kinky night with my hubby having sex in the shower when I'd really like to tell them about having sex in the shower with a couple while my hubby only got to watch. I'm lying to my friends and I wish I didn't have to. I hope that makes sense.

there is a subtle way to start a conversation with one of your GFs. if you have a job, maybe tell the best GF about the guy at work, or grocery store, or the mailman, whomever, that drives you crazy. he is constantly flirting with you & you are really tempted to respond positively. that will start a conversation & you can take it wherever it goes.
i think you get the idea. good luck.