Question for husbands and wives.

[Stevens4fun]

Somebody already said these relationships can go in all kinds of directions, each time. (paraphrasing a bit). Long story short: my wife and I both wanted her to enjoy sex with a certain coworker she fantasized about. We'd been married a few years and felt no risk to our marriage. He too was married and we felt he wasn't "...... around," and over time we learned that was true. In truth, it was my wife who was more likely to stray....

He and my wife sometimes worked together on the same out of town assignments. We knew his wife and none of us wanted to break up marriages. My wife called their relationship a "special friendship" and although that friendship was probably consumated many times before my wife and I married, I've never directly asked her about it. She'll share the story when the time is right (like when we are in bed....). At some point she (in her words) caught feelings for him, but, she said (tearfully, as she noticed the look of concern on my face) "I can love two men and it will not impact our marriage, or I can break my relationship with him off now." We talked and talked and decided to continue her relationship with him. The fact was that my wife's weekly sex with her BF was supercharging our marital sex life. Selfish asshole that I am I didn't want all that to end.

My wife and her BF started with sex in hotels (near where they were working on a project), and moved to the extra bedroom in our home from time to time. I was never in bed with them. 3 years later he and my wife decided to end the sex side of their relationship when we had a pregnancy scare and his wife was feeling insecure. It was in fact painful for my wife when it ended - you don't think about the end game when you plunge in at the start of it all and the end was rough. We are still married 20+ years after all of this happened. We have lost track of my wife's lover.

This is way too long, sorry, cut out as much as I could.

 

[TommyFunn]

my wife and I had a rocky start to the lifestyle, at times we loved it and at times we felt like we had ruined our marriage. After a few trial and error attempt I discover the best approach that worked for us. I got to learn the type of guy my wife was aroused by so ultimately we made dating profiles were I handled all interactions, I even started knowing her likes better than she knew herself. I would of course get to know the guys first and would tell them that the contact and communication with my wife would be strictly in the bedroom or place where we would meet.

I might need to see if that's an option should the opportunity arise.

 

[owlmale]

Every couple has to find their own way in the lifestyle. However, if you want your wife to have a LTR boyfriend experience they are going to develop feelings for each other. Nearly all of my relationships have been long term and in most cases she and I fell in love. The relationship between a wife and lover can be incredible in the intensity of the romance, excitement, pleasure and yes, love. No other relationship can match the level of intensity especially when that relationship exists within the triad of the wife-lover-husband dynamic.
Any experienced serious Bull understands this and understands that the unique intensity he is experiencing is only because he is enjoying all this within the marriage. I am not interested in taking your wife away from your marriage, I am interested in taking your wife in your marriage and I will always remind her that this incredible pleasure is happening because the her husband has agreed to her taking her sexual and emotional freedom. He has given her the freedom to explore within the safe space of her marriage. I never take for granted that being invited into a marriage is a privilege.
So, yes she will fall in love but it will not be the love she has for you. Women are emotionally wiser and stronger than men and they are uniquely capable of balancing multiple relationships. Most already do in the wife, ......, grandma, teacher, driver, etc. You will be surprised how easily they add lover to it.

Very well said.

 

[Vixenlover]

I agree 100% with Bull above

 

[Straightshot22]

I can relate to your situation. My wife and I have spoken about the same thing, she’s known about my fantasy for over a year now.
She’s really into it when we are having sex and using toys to simulate the fantasy. Then afterwards seems to go cold on the matter. I’m beginning to think just to leave it at fantasy and continue with the role play as she’s happy with that.
I’m interested to see replies to this thread and how your situation evolves. All the best in dealing with this.

Your situation sounds like mine my wife is really into it while we are playing in bed even when she plays by herself with her favorite dildo but goes cold to it when I bring up her fucking a guy with a big cock

 

[Hot4mywife]

I'm married for 12 years and have had cuck fantasies for 10 of those years. My wife knows the details and uses it as pillow talk to really get me off. We play around with the idea but she isn't so sure about trying other men again. (We did a mmf threesome with a guy 2 times years ago). Her biggest concern is that she worries about getting romantic feelings for a potential lover and my fear is losing her heart. I told her I would share her body with men of her choosing for her pleasure and my enjoyment but only if she'll make it about sex only and maybe a friendship should there be a regular guy. She has concerns about the unknown and so do I. My question to the ladies and men who have a lot of experience is this. What can I do, we do, if anything at all to eliminate the possibility of that happening? Should we try another angle or leave this as strictly a fantasy?

Our experience is that you should not be concerned about it if you marriage is good.

Your wife has the ability to love more than one man romantically the same way parents can love multiple children.

The amount of lovers she might fall in love with will be minimal because guys who maybe sexual matches, won't me socal matches and vis versa. Additionally guys will be flakes etc.. if she does develop romantic feelings for a regular lover it will make the sex for her and him better. Don't we all want our wives to have great sex?

 

[toolman2c]

Somebody already said these relationships can go in all kinds of directions, each time. (paraphrasing a bit). Long story short: my wife and I both wanted her to enjoy sex with a certain coworker she fantasized about. We'd been married a few years and felt no risk to our marriage. He too was married and we felt he wasn't "...... around," and over time we learned that was true. In truth, it was my wife who was more likely to stray....

He and my wife sometimes worked together on the same out of town assignments. We knew his wife and none of us wanted to break up marriages. My wife called their relationship a "special friendship" and although that friendship was probably consumated many times before my wife and I married, I've never directly asked her about it. She'll share the story when the time is right (like when we are in bed....). At some point she (in her words) caught feelings for him, but, she said (tearfully, as she noticed the look of concern on my face) "I can love two men and it will not impact our marriage, or I can break my relationship with him off now." We talked and talked and decided to continue her relationship with him. The fact was that my wife's weekly sex with her BF was supercharging our marital sex life. Selfish asshole that I am I didn't want all that to end.

My wife and her BF started with sex in hotels (near where they were working on a project), and moved to the extra bedroom in our home from time to time. I was never in bed with them. 3 years later he and my wife decided to end the sex side of their relationship when we had a pregnancy scare and his wife was feeling insecure. It was in fact painful for my wife when it ended - you don't think about the end game when you plunge in at the start of it all and the end was rough. We are still married 20+ years after all of this happened. We have lost track of my wife's lover.

This is way too long, sorry, cut out as much as I could.

Has ur wife been without eXtra cock past few yrs? Or is she/u2 still play in this eXciting Taboo?

 

[Loridan]

We get with a guy we know pretty regularly. Other than him we have very little experience with this.
We've done it many many times with him. First times were very weird an scary as hell after...like what are we doing??
It's much better now.
He's the UPS guy where she works. She dosent see him very often but he delivers the same time every day so can easily say hi anytime.
It's only sex fun, we've never gone out with him at all, he usually visits our home, we've been to his place three times.
It's very very obvious she likes sex with him, they kiss, do oral on each other and fuck any way they like, as much as they like when he's with us. I step in often especially when he's recovering.
He has a bigger dick than me for sure but she's never said anything about his size, if he's better or anything. She gets REALLY turned on when he's with us and wants it all night. We always do her twice each, there's been nights he's done 4 and I did three.
I'm 99% sure she doesn't have feelings for him other than having very romantic sex fun while I watch.

 

[JHotbrewer]

Our situation is different. My Filipina wife used to offer her charms to supplement her maid wages in Hong Kong. So she got into lots of sex and enjoyed it. That's why I share her now. But it's just sex and she has a group of about six to choose from, so no attachment to any one. If she had not had her experience and only now had just one lover, I'd be more cautious.

 

[Straightshot22]

Your situation sounds like mine my wife is really into it while we are playing in bed even when she plays by herself with her favorite dildo but goes cold to it when I bring up her fucking a guy with a big cock

I'd like to add to my comment that while we are playing together and she getting fucked good by her bbc dildo I'll ask her if she wishes it was a real one she always says yes I think she'd fuck ever guy in the room at that point she's that into it

 

[Stevens4fun]

Has ur wife been without eXtra cock past few yrs? Or is she/u2 still play in this eXciting Taboo?

Wish I could say still active. She's been through the change, and things have tamed way down. 8 years since last cock.

 

[spark63]

Somebody already said these relationships can go in all kinds of directions, each time. (paraphrasing a bit). Long story short: my wife and I both wanted her to enjoy sex with a certain coworker she fantasized about. We'd been married a few years and felt no risk to our marriage. He too was married and we felt he wasn't "...... around," and over time we learned that was true. In truth, it was my wife who was more likely to stray....

He and my wife sometimes worked together on the same out of town assignments. We knew his wife and none of us wanted to break up marriages. My wife called their relationship a "special friendship" and although that friendship was probably consumated many times before my wife and I married, I've never directly asked her about it. She'll share the story when the time is right (like when we are in bed....). At some point she (in her words) caught feelings for him, but, she said (tearfully, as she noticed the look of concern on my face) "I can love two men and it will not impact our marriage, or I can break my relationship with him off now." We talked and talked and decided to continue her relationship with him. The fact was that my wife's weekly sex with her BF was supercharging our marital sex life. Selfish asshole that I am I didn't want all that to end.

My wife and her BF started with sex in hotels (near where they were working on a project), and moved to the extra bedroom in our home from time to time. I was never in bed with them. 3 years later he and my wife decided to end the sex side of their relationship when we had a pregnancy scare and his wife was feeling insecure. It was in fact painful for my wife when it ended - you don't think about the end game when you plunge in at the start of it all and the end was rough. We are still married 20+ years after all of this happened. We have lost track of my wife's lover.

This is way too long, sorry, cut out as much as I could.

I can honestly say that I love my wife and also two other women. I know that my wife also feels a very strong love for other men. We love each other deeply. We also love our relationship. There is no limit to the capacity of the heart.

 

[Mr.G The Sweet]

I like regular long term friends and I do not get romantic feelings for them. To me it’s not even a possibility. I don’t go on dates to bars or restaurants, I don’t watch tv/movies with them, no sle ep overs. Those are not our rules, I don’t want any of that at all. We meet, we talk a bit usually over a drink, we have our fun, maybe talk a bit more, then see you next time. It’s a sex friend, that’s all we do together and that’s all we will ever be. I already love my husband and I don’t want a divorce, especially for some guy who fucks married women as a past time. I do like to like them as a friend and have a great time with them but love is not even on the radar. That’s crazy talk, but maybe she’s telling you that she can’t separate the two or that if she does this she will be looking to replace you. I’d definitely talk about why she feels that way. They are living breathing sex toys and I’m the same for them. If a play friend told me he loved me or had real romantic feelings I would never see him again. I simply don’t want anything like that.It’s casual recreational sex for fun, thats it. Why would she think that, that is a mystery to me and probably something you should find out

Do you really like long term? Because You didn't show that.