One for the wives.

So I totally know this is irrational and it’s something that I deal with but I wanted to know if other wives have the same issue. I have 2 boyfriends, I get to ...... with who I want whenever I like. I have weekends away with my boyfriends and basically totally freedom of my sex life. This obviously applies to my husband but it’s not something he takes advantage of very often, we do lots of stuff together (which I totally love) but and here is the the but when he does go on a date I get totally and irrational jealousy. It kills me! I obviously try not to show it and I would never stop him from doing or seeing anyone, but it kills me. I have asked him loads of times is it the fact that it makes me feel the way I do is it why he doesn’t see many people on his own and he has assured me it isn’t but I think it must be on his mind.
I want him to have the same freedom of me, I really do! I think I need help 😂
 
So I totally know this is irrational and it’s something that I deal with but I wanted to know if other wives have the same issue. I have 2 boyfriends, I get to ...... with who I want whenever I like. I have weekends away with my boyfriends and basically totally freedom of my sex life. This obviously applies to my husband but it’s not something he takes advantage of very often, we do lots of stuff together (which I totally love) but and here is the the but when he does go on a date I get totally and irrational jealousy. It kills me! I obviously try not to show it and I would never stop him from doing or seeing anyone, but it kills me. I have asked him loads of times is it the fact that it makes me feel the way I do is it why he doesn’t see many people on his own and he has assured me it isn’t but I think it must be on his mind.
I want him to have the same freedom of me, I really do! I think I need help 😂
I think he could very well be telling the truth. My wife and I have an open relationship in theory but it’s very one sided in practise. It’s nice now and then to have sex with another woman but (with one exception) it doesn’t happen very often. The fact is I get more excited by her fucking other men than I do from fucking other women. So I’m guessing your husband is the same and he’s very happy with the arrangement as it stands. If you were asking the question on a swinging site you might get a different answer but on here, I think I’m probably in the majority. So I wouldn’t worry about it too much. Would he not say if he wasn’t happy with how things are?
James
 
I agree with the 2 replies above actually, I have never had any desire to be with another woman but want my wife to have as much fun as possible. Early in our journey she did struggle to understand my position, and for a time thought that I wanted her to be with other men to give me an excuse to be with other women. Now we see it as very much normal. But do agree that on a swinging site, you would probably hear a different response.
 
I agree with the 2 replies above actually, I have never had any desire to be with another woman but want my wife to have as much fun as possible. Early in our journey she did struggle to understand my position, and for a time thought that I wanted her to be with other men to give me an excuse to be with other women. Now we see it as very much normal. But do agree that on a swinging site, you would probably hear a different response.
It’s probably incomprehensible to a lot of people outside the lifestyle that you can you can get a more intense feeling of arousal from your wife getting fucked than from having sex with someone else yourself. Indescribable if you’ve never experienced it but all too familiar for those of us who have.
J.
 
Agree with above. We have an open realtionship and my husband is free to have sex with other women. However, he would much rather see me with another guy than to have sex with another woman. He says it is so intense watching another male have pleasure with me that he could never match that with another woman.
 
So I totally know this is irrational and it’s something that I deal with but I wanted to know if other wives have the same issue. I have 2 boyfriends, I get to ...... with who I want whenever I like. I have weekends away with my boyfriends and basically totally freedom of my sex life. This obviously applies to my husband but it’s not something he takes advantage of very often, we do lots of stuff together (which I totally love) but and here is the the but when he does go on a date I get totally and irrational jealousy. It kills me! I obviously try not to show it and I would never stop him from doing or seeing anyone, but it kills me. I have asked him loads of times is it the fact that it makes me feel the way I do is it why he doesn’t see many people on his own and he has assured me it isn’t but I think it must be on his mind.
I want him to have the same freedom of me, I really do! I think I need help 😂
The big thing to think about here is, are you aware of hidden jealousies that he harbors when another man is inside of you? I like to think it's best that if you're in an open relationship that there should be full equality all around. If one of you is uncomfortable to the point that it has a negative effect on your relationship, maybe it's time to be monogamous again. Not saying that's your case but that's all I have.
 
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The big thing to think about here is, are you aware of hidden jealousies that he harbors when another man is inside of you? I like to think it's best that if you're in an open relationship that there should be full equality all around. If one of you is uncomfortable to the point that it has a negative effect on your relationship, maybe it's time to be monogamous again. Not saying that's your case but that's all I have.
No it’s the total opposite, he tells me all the time how much he enjoys watching me with another guy. There definitely isn’t any hidden jealousy on his part.
 
These posts relate to exactly how we operate. Years ago things may have been different but nowadays I have no interest at all in having sex with other women . Now I get all the pleasure I want by watching my wife have sex with different guys. I may occasionally join in but most of the time I'm more than happy to just watch and record. My advice to couples who've never tried this is go for it, it's incredible and such a turn on just watching, I guarantee you'll be hard watching.