My wife has a serious boyfriend, it was more me that pushed the idea that being married doesn’t stop her from having a boyfriend. It wasn’t something that we rushed into. But when she found the right guy it quickly progressed. He works out of the country for long periods of time and then is home for either long weekends or a couple of weeks before he’s off again. This is the main reason he has not had a long term relationship in a few years. They met on a SPAM and she was very honest about our relationship from the outset. It has taken a bit of adjustment for us all but it works really well. He is genuinely a great guy and I can see why my wife has fallen for him, and him for her.
She started by spending weekends with him when he was home, all three of us would meet up in a restaurant have a meal and then she would go back with him. It’s not something he’s ever been into before (sharing a woman, he is not in the lifestyle at all). It’s not always run smoothly and there have been ups and downs, but if you all want something it takes work.
When Bee is with him, she is his girlfriend, she’s met most of his friends and his parents. They don’t know that she’s married, she has clothes and everything else at his place. We generally meet up halfway between ours and his, the last thing she does before she goes back with him is take of her wedding and engagement ring and leave them with me, I must admit that was hard the first time we did that.
I know they have very deep feelings for each other, I never ask her about her time with him that’s her and his relationship. But I know she always comes back in a great mood.