How to Bring up the Subject " I want to watch you FUCK other men" Any Advice

First off I'm not sure how to start up the conversation with the wife. I'm afraid she might think I'm weird or pervy. We've been together for several years and I've always have had this fantasy of another guy fucking her or in a MFM threesome. I feel like she MAY enjoy it, but don't want to lose her trust in me. So how do you bring up the subject without her freaking out? This is a super fantasy for me and I think about it all the time. Every time we're having sex I fantasizes in my head that she is getting fuck by someone else. She is in her mid 40's and still looks fucking awesome. I don't care about fucking another woman. I just want to be in the same room with her being fucked. So I found this website and created a profile for any advice.
 
There is no single answer.

I’m an average guy in most ways. I met my wife (my second) as a 44 year old never married. I’ve seen photos of her previous lovers. Let’s imagine 6 per year for 24 years? Or pick another number. I was married the first time for 24 years and never strayed. You get it?

My new wife and I have talked and talked about our fantasies, experiences and MORE importantly our needs. I can’t say that any of it isn’t complicated but it is important.

I never shared many of those needs and fantasies with my first wife.

In the throes of passion ask her what SHE is thinking about. All HER fantasies. Be open. She may be shy about revealing them if she doesn’t feel safe revealing those secrets. It takes time. Reassure her on the fantasies that match hers. No matter what you hear, make her feel it’s safe to share her wants and needs. Help her fulfill them, I’m confident she’ll help you fulfill yours.

Lastly, as long as it might take nobody wants to be rushed.
 
I would start by making her aware that there is such a thing as cuckolding by casually mentioning a couple you've heard are involved or maybe a magazine article you came across. Plant the seed and let it nurture as they say, you need to play a long game here so as not to spook her.
sounds like a way
 
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First off I'm not sure how to start up the conversation with the wife. I'm afraid she might think I'm weird or pervy. We've been together for several years and I've always have had this fantasy of another guy fucking her or in a MFM threesome. I feel like she MAY enjoy it, but don't want to lose her trust in me. So how do you bring up the subject without her freaking out? This is a super fantasy for me and I think about it all the time. Every time we're having sex I fantasizes in my head that she is getting fuck by someone else. She is in her mid 40's and still looks fucking awesome. I don't care about fucking another woman. I just want to be in the same room with her being fucked. So I found this website and created a profile for any advice.
I told my wife about 3 months after we started dating. This is what im into...................
 
Wait for a sexual mood and bring up fantasies and porn and hey I saw this porn I think I would enjoy this would you fuck another guy for me? My ex got me to swinging I asked you what was wrong she said honestly we've been together for a little while I'm Miss fucking other guys I just want to fuck a random guy now and then so I said thank you for honesty I love that let's do it and I don't regret it I love sharing her
 
First off I'm not sure how to start up the conversation with the wife. I'm afraid she might think I'm weird or pervy. We've been together for several years and I've always have had this fantasy of another guy fucking her or in a MFM threesome. I feel like she MAY enjoy it, but don't want to lose her trust in me. So how do you bring up the subject without her freaking out? This is a super fantasy for me and I think about it all the time. Every time we're having sex I fantasizes in my head that she is getting fuck by someone else. She is in her mid 40's and still looks fucking awesome. I don't care about fucking another woman. I just want to be in the same room with her being fucked. So I found this website and created a profile for any advice.
There is no simple answer,took me ages to tell her and I told her while I was fucking her,we spoke after and she wasn’t interested but the more we had sex the more she wanted to know,the times we would get ...... together the more she wanted ti know,then I brought her a big black dildo and asked her to fuck it in front of me,we then roll played a lot then she allowed me to take pics and come on here and post them,but this all took time,maybe 2 years overall from telling her to coming on here,now it’s a huge huge turn on for her,she gets so wet now,once she knew I was a little embarrassed at first and took me time for her to realise I wasn’t looking for girls so we could swap couples,just for her to be fucked in front of me,I never brought it up unless she mentioned it to me,then I’d explain my fantasy and how much she will enjoy it
 
Thanks you for all the replies so far. It's actually all I'm thinking about lately. I do not want to fuck it up when I bring up the subject and scare her off from the idea. There is so much negative stuff reading on the internet about how it will destroy a relationship. So I want to proceed with caution. These are some of my reasons why I want this.

1. She is a lot younger then me 18 years difference. I just want her to be happy and sexually satisfied. We were so hot for each other in the beginning. Now and for the last couple of years I'm feel my age. I do not want to have sex with other women and I've thought about this for a long time.

2. Her libido is still in full swing. She did not loss her virginity until her early 20's. If she had her way she would have sex everyday. Me not so much anymore. As long as it was just sex outside of the marriage I do believe I would be okay with it and not get jealous. I would be okay with a 1 on 1 meeting (me close by of course for protection), but it also excites to be able to see her get off fucking another guy (bull as they call him). If possible jointing in on on the action with a MFM threesome or having her afterwards.

My plans are to continue to spoil her and hold out on having sex with her. Thinking she will get tired of self-service and her dildo.
 
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First off I'm not sure how to start up the conversation with the wife. I'm afraid she might think I'm weird or pervy. We've been together for several years and I've always have had this fantasy of another guy fucking her or in a MFM threesome. I feel like she MAY enjoy it, but don't want to lose her trust in me. So how do you bring up the subject without her freaking out? This is a super fantasy for me and I think about it all the time. Every time we're having sex I fantasizes in my head that she is getting fuck by someone else. She is in her mid 40's and still looks fucking awesome. I don't care about fucking another woman. I just want to be in the same room with her being fucked. So I found this website and created a profile for any advice.
Shows us pics at least to jerk it....it turns me on when i see men checking out my 30 yo wifes tits
 
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After further research I find that I'm not a cuckold want to be. I would say that I'm more of a Stag and she would be a Vixen/Hotwife. According to the urban dictionary. She plays outside the marriage and I'm okay with that. Got that cleared up, so what's the next step. How to tell her it's okay for her to play without her freaking out. If I was a woman this would be an awesome idea.
 
I would invite you to share more of her history and proclivities. Sometimes, a woman's habits will suggest a course of action.

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Example — if your wife reads novels, consider buying works by the best female writers of women’s erotica. There are Maya Banks’ works such as ‘Feversong’ and/or ‘After the Night,’ which deal with erotic themes and complex relationships. There are others also.

Once she’s had come context for this,

Check Goodreads. Look for reviews. If her interest is in history or romance or adventure, look for works that reflect her current reading. Find stuff that has plot, strong characters with female lead roles, that face ethical dilemmas and have character development.

You could also do research and find the best websites with erotica for women, written by women. Then buy her a subscription as a gift. If other women have already worked through this stuff — why not let THEM do the ‘convincing?’

With some context, some new ideas encountered, some emotional exploration … who knows?! It might let her react to this as a more ‘normal’ conversation. Or at least something she’s met before. Even if the idea is startling, it shouldn’t be totally new.

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‘ … don't want to lose her trust in me.’

This is simply huge. Very likely, her greatest concern/fear is that you would lose your trust in her.

I suggest that you begin studying the many varied and vital issues that go with the lifestyle territory. I would do that, NOT to have a ‘quick comeback’ to whatever point she might make; the idea is rather to offer something which involves a new paradigm, and which, at the same time, serves what she wants from you most.

What if this fear really stems from our untapped potential, and our shame is a mask for the exhilarating freedom that comes from acknowledging and surrendering to the fantasy?

Or, what if this renews connection and intimacy, and brings passion and trust to a whole, new level we never even knew existed?

We should probably give things some real thought and pass along what we are learning a bit at a time.

Our wives probably won’t do this because we have quick and easy answers for each objection. Wives will likely do this because we started and supported an inward process of reflection that connected you with her heart.
 
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First off I'm not sure how to start up the conversation with the wife. I'm afraid she might think I'm weird or pervy. We've been together for several years and I've always have had this fantasy of another guy fucking her or in a MFM threesome. I feel like she MAY enjoy it, but don't want to lose her trust in me. So how do you bring up the subject without her freaking out? This is a super fantasy for me and I think about it all the time. Every time we're having sex I fantasizes in my head that she is getting fuck by someone else. She is in her mid 40's and still looks fucking awesome. I don't care about fucking another woman. I just want to be in the same room with her being fucked. So I found this website and created a profile for any advice.

this is a slow and steady process that requires baby steps. now unless you know your wife can be a little promiscuous, then its fine. if she is not then it takes strategy and time.

now, if your wife is leading the charge and dropping hints about sharing herself, then this is not for you. this is when you are the cuckold wannabe.

first, the impt question is whether she is able to fantasise. this is never an easy question to answer as it involves many factors. most impt of which is whether she IS ABLE to at the very least, fantasise with you about being a hotwife. THIS IS KEY.

if she has not, then it is a harder hill to climb.

1. there are some things that you must first learn - patience and persistence. these are your tools to help you achieve this.

2. never push her. let her do this on her own terms. not yours. you must be very very patient in getting your fantasy to be a reality. always let her think she is in control of it. this means that if she does not want to talk or fantasise anymore, stop. respect her wishes. start again another time. but be persistent. she will give in eventually.

this is a slow and steady process and your Mrs MUST always have the feeling that she is in control. ALWAYS! This reassures her that should she want to stop, IT WILL BE STOPPED. only then will she trust you. trust is key.

3. AGAIN REMEMBER that the focus here is your wife. not you and what you desire her to do for you (please understand this as they will learn the truth).

this was how i convinced my wife......

my mrs loves to suck cock. she really loves it as she can go for an hour or more just sucking on one. and you will only enjoy having your cock sucked IF the person sucking enjoys what she is doing. i should know this as im her hubby. she loves to swallow too. and not the porn you watch type where they spit it out! she love to taste it and swallow (i suppose this was the thing that turned me bi too as i loved watching her do it so much that i too got hooked).

so during my convincing her to join a swing party, i bought a vibrator and when she was sucking my cock, i used the vibrator on her. now when she sucks she is in heaven and then applying the vibe on her pussy was the ultimate for her. i used that moment to fantasise that it was a mutual friend. an american guy that we knew (she is partial to orang putih). this method me helped a great deal in convincing her that another cock or cocks would be great in our sex life. so i did this time and time again. this was the persistent part. as long as she likes sex, half the battle is won. never did i suggest that we have sex with the american guy as she was reluctant at first.

about 4th month - the reluctance soon gave way. and she began to allow me to talk to her about a third person.

about 8th month - then i began to ask her things. and she answered!! with this i knew i was doing the right things.

10th month - while having sex SHE asked for the vibrator.

after a year of some hard work she finally agreed to join in a swing party. and the rest is history. this was the patience part. she enjoyed herself at the party. and it was enjoyable to watch her too.

so keep plugging at it. always remember that the focus is on her. not you.

we began with swinging, then moved gradually (as my cuckold side began to emerge) to threesomes and finally cuckolding. this is something i really enjoy. i especially watching the action up close (like in fucklicking) as it is so intoxicating.

as i noted, patience, persistence, and non-pushy.

secondly, compliment her dressing, her beauty, her sexiness. but do it truthfully. women can tell if you are bull-shitting or there's something behind the compliments.

send her flowers, chocolates at her workplace. let her feel proud in front of her friends, family. this builds confidence.

this is an entire package of things you need to do. men are different. we only want 1 thing. with women it takes many things. and your heart.

i did all these things to convince, cajole and encourage my wife. it took me more than a year before she agreed to join me in a swing party. happiest moment of my life.

rushing into cuckolding
sharing your wife is already a big step. getting her to cuckold you is even greater. so consider taking this one step at a time.

my advice to you is to leave out the cuckolding part of it for now. That will come later. Currently you are only focused on your needs which is for her to cuckold you.

So leave that part out for now. instead, focus on HER PLEASURES. make sure she reaches new heights, better climaxes and mind-blowing pleasures. Get her more involved in the sex. Introduce a dildo, if you have not already. Then show her 3some porn - mmf, orgies, gbs where there are more men than women. This will engage her curiosity about having more than one cock.

but always keep these in mind - persistence, patience, non-pushy.

this is all a plan.....as once she starts experiencing all these new things, your sex life will change and then you slowly bring cuckolding into place. so your time will come my friend.

that will be the ultimate. get her the tools. and then fuck her with it, while watching a nice cuckold porn movie. find out who she likes to fuck her. colleague, neighbour, friend etc. then introduce the vibrator as the person. in her pussy or mouth while your cock does the free hole. your wish to be cuckolded will come (cum??) true.

i know. as i followed this path and it was successful.


dan