How to Bring up the Subject " I want to watch you FUCK other men" Any Advice

I think the best thing is to introduce some fantasy play / porn first to help normalize the idea. Have her go down on you while you use a dildo on her. Say you think it would be hot to watch porn together or have her watch some porn on a tablet while you go down on her. Initially you can let her just browse around, then at some point, steer her toward some MFM. At first, just do it and let her enjoy it, don't talk about the cock being "another man" until later on, once she's used to the dildo play. My wife likes to get DPed with my cock and the dildo and gets turned on now when I talk dirty, asking her if she's a slut who needs two cocks and she'll say things like "I want to feel them both cum in me at once." It took quite some time to get here though...

I straight up told my wife some years ago that I thought it would be hot to see her with another man and she got super upset, cried, thought I secretly wanted to be with another woman, I didn't love her enough, etc... but then the next day she was ready to make up and we talked, I explained why it turned me on and then she was horny and we had sex lol.

Some wives are open to the idea right off or say they aren't but don't get upset. I got the more challenging end of the spectrum and so its been slow going. What's funny though is all along, I've known the idea turns her on, she just initially couldn't admit it to herself, then me... was worried it wasn't normal, etc. I think for a long time she also had this fear that no matter what I was saying I wanted, that maybe it was some kind of trap or I'd get upset even if it was my idea.

She hasn't been with another man yet but now she's pretty into the fantasy, especially after some drinks. She loves sucking my cock while I use a dildo on her or, what was really hot recently is her fucking a dildo suction-cupped to the headboard while I watched, then she went down on me. She even has asked if I want to do that again. Last time I had her watch porn on my tablet while I went down on her, I handed it to her with a video ready where a guy watches his wife get fucked, then the other man cums in her and leave, and she turns around so her pussy is over her husband's cock and lets the other man's cum drip out onto his cock, which he then uses to masturbate before fucking her and adding a second load to her pussy. She watched a number of videos while I went down on her and after my wife came, I asked her which video she liked the most and she said the one with the wife dripping cum on the husband's cock. 😏

So... I've gone from my wife being offended and upset to her being really into the fantasy and I think maybe ready to take another step... but it took quite some time to here. Anything is possible though with patience and communication. A big thing for my wife earlier on was seeing me get hard and cum during fantasy talk about her taking other cocks, which was indisputable for her that I was really turned on by this idea. I remember her saying something like "wow, you really do like this."

Part of the problem is, with some wives, just explaining things with words isn't enough - they have to be shown and see how you react, before they're ready to accept it and let themselves get into it.
 
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Thanks you for all the replies so far. It's actually all I'm thinking about lately. I do not want to fuck it up when I bring up the subject and scare her off from the idea. There is so much negative stuff reading on the internet about how it will destroy a relationship. So I want to proceed with caution. These are some of my reasons why I want this.

1. She is a lot younger then me 18 years difference. I just want her to be happy and sexually satisfied. We were so hot for each other in the beginning. Now and for the last couple of years I'm feel my age. I do not want to have sex with other women and I've thought about this for a long time.

2. Her libido is still in full swing. She did not loss her virginity until her early 20's. If she had her way she would have sex everyday. Me not so much anymore. As long as it was just sex outside of the marriage I do believe I would be okay with it and not get jealous. I would be okay with a 1 on 1 meeting (me close by of course for protection), but it also excites to be able to see her get off fucking another guy (bull as they call him). If possible jointing in on on the action with a MFM threesome or having her afterwards.

My plans are to continue to spoil her and hold out on having sex with her. Thinking she will get tired of self-service and her dildo.
This sounds so much like my situation, I am concerned about our relationship going forward should we ever do this but as we have been together for so long now I do think we would survive should it all go wrong. We have discussed it but most as light hearted banter when in bed and also when she appears to be flirting which she does more since we started to talk about it (about a year or so ago now). I often say things like was that your boyfriend when she get a txt or takes a phone call a sometimes she plays along so I do feel that progress has been made.

I am also older and I am aware that I cannot perform in the same way as when I was younger and I do not want her to be missing out on sex while she still enjoys it. On a more selfish note I have told her just how hot it would be to watch her suck another man’s cock and she has talked about how hot it would be to hold two cocks and wank them off (amongst other things). I think the idea intrigues her, the thought of a nice big hard cock is something she is drawn to but it is the messy part of finding the ideal person for all of us and dealing with the possible fall out.

Like you I am not pressuring her, it must be her decision and I will continue to make suggestions that clearly indicate that I would be ok, even very turned on by it. Let’s hope we both achieve our goal in the end.
 
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First off I'm not sure how to start up the conversation with the wife. I'm afraid she might think I'm weird or pervy. We've been together for several years and I've always have had this fantasy of another guy fucking her or in a MFM threesome. I feel like she MAY enjoy it, but don't want to lose her trust in me. So how do you bring up the subject without her freaking out? This is a super fantasy for me and I think about it all the time. Every time we're having sex I fantasizes in my head that she is getting fuck by someone else. She is in her mid 40's and still looks fucking awesome. I don't care about fucking another woman. I just want to be in the same room with her being fucked. So I found this website and created a profile for any advice.
It’s not a easy thing to say but I started with watching porn and mentioned that she was very turned on and asked if she liked seeing the large men and she was excited talking but said that I was weird but I slowly kept talking and then I got a large vibrator and she at first said that is ridiculous and to big but while watching she let me use it on her and she really liked it and after I asked her about if she liked it and she was like not wanting to say anything but she said that she enjoyed role playing with it so I told her that I would really love to see her with another man she immediately said that I was crazy and said she would never so I said that was my fantasy but I understood her but I asked her if she would at least go to a nude beach or resort so I could have fun watching her naked around other men and she was hesitant but she said that she would do it for me and once she got comfortable she told me that she really enjoyed the attention she got from the other guys and she said that she was very surprised how much she enjoyed it and loved being naked and talking with them and flirting around while being naked it’s really amazing how much she enjoyed it and how it changed our lives it’s just so crazy how much we both enjoy the lifestyle and I never thought that it would ever happen but we are both open and honest about everything and even though I thought that we could be swingers and it has changed to be a Hotwife driven relationship and it’s been the best thing ever I hope this helps just be honest and patient I truly hope that you guys have the same experience as well