Desperately needing advice

[OKCdude]

If you truly have no problem with her having an 'outside interest' male or female then you need to tell her, BUT it's about her not you.

Tell her you're into compersion: her joy is your joy, her happiness is your happiness, her pleasure is your pleasure REGARDLESS of who, what, where and when. You need to be sincere and make sure she understands it's unconditional AND your relationship with her is of primary importance.

If she accepts that then ask her what she really wants. If she doesn't accept you;re sincerity ask her what you can do the prove it.

You'll need to be nimble and fleet of foot, but remember it's all about HER not you.

Great advice. Thanks

 

[robbiewillsucku]

you tell her that you had a dream then share your kinky fantasies with me.

 

[Fazeldex]

So I'm gonna ask a cpl of blunt questions. And I'll tell you up front that I experienced a cheating wife and we also stayed together. We have very similar fetish ideas as well. But I cannot imagine going 2 years without sex. Sometimes when I was really in pain, I would just pour out my anger by grudge fucking. i never voiced my thoughts but I was pounding her with lust and anger. There were also times we gently made love. It was hard at times to understand the emotions. I always loved cheating wife stories but I never imagine I would be cheated on.

But - my question for you is why aren't you two meeting base sexual desires of each other ? People need and normally find sexual relief in each other. It doesn't always have to be love and romance, sometimes a grudge fuck works fine.

Is it ED ? Get some viagra - 2 years is a long time. If my wife who cheated now went without sex for a few months, you better beleive I'd be asking wth, and I'd also be wondering where she is getting it.

the only time my wife has show as little interest in sex as you describe has been about a year ago Due to menopause at 58. We worked thru it. She still doesn't have the libido, but I understand and we work around.

 

[toolman2c]

***UPDATE***
Today I brought up us having sex. I have some new pills that we have never tried. One of her friends told her about them.

Any advice on the sex? Anything that I should focus on, or possibly try to accomplish? If I can't get hard and perform, I'll have her 'queen' me, she likes that. Do you all feel like if I can't get hard that will work out better in the long run as far as her possibly cuckolding me?

In the past I've had a LOT of problems performing, because she cheated. Is there any advice on helping me through this issue?

This is a 100% real situation. Thank you all SO MUCH!!!

try rollplay,, get a life size fake cock that's kinda on the big size, pretend that u are watching her bareback fucked and cum blasted up in her hot yearning pussy, and then prove ur love for her is unconditional by licking her swollen still horny pussy saying how much u love cleaning his messy cum from her.,. get a Black one, U may find she would love 2b Blacked.. if U would want 2c her Blacked, U need to tell her...imho

 

[toolman2c]

****UPDATE**** So, I missed a golden opportunity to talk about the cuckold thing with my wife. Here's what happened. We were talking about my Niece and her husband, my Niece is bi and brings home girls that her and her husband mess around with. My wife jokingly ask, "would you care if I had a girlfriend"? I said, "no". She looked surprised. She then said, "well that wouldn't happen, because you know I'm not into girls"(she isn't). But... I swear it was like I could see the gears spinning in her mind. I felt like she wanted to say, would you care if I had a boyfriend? But, I'm sure she didn't say that. because of the living hell that we both went through when she cheated. However, oddly then she asked, "do you even care about me"? I said, "of course". She then replied, "well, it seems like if you cared for me that you would want me all to yourself". I said that "I care about and love her". This was the end of the discussion. This whole thing was out of the blue, and I wasn't prepared at all. I am almost certain she will bring this conversation up again within a few days, because of how she reacted. I want to be totally prepared next time. I'll bet she will bring it up jokingly, and say something like, "I still can't believe that you said you wouldn't care if I have a girlfriend." I fell like I should respond by saying that I love her, and because of my inability to perform that I feel like it's unfair to her. And, as long as she would include me, that it would make me happy to know that she's happy. Keep in mind that if we have this conversation, me and her both would know she's not really talking about a 'girlfriend', because 'she's not into girls'. But, I don't think that I should mention a guy... do you? If I can convince her that this is about her and me not being selfish and wanting her to be happy then maybe... she will bring up the 'boyfriend' thing. PLEASE TELL ME HOW I SHOULD APPROACH THIS CONVERSATION, IF IT HAPPENS?

u need to get Brave and tell her u want her to have the pleasures of a man friend, a real cocksman that that loves to deep seed wives that are needy for sex.. Then she will know you put her pleasure above any of yours.