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New here, but looking for advice on how to keep the ball rolling on my fantasy of watching my wife with another guy. A few months ago I bought her a realistic dildo and while fucking her with it I told her how hot she was getting fucked and how I want to see her take a real dick. Since then more of the same continues and I asked her while doing this if she would fuck a guy while we were out of town. She just said, “I don’t know”, but had a really intense orgasm like usual. We have also done double vaginal with the toy, which was her idea. What should my next move be? Just keep continuing with the dirty talk while fucking her with the dildo?IMG_6039.jpeg
 
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Just take it slow, and don't push too hard. Maybe add some porn with women taking multiple men at once, or men taking turns on one woman. Let her progress at her pace and try not to appear impatient if she is slow on the uptake.
 
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Definitely keep it slow.
Maybe ask her to point out a guy she thinks is hot. Or tell you a friend she finds attractive.
If she doesn’t jump on board right away you have to make her comfortable with the idea that you’ll love her no matter what.
Don’t forse a situation. It may happen once, but if it’s not the right situation it may not happen again.
 
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Randr7896 said:
Definitely keep it slow.
Maybe ask her to point out a guy she thinks is hot. Or tell you a friend she finds attractive.
If she doesn’t jump on board right away you have to make her comfortable with the idea that you’ll love her no matter what.
Don’t forse a situation. It may happen once, but if it’s not the right situation it may not happen again.
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Thanks, man!
 
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jluvsp553 said:
Fantasy life? Not sure what you are asking.
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jluvsp553:

Guys galore get on these forums and ask what you ask. They want direction on ‘my fantasy of watching my wife with another guy.’

Why do guys DO this? WHY!?

The thing is, jluvsp553, this is the LAST way to approach this!

What we SHOULD be doing is figuring out not YOUR fantasy, but HER fantasy!

Let me try to explain how this goes…

If your wife loves deep, intellectual conversations, your goal is for her to meet and begin conversations with someone well versed in philosophy and literature, and who you coached to seduce her.

If your wife loves romantic dance, you arrange for her to take some dance classes where she just ‘happens’ to meet her seducer, a man YOU coached for this!

If your wife loves art and often paints, you ‘buy’ her time with a handsome model who [guess what!] you coached to seduce her!

If your wife enjoys fitness, you find and coach a well-in-shape guy who just ‘happens’ to end up at her gym.

If she would enjoy a weekend getaway to a cabin, you invite a ‘friend’ whom you have coached to seduce your wife.

If she has a passion for cooking, or some competitive game she loves, or gourmet foods, or meeting people or whatever — you plan her seduction NOT around YOUR fantasy — but HER FANTASY!

Guys approach this from the standpoint of getting … brace yourself … an ‘agreement in principle.’

For the love of all that’s unholy, people — what are we THINKing?!?!

An agreement in principle? That sounds like contractual language?! This is supposed to be about ROMANCE.

It’s about SEDUCTION!

Why do we always go for ‘agreement on principle’ when we’d really like her to get laid?

If I have no idea what her fantasy is, how on earth will I be able to coach the guy who I hope is able to seduce her?

What does she enjoy the most? What is her favorite place? What is her favorite activity? What is her all-time favourite romantic movie? What activities does she enjoy most? What kind of cuisine does she most enjoy? What is her idea of the perfect evening?

If you have all that to the guy who is to seduce her, how much an advantage would that be?

If you added her sexual proclivities, erogenous zones, arousal patterns, sexual activities and positions, how much an advantage would that be?

If you added anything about her past history, how much an advantage would that be?

If you added all these together and coached thoroughly the guy who is going to give your wife’s seduction all he’s got, how much an advantage would that be?

Yet there we are … if ONLY I could get an agreement on principle — because that sounds so romantic and sexy …😮

We assume women think like men. Man likes hot woman … Woman likes hot man.

NOPE! Woman like romance.

I know I’m hitting this rather hard; but I’m mindful that it isn’t just you. Others are reading this also. This is for THEM.

I hope this admittedly lengthy reply has something you can use, and I wish you all the best.

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jluvsp553 said:
New here, but looking for advice on how to keep the ball rolling on my fantasy of watching my wife with another guy. A few months ago I bought her a realistic dildo and while fucking her with it I told her how hot she was getting fucked and how I want to see her take a real dick. Since then more of the same continues and I asked her while doing this if she would fuck a guy while we were out of town. She just said, “I don’t know”, but had a really intense orgasm like usual. We have also done double vaginal with the toy, which was her idea. What should my next move be? Just keep continuing with the dirty talk while fucking her with the dildo?View attachment 2523333
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Very bad for her skin that sun tan machine. Don't do it. About your wish, a dildo is not another guy... Use your fantasy and create the right environment/circumstances.
 
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Ask her if she would be happy if on her Birthday you would blindfold her and the cock which penetrate into her pussy might be not yours.
How does she feels about it?
Just gauge her reaction.
 
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gyokerzoltan said:
Ask her if she would be happy if on her Birthday you would blindfold her and the cock which penetrate into her pussy might be not yours.
How does she feels about it?
Just gauge her reaction.
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It helps if you’ve already established a pattern of teasing each other with provocative talk outside the bedroom. You can get away with saying some outrageous things to gauge-reactions that way. Tell her a scenario of tying her up and doing all sorts of foreplay she enjoys while she just concentrates on how good it feels. Then add something like “As you finally feel the penetration you’ve been aching for, it feels so much better than ever before. Then you hear my voice from across the room tell you how exciting it is to watch you being taken by a man with a huge cock.” That kind of thing works well because you’ve already got her excited and the excitement gets associated with a different dick. She might have a negative reaction to it, but that’s okay. You are planting seeds for her to think about.
 
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CuckmeCleveland said:
jluvsp553:

jluvsp553:

Guys galore get on these forums and ask what you ask. They want direction on ‘my fantasy of watching my wife with another guy.’

Why do guys DO this? WHY!?

The thing is, jluvsp553, this is the LAST way to approach this!

What we SHOULD be doing is figuring out not YOUR fantasy, but HER fantasy!

Let me try to explain how this goes…

If your wife loves deep, intellectual conversations, your goal is for her to meet and begin conversations with someone well versed in philosophy and literature, and who you coached to seduce her.

If your wife loves romantic dance, you arrange for her to take some dance classes where she just ‘happens’ to meet her seducer, a man YOU coached for this!

If your wife loves art and often paints, you ‘buy’ her time with a handsome model who [guess what!] you coached to seduce her!

If your wife enjoys fitness, you find and coach a well-in-shape guy who just ‘happens’ to end up at her gym.

If she would enjoy a weekend getaway to a cabin, you invite a ‘friend’ whom you have coached to seduce your wife.

If she has a passion for cooking, or some competitive game she loves, or gourmet foods, or meeting people or whatever — you plan her seduction NOT around YOUR fantasy — but HER FANTASY!

Guys approach this from the standpoint of getting … brace yourself … an ‘agreement in principle.’

For the love of all that’s unholy, people — what are we THINKing?!?!

An agreement in principle? That sounds like contractual language?! This is supposed to be about ROMANCE.

It’s about SEDUCTION!

Why do we always go for ‘agreement on principle’ when we’d really like her to get laid?

If I have no idea what her fantasy is, how on earth will I be able to coach the guy who I hope is able to seduce her?

What does she enjoy the most? What is her favorite place? What is her favorite activity? What is her all-time favourite romantic movie? What activities does she enjoy most? What kind of cuisine does she most enjoy? What is her idea of the perfect evening?

If you have all that to the guy who is to seduce her, how much an advantage would that be?

If you added her sexual proclivities, erogenous zones, arousal patterns, sexual activities and positions, how much an advantage would that be?

If you added anything about her past history, how much an advantage would that be?

If you added all these together and coached thoroughly the guy who is going to give your wife’s seduction all he’s got, how much an advantage would that be?

Yet there we are … if ONLY I could get an agreement on principle — because that sounds so romantic and sexy …😮

We assume women think like men. Man likes hot woman … Woman likes hot man.

NOPE! Woman like romance.

I know I’m hitting this rather hard; but I’m mindful that it isn’t just you. Others are reading this also. This is for THEM.

I hope this admittedly lengthy reply has something you can use, and I wish you all the best.

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You.are so.right you have to.workmon.what a wimen.wants nd enjoys outside of the bedroom My hotwife and I.occasionlly likes to.be picked up.se gets dressed up.sexy she sits at a high table for two.i.stay out of site but around.in case she needs me she waits till she gets i in buy her a drink or dance.Sje enjoys a good conversationlist ,and funny intelligent it can.lead to.beinf pucked up she texts me to.meete discreetly amd tells me she.going to.the room.with him.then she tells me stay here imwill let you know whats happening and if she really into h8n she texts me says pick me up.in rhe norning She ha meet one of her regulars that way
 
jluvsp553 said:
New here, but looking for advice on how to keep the ball rolling on my fantasy of watching my wife with another guy. A few months ago I bought her a realistic dildo and while fucking her with it I told her how hot she was getting fucked and how I want to see her take a real dick. Since then more of the same continues and I asked her while doing this if she would fuck a guy while we were out of town. She just said, “I don’t know”, but had a really intense orgasm like usual. We have also done double vaginal with the toy, which was her idea. What should my next move be? Just keep continuing with the dirty talk while fucking her with the dildo?View attachment 2523333
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Lots of good advice here for you, as a female, I agree keep the talk casual but do not stop, maybe more intense talk during or right after her orgasms, or when you are doing DVP. Wow If she is into that I feel she is ready it is my favorite sex play when I'm really hot. While you have the dildo and yourself in her, and she is so hot that is the time to mention something like "Imagean how good this would feel with two real dicks in you?" If she doesn't come on to that I am not sure what else you can do but keep the topic open, not forceful but casual and open. I think it is so hot you want that for her, good luck, Sue
 
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Lots of good advice here for you, as a female, I agree keep the talk casual but do not stop, maybe more intense talk during or right after her orgasms, or when you are doing DVP. Wow If she is into that I feel she is ready it is my favorite sex play when I'm really hot. While you have the dildo and yourself in her, and she is so hot that is the time to mention something like "Imagean how good this would feel with two real dicks in you?" If she doesn't come on to that I am not sure what else you can do but keep the topic open, not forceful but casual and open. I think it is so hot you want that for her, good luck, Sue
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Thank you so much for commenting! I appreciate your input!
 

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