One friend from here (WWTP) asked us about the steps should a man or a couple which wants to have our lifestyle might pay attention to or need to be concerned about at first. We are happy to answer (although we aren't any kind of expert) but we decided to do it here through an open post. And in the absence of a specific thread about this, then it goes hereby:
1. You must already know that you will face and take risks.
2. The transition is much easier if your wife is a bit of a slut.
3. Have you ever exposed yourselves in any way? Have you tried exhibitionism?
4. Don't start playing during a crisis.
5. Take the Movie Theater/Cinema Test.
1. You must know that no matter how stable and enjoyable your marriage or union may be, by slamming the doors to a lifestyle of open, casual sex or cuckold roleplay, you run the risk of drastically (and even irreversibly) changing the dynamics of your relationship. The man might face regret feelings beyond repair. She might fall in love for other men or simple get tired from having the husband nearby whenever she will be in intimacy with another fellow.
Risks are calculated, yes. But you can't control every bit of a thing.
So, if you both just can't stand or handle risks like these, jump out of the fucking other people ideas.
2. Yes. If your wife is a woman who has tasted a good variety of penises over the time, and already has enjoyed some naughty kinks regardless of the married sex life you enjoy, then it will be MUCH EASIER to talk about the idea of having sex with other people. And MUCH MORE LIKELY that you will come to an agreement and she will try new things.
This doesn´t mean a woman who is less experienced in terms of partner's quantity or even a bit prudish can't loosen up through interaction with her husband and other naughty men. However, in addition to being less likely to occur, the process of transformation and acceptance is usually more painful, time-consuming and risky. We know personally more traditional-like couples who only started to "open up" when they were nearing 50 years old. Precisely because this process takes time.
3. You recognize those porn scenes where the husband had a revealing conversation with his wife one night, and the next one she's in a gangbang with 3 black guys, 2 blonde dudes and an extra asian man in a big pool, well it is...literally and just porn. Couples don't just dive into their deepest, riskiest fantasies overnight, and without a test bed.
Therefore you might offer the partner with some most practical test beds available today. Practical and hot. Take and share photos (show them you can blur their faces or wear masks if you want), chatting with other couples and singles about fetishes. Who knows, maybe take a vacation and shot some naughty photos outdoors? Try and see. It usually has greater effects than talking repeatedly.
4. Don't do what we did, and don't decide to show off and open up the relationship right after a cheating crisis. No, do it differently, please. We got lucky. We're sure that luck has helped us then.
Because after a relationship crisis feelings are all mixed and distorted. We usually think about the several possibilities and extreme scenarios (like divorce or having sex with other people), and there are too many variables for us to process and make the best decision. Good decisions almost are never made during a hard time. Let the worst go and breathe for a while. Then rebuild your desires and fantasies together.
5. If you have moved on to a phase of starting to meet other people (in many cases, meeting another man in person), don't plan on meeting a guy which is eager to fill your beautiful woman's ass with cum. Calm down, small steps.
Look for a patient nice talk guy who is willing to play it slowly, without high expectations to be naked asap. If you find him, I suggest to give a try over the "Movie Theater game" that my wife and I have played with several guys, especially in the beginning.
Pick a movie theater that offers many rooms-screens and buy tickets for a movie with almost no audience at the time. Chat a bit, have a coffee, and then the three of you (you, wife and friend) go inside the movie theater. Sit on either side of your wife and gradually start touching, squeezing her hands, touching her thighs, touching her breasts. Well, if she wants, she can grab your dicks or even kiss each other. Do it discreetly because nowadays the bastards have cams aiming the seats.
If the game goes smoothly and your wife doesn't feel scared or embarrassed, and you don't feel overwhelmed with jealousy or regret, then that's a good sign. You might proceed with your friend to a hotel or arrange another meeting for some good sexy time.
However if the game played at the movies gets just weird, especially if it gets to the point where she (or you) frozes in fear, or if there's a lot of jealousy around, then the best thing to do is to give up on it and keep the sexual game just between the two of you!
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