How do I convince my wife that it’s ok to feel the need to be with another man? She wants to watch me with another woman but not sure about herself being with another man.
If she wants to watch you, I would ask her why. And depending on how she answers, I would tell her that’s the same reason you’d like to watch her. Need more information..
you could try some soft role playing, go out and one of you meet someone and flirt with them real heavily and see how the other one reacts to the attention that their partner is getting. if it goes well then you could start to take things further.