The fact that we live our secret taboo lifestyle, while appearing to be the normal married suburban couple with kids and careers, is one of the hottest things about our lifestyle. We have become great friends with other local lifestyle couples we have met at parties and swing clubs. They are some of the nicest, most open-minded people we know. Nobody would suspect any of the couples of living a secretly open sex life.
The couples we identify most with are other hotwife/stag-vixen couples. I joke that my closest male friends all have wives who fuck other men. Our wives all have sex with certain friends of ours, they all have boyfriends, and they all have occasional one-night-stands, but they are wonderful wives and great attentive moms. When we go out to dinner with one of those couples, one of the topics of conversation is always about who our wives are fucking.
We have a lot more 'straight' friends than lifestyle friends, but some of the husbands of the 'straight couples' we know have happily fucked my wife when given the opportunity. Of course, they would never want their wife to know, so it is a secret that we gladly keep. Some of our married friends have had sex with my wife many times over a period of years.
Kate does have sex alone with other men, often men that I don't know and never get to meet. We have encountered men who have fucked my wife when we are out in public together. When Kate introduces me to a man, if she introduces him as her 'good friend', she is signaling me that she has had sex with him. I love shaking hands with a guy knowing that he has fucked my wife.
Our straight friends have no idea that I encourage my pretty blonde wife to have sex with other men or that I like to watch. They would be shocked to know how many men have fucked my wife during our marriage.