I agree, and had my own epiphany on the topic. The first wives I enjoyed, I used them at my whim, in whatever way I wanted. Fuck the living ...... out of them, use their mouth, ass, face as just another snatch.
But between the fucking (I'd say outside the bedroom, but the fun isn't limited to the bedroom), we'd have the most normal, wide ranging conversations, or hold hands while browsing the farmers market, etc