Hi everyone!
Let me introduce myself. I’m a 33-year-old straight man, engaged to my amazing 30-year-old fiancée. She’s bisexual and has some experience in the lifestyle, having been a unicorn in the past. We’ve been reading this forum together for a while now, and while some stories seem genuine, others feel like they might be from fake accounts. That’s why we’re here to seek advice from real, experienced couples.
For some time now, we’ve been fantasizing about her being with other men. Dirty talk about it during sex has been incredibly exciting for both of us, and she genuinely enjoys the idea. We even visited a well-known swingers club in Florida, though it was more of an exploratory visit. We chatted with some couples, but most seemed more interested in involving us rather than just having a casual conversation.
To be clear, we’re not looking for a full swap. Our bond is incredibly strong, and we don’t feel threatened by introducing others into our sex life. For us, any third party would be more like a toy. Of course, we fully respect them as people, but we see their role as purely for pleasure. Once the experience is over, they are simply no longer part of our dynamic, just like a physical toy going back into the drawer.
That said, I do have some doubts. The idea of seeing her with multiple men is intensely arousing, especially if I’m involved, but after I climax, I sometimes feel an instinctive desire to have her all to myself again. Is this a normal reaction? Have others experienced this kind of post-nut clarity?
Another concern is whether this is just an exciting fantasy or something that would genuinely turn us on in real life. How did you know when it was time to take that first step from fantasy to reality?
We also aren’t looking for just any random guy. We want someone who can truly seduce her, someone charismatic, respectful, clean, and discreet. A man who can bring real chemistry rather than just being a warm body.
So, what’s the best way to take the first step? Are dating apps a good option, or would it be better to keep exploring swinger clubs, even though I’m only focused on her and her pleasure and not interested in other women? The challenge with clubs is that they often have very few single men allowed.
Any insights from experienced couples or singles would be greatly appreciated!
Let me introduce myself. I’m a 33-year-old straight man, engaged to my amazing 30-year-old fiancée. She’s bisexual and has some experience in the lifestyle, having been a unicorn in the past. We’ve been reading this forum together for a while now, and while some stories seem genuine, others feel like they might be from fake accounts. That’s why we’re here to seek advice from real, experienced couples.
For some time now, we’ve been fantasizing about her being with other men. Dirty talk about it during sex has been incredibly exciting for both of us, and she genuinely enjoys the idea. We even visited a well-known swingers club in Florida, though it was more of an exploratory visit. We chatted with some couples, but most seemed more interested in involving us rather than just having a casual conversation.
To be clear, we’re not looking for a full swap. Our bond is incredibly strong, and we don’t feel threatened by introducing others into our sex life. For us, any third party would be more like a toy. Of course, we fully respect them as people, but we see their role as purely for pleasure. Once the experience is over, they are simply no longer part of our dynamic, just like a physical toy going back into the drawer.
That said, I do have some doubts. The idea of seeing her with multiple men is intensely arousing, especially if I’m involved, but after I climax, I sometimes feel an instinctive desire to have her all to myself again. Is this a normal reaction? Have others experienced this kind of post-nut clarity?
Another concern is whether this is just an exciting fantasy or something that would genuinely turn us on in real life. How did you know when it was time to take that first step from fantasy to reality?
We also aren’t looking for just any random guy. We want someone who can truly seduce her, someone charismatic, respectful, clean, and discreet. A man who can bring real chemistry rather than just being a warm body.
So, what’s the best way to take the first step? Are dating apps a good option, or would it be better to keep exploring swinger clubs, even though I’m only focused on her and her pleasure and not interested in other women? The challenge with clubs is that they often have very few single men allowed.
Any insights from experienced couples or singles would be greatly appreciated!
