(Don't think I replied yet, if I did I apoligize for double post)
.....When you‘re out in public, shopping or having coffee, do you dress to attract?
I am a Corporate Exec, so there are no sloppy jeans and old t-shirts in my wardrobe, LOL. But there are plenty of times that I will raise the bar from "office acceptable" to "hot n sexy" whether I am out by myself, with hubby, or a Lover.
.....In particular I’m curious about the ones who wear leggings, spandex, etc to Target, Costco, etc.
Leggings are a favorite of mine, hubby, and ALL of the Lovers I have had too. I have dozens of them, and they run from office acceptable to so sheer that if you look closely you can tell I am shaved!! Same with spandex tight shorts too. Tops, I have some that are so sheer I need to throw something over my shoulders to be "legal"!! And I wear water sheer bra's underneath them (if I wear a bra) so you can EASILY see my breasts and nipples thru the tops. If I am somewhere kids and families will be, I will either throw something over my blouse or wear one that is not quite so obvious. I have many tight short skirts too, and generally pair all of these with at least low heels, sometimes CFM's even at Sams, Target, etc.
.....Are you aware when men check you out? Do you mind?
I am very aware that men like to look, its part of the reason I dress this way. I don't mind being apprecaited at all, as long as it does not become "creepy". I enjoy being apprecaited by men, I was largely ignored in scchool and college so being appreciated is a compliment to me.
.....Do you engage? I will smile and make eye contact to let them know I am aware and don't mind, and I might even move my cover-up (if wearing one) to make it easier to see how sheer my tops are. But I have never met anyone this way. There are too many parameters to a relationship (for me) that could not be met in this manner.
.....Even if you’re married? I am married, and hubby loves it when I do this with him along. He will act like he is totally unaware I am "showing off" but I know he's hard as a rock!! LOL
.....What if someone approached and tired to be friendly? It would depend in the guy, but to be perfectly honest the guys that do this type of thing are generally not the most attractive and desirable guys available. I would not be overtly rude as long as the approach was pleasant and respectful, but its highly doubtful it would go anywhere.
.....Or crude? Shut down like a defective light switch. Once I am involved in a relationship with someone, i have VERY few limits.....but when getting to know someone or a complete stranger, I have PLENTY of limits.
J (the wife)