Humiliation Question

[droopy1]

There are so many strange dichotomies that circle around the various iterations of this lifestyle. Don't disrespect my wife but do disrespect my husband. She likes to do things she doesn't do with her husband. She has no rules, he has a list of 'em.

It's the extreme (most likely fake) situations of humiliation you read about here that sound contrived. If a husband is jealously protective regarding how his wife is treated/respected wouldn't it be difficult for a wife not to share that feeling for her husband? On one hand a wife will cherish her husband's devotion and at the same time her devotion to him is diluted by her having other lovers. That sounds off.

Some husband's say they want the humiliation, I get that. I've always wanted my wife to try a bigger cock so, my wife teases me about having a small one. The thing is I know I'm not really THAT small. I'm an average 5.5 in and thick. It's fun and arousing to listen to her engage in the teasing. Fun is fun and it should be easy to tell when it's not fun. I've called my wife a slut during sex and we both know neither one of us believe that, it's just for fun.

All of us are biased by our experiences and mine is deeply ingrained from my experience as a middle school Math teacher. I routinely saw kids bullied/humiliated by others. Often times the victim was convinced of their inferiority to the point of needing counseling. They had been so consistently humiliated that believed they deserved to feel undesired/useless. Most of these kids had been labeled a loser long ago, way back in elementary school. I saw this pattern over and over.

If it's just a game, it's still a dangerous one. Just like wives that don't really know what it's like to be a hot wife until they finally do it, husbands (and wives) don't REALLY know what the results of humiliation will be until they do it. No one knows what the accumulative effect will be over time for either the husband or the wife. Given enough time and reinforcement people will steadfastly believe and carry that belief to the grave with them. It happens with religion, politics, almost anything including your own value as a person.

 

[Ht805cpl]

You asked about a female perspective, for me or us there are many forms of the sexual lifestyle and all have their highs and lows, we have dabbled in many different lifestyle formats, and some involve humiliation some involve pain some individual pleasure and some mutual pleasure, I think every type is a personal thing and one can receive great pleasures from any of them taken in the proper context. Perhaps some are not for everyone, and I’m sure someone not in the swing or sexual lifestyle would have question as to how this could be proper or correct. How do you explain to a friend who is straight that you enjoy having sex with several different partners in one evening? I’m not sure there is a good explanation for it, for me there is a time and place for nasty dirty name calling sex, perhaps it is taken as a role playing or perhaps one enjoys the humiliation aspect of it. There are times for intimate intense sexual encounters but I feel they all have their place. The question is a good one if you are interested or trying to understand, perhaps it is not a good question if you are judging others desire based on your own sexual values. You mentioned swinging or swapping with your ex the ...... of your children, to some that would seem a bit extreme, you did not mention your current relationship and how the lifestyle fits into your desires or interests. There are times I enjoy dirty talk and being called a slut or a whore and there are times when I prefer to be treated like a lady and made love too, some would say the fact that I would fuck someone other than my husband makes me a whore or maybe if I like fucking several men in one evening to some I would be a slut, so what am I? I do not really know, I’m a ...... a grandmother a wife who has only been married once and still married, I can go to a party and have sex with one or several men but at the end of the night I’m going home with the love of my life, so what I am judged by or labeled by is each persons standards or values, to me I’m just a loving wife with a high sex drive and enjoy sex with other people, I think we put too much thought into words or titles. Anyway just my perspective as a married lady who along with my husband has sex with others. As someone said this site is full of fantasy's and bull stories, I’d say much more than real stories, but we all have our kinks! .

 

[CONST65]

You asked about a female perspective, for me or us there are many forms of the sexual lifestyle and all have their highs and lows, we have dabbled in many different lifestyle formats, and some involve humiliation some involve pain some individual pleasure and some mutual pleasure, I think every type is a personal thing and one can receive great pleasures from any of them taken in the proper context. Perhaps some are not for everyone, and I’m sure someone not in the swing or sexual lifestyle would have question as to how this could be proper or correct. How do you explain to a friend who is straight that you enjoy having sex with several different partners in one evening? I’m not sure there is a good explanation for it, for me there is a time and place for nasty dirty name calling sex, perhaps it is taken as a role playing or perhaps one enjoys the humiliation aspect of it. There are times for intimate intense sexual encounters but I feel they all have their place. The question is a good one if you are interested or trying to understand, perhaps it is not a good question if you are judging others desire based on your own sexual values. You mentioned swinging or swapping with your ex the ...... of your children, to some that would seem a bit extreme, you did not mention your current relationship and how the lifestyle fits into your desires or interests. There are times I enjoy dirty talk and being called a slut or a whore and there are times when I prefer to be treated like a lady and made love too, some would say the fact that I would fuck someone other than my husband makes me a whore or maybe if I like fucking several men in one evening to some I would be a slut, so what am I? I do not really know, I’m a ...... a grandmother a wife who has only been married once and still married, I can go to a party and have sex with one or several men but at the end of the night I’m going home with the love of my life, so what I am judged by or labeled by is each persons standards or values, to me I’m just a loving wife with a high sex drive and enjoy sex with other people, I think we put too much thought into words or titles. Anyway just my perspective as a married lady who along with my husband has sex with others. As someone said this site is full of fantasy's and bull stories, I’d say much more than real stories, but we all have our kinks! .

Yourvare so rightvabout alot of things some people are into.extreme humiliation. My wife and i do.tontese to enhance our sex but not to degrade. Here is our way like when shes inthe mood i will make hercwait for me to go to her She says if you dint get over here a d fuck me im sure i can o.go out Nd find a stud to fuck me.. Or i will come home shes dressed to go out i will ask whats going on she says i left you a nessage that i want you to take me out tonight you didnt respond so in going out, i need a good hard. Cock...another example we are out at a club and she sees an attractive guy can i aske him to dance with me and naybe he will want to fuck me. This hS added to our sex life sometines it actually a set upmof soneo e she wa ts to.playbwith for the night but we verbally and visually set thongs uo so tve build up.is amazing a d tbe sex with her or her znd the guy can be very rewarding

 

[Ht805cpl]

Yourvare so rightvabout alot of things some people are into.extreme humiliation. My wife and i do.tontese to enhance our sex but not to degrade. Here is our way like when shes inthe mood i will make hercwait for me to go to her She says if you dint get over here a d fuck me im sure i can o.go out Nd find a stud to fuck me.. Or i will come home shes dressed to go out i will ask whats going on she says i left you a nessage that i want you to take me out tonight you Cock...another example we are out at a club and she sees an attractive guy can i aske him to dance with me and naybe he will want to fuck me. This hS added to our sex life sometines it actually a set upmof soneo e she wa ts to.playbwith for the night but we verbally and visually set thongs uo so tve build up.is amazing a d tbe sex with her or her znd the guy can be very

 

[Ht805cpl]

you seem to have a good perspective on the lifestyle, yes I love to tease and be teased, made to wait, or make my man sit and watch as I flirt with men when we are out, it is all about the game of building that sexual arousal or anticipation of what may or may not happen, until some point one of us can not wait no longer and we will put into action all the per games it all seems to be another or a part of the foreplay, to the point of once I’m alone or naked there is no more foreplay necessary, I am ready to indulge into action what ever that may be! You seem to understand what it’s all about!

 

[Austintex69]

I guess that's what I'm looking for. If that's what floats her boat, power to you (and her). I reckon it's a matter of personal preference. In my earlier years, I had a girl once tell me, "cum in my fucking face." The request took me by surprise. I did as she requested and enjoyed doing so. But it also made me feel a bit guilty at the same time.

I know people who will turn their nose up on you and your wife fir wearing a dress above the knees or wearing stocking and red lipstick.
People will like what they like and while you may not understand it it's what they like.