Sorry I can't get my head around that at all,
If my wife ever decided to cut me off from having sex with her she knows I would get it with someone else,
We have been in the lifestyle for 10 years or so and have never stopped wanting to fuck each other,
I understand that people are different and what works for one may not work for another but not having sex with my wife or her not allowing me to have sex with her just wouldn't work for me,👍