Next step? (am I ready)

I am at the same point for my wife. I know the interest is there we joke about it but at the same time the conversation is never serious enough so we can act on it and cross that line.

I'll give you take on my wife since it may help you with yours.

The fact my wife is willing to joke about it means she is interested and almost certainly is thinking about it. However I don't think either of us are at the point we are comfortable enough yet to tell each other. I am sure this is a very common phase.. As things progress I am even getting more comfortable with the thought as well.

Getting a realistic dildo and role playing and getting her to talk dirty in bed seems to make sense. If she takes to that it probaly not too far off from either finding another couple or guy.
Three years ago I told my wife that I wanted to watch her with another man and we started role-playing during sex using her dildo. She even gave her dildo a name. She loves to talk dirty to me while we are playing and tells me she knows how much it excites me to imagine her with another man. It has even gotten to the point of her having continuous orgasms while I'm using her dildo on her, but still gives me a hard no when I ask if she wants to make it a reality. I'm hoping she just hasn't met the right guy yet. I'm still hoping she will change her mind one day.
 
Three years ago I told my wife that I wanted to watch her with another man and we started role-playing during sex using her dildo. She even gave her dildo a name. She loves to talk dirty to me while we are playing and tells me she knows how much it excites me to imagine her with another man. It has even gotten to the point of her having continuous orgasms while I'm using her dildo on her, but still gives me a hard no when I ask if she wants to make it a reality. I'm hoping she just hasn't met the right guy yet. I'm still hoping she will change her mind one day.

Sounds like you need to find a buddy that wants to fuck her then come up with a plan where the two of you seduce her. All you have to do is have him give a massage and let nature take its course.
 
It's been an arduous road. But my wife finally told Last week that she's in.!!
Posting on this site and the comments and likes sealed the deal. Although the incels referring to her as "your slut or cum dumpster " meant doing damage control.
Make sure she knows she’s in control mate… at all times, it’ll do wonders to help her relax and enjoy the journey more!! 👍🏻
 
Take the best of both worlds and ramp up your fantasy roleplay. I was in your wife's exact position and found that role playing was a way I could explore how farming wanted to go in the hot wife world yet keep my hubby fully entertained... he got to be not only the cuckold but also got to play the part of the bull... when my realistic dildo wasn't doing the deed.
I found a bunch of hotwife challenges in a book called THE FAITHFUL HOTWIFE which turned this into a fun adventure for both of us.
Love roleplays with wives.😉
 
Three years ago I told my wife that I wanted to watch her with another man and we started role-playing during sex using her dildo. She even gave her dildo a name. She loves to talk dirty to me while we are playing and tells me she knows how much it excites me to imagine her with another man. It has even gotten to the point of her having continuous orgasms while I'm using her dildo on her, but still gives me a hard no when I ask if she wants to make it a reality. I'm hoping she just hasn't met the right guy yet. I'm still hoping she will change her mind one day.
The rite man is key, if/when thr rite guy gets into this effort, she wont need a push, shes yearning for a studly real cocksman to enter her sex world and Stay her regular Thrill..
 
Take the best of both worlds and ramp up your fantasy roleplay. I was in your wife's exact position and found that role playing was a way I could explore how farming wanted to go in the hot wife world yet keep my hubby fully entertained... he got to be not only the cuckold but also got to play the part of the bull... when my realistic dildo wasn't doing the deed.
I found a bunch of hotwife challenges in a book called THE FAITHFUL HOTWIFE which turned this into a fun adventure for both of us.
Newbie, you are 1000% right. MG3 raved about that book and we bought it to see what it's all about, and it was a keeper. HotWife thing was my husband's idea, and after reading the book I understand more what drives his fantasy, and now mine as well. We are still role playing but doing it more in public now. Not sure when we will catch up to your level, but we are having fun taking the book's challenges one at a time. Please DM me - hotwife to potential hotwife. XX
 
The rite man is key, if/when thr rite guy gets into this effort, she wont need a push, shes yearning for a studly real cocksman to enter her sex world and Stay her regular Thrill..
She is insecure (she has self-esteem and body issues) and I believe submissive so if we met a guy who was dominant, she would succumb to him knowing I'm more that all right with it.
 
Thought I would give an update on this as Its rare to have a running record of the full story. This story is not complete yet but we must be getting close now so some help would be appreciated.

Things have progressed a bit since last time I made a post. We are still yet to go to a swingers club but she is definitely way more into it. Interesting however it is less for her about the being fucked by others and far more about the me getting jealous. It seems like she gets off to the idea of me desperately wanting to fuck her in a jealous mind set.

This works for me as the outcome is the same. She had a hens party last night and she had the groom's head temporary tattooed on her inner thigh a few inches from her pussy. While she was riding her big dildo I was talking about how he must be on his stag due and we should call him see if he would fuck you. She loved that and cum.

This was a step forward as it was the first time we used a real person's name witch I think is a big step forward.

The other massive step forward, she is now saying to me during "these dildos just don't cut it anymore I need real cock" and moaning "please get me real cocks to fuck and cum in me"

What would you all suggest to go from here? I am going to have a candid conversation with her in the morning to reiterate that this is what I want and ask if she would be willing to take it further. Anyway, wish me luck and any advise would be appropriated.

Here is a photo so you know what you are dealing with 😉
 

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Thought I would give an update on this as Its rare to have a running record of the full story. This story is not complete yet but we must be getting close now so some help would be appreciated.

Things have progressed a bit since last time I made a post. We are still yet to go to a swingers club but she is definitely way more into it. Interesting however it is less for her about the being fucked by others and far more about the me getting jealous. It seems like she gets off to the idea of me desperately wanting to fuck her in a jealous mind set.

This works for me as the outcome is the same. She had a hens party last night and she had the groom's head temporary tattooed on her inner thigh a few inches from her pussy. While she was riding her big dildo I was talking about how he must be on his stag due and we should call him see if he would fuck you. She loved that and cum.

This was a step forward as it was the first time we used a real person's name witch I think is a big step forward.

The other massive step forward, she is now saying to me during "these dildos just don't cut it anymore I need real cock" and moaning "please get me real cocks to fuck and cum in me"

What would you all suggest to go from here? I am going to have a candid conversation with her in the morning to reiterate that this is what I want and ask if she would be willing to take it further. Anyway, wish me luck and any advise would be appropriated.

Here is a photo so you know what you are dealing with 😉
The best way for you to proceed is to giver her permission to have sex with another guy...and she's not to tell you about it until it's been done. That way you don't ruin it with your jealousy and it's also "done" and there's nothing you can do to stop it. Also, get her to tell you some stories about
what she did when she's been out late or at lunch, anything where she can make up a story about who and what happened. She always tells you as if it really happened. Eventually she'll be telling you real stories when she actually does it...
 
Hey everyone,

First time poster but looking for some advice. Me M (31) and wife f (30) have been playing around with fantasies for the last 12 months or so. In that time we have bought a huge dildo witch she loves. She knows what I'm into and gets off on the idea of being fucked by another guy. We have made huge strides towards getting fully into the lifestyle! I essentially have 2 questions.

1. Yesterday we fuck for the first time in like a week (she has had COVID) and she was super horny. We have a chair in our bedroom like most and she started saying she was going to make me sit in the "cuck" chair as a punishment one day and proceeded to fuck herself with her dildo. She has also started referring to herself as a hot wife and a size queen while we fuck. Do you think she is ready for the next level? If so what do I do next to ease her into it?
Well do you want to be a cuck where she is fully in charge? Or do you want more a hot wife? If you want to be her cuck, then have her do what she teased about, put yourself in the chair and watch her fuck herself with that big dildo, have her imagine a stud and his huge cock, have her moan his name and beg him to fuck her harder and ask if you're watching while she's doing it. See how that goes. 🙂

2. This is a bit more of a sensitive one but how am I sure that I am ready for it? For cucks our there how did you know it wasn't going to ruin your marriage and life? Mr and my wife have a beautiful life together and have been with each other since we where 14! I love the idea of cucking but have had a little jealousy in the past. Any perspective from a real cuck would be appreciated.
I'm not a cuck, just the opposite, but I had a thought anyway. Maybe go out together, and watch her flirt at a bar or club. Set some HARD RULES that nothing happens beyond some dirty dancing and maybe some touching, and see if you can handle the jealousy, and see if SHE likes the attention from other men for real.

Reality is at this point I think she wants another cock. Legit if I dirty talk about me catching her cheating and watching from the other room she cums in about 2 seconds and her whole body shakes. It's clear that is her fantasy so what next?
 
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