It's never going to happen

[Weldon&Marie]

I think i need to accept that fact that my darling wife has zero interest in anything kinky. I use the term kinky because it covers pretty much everything, from light bdsm to cuckolding.
Anyway, my wife is as vanilla as vanilla comes. She doesn't touch herself, never has apparently. She doesn't have fantasies, she doesn't have any desires needs or wants in the bedroom.
Look I get it, we have two kids who take up all our time. She's a work-a-holic, all she does is work. All she talks about is work. All she thinks about is work. If she's not working she's cleaning, always cleaning.
I try to bring up something kinky like, lets try some light restraints, nope no interest at all. I try bringing up things she might like, its not received with interest or curiosity its met with exhaustion, annoyance and frustration. Like its another thing that someone is demanding from her.
She will say things like, you've got to get your head out of your dick and into the real world.

She will say things like, well maybe if you cleaned up after yourself and helped around the house more she'd have the time and headspace to get into that frame of mind. But thats bullshit. I do everything for the kids, feed, clean, cloth, teach, drive them around, do all the washing, make dinner etc etc.
And yes she does a lot around here I am not denying that. But I know without a doubt that I could do 100% of everything and still she'd find a million excuses as to why she doesn't have time to think about or take interest in anything of a sexual nature.

I have hotwife kink, its something i long for. But I know it wont ever happen. So i need to just move on i guess and find something out to think about when i am horny.

I don't know why i'm sharing this, but i am.

Don't worry, your wife may slow down enough to realize she has been missing out on lots of fun and excitement. My wife and I were the same way a year ago. I have always been interested in swinging and hot wife life style. But the wife wasn't or at least I didn't think so. We still are taking baby steps and not jumped into the life style but I think we are getting there. To my surprise we are having conversations about threesomes, She has been all for joining this web site and letting me post pics of her in the shower and on the bed necked. She is loving the comments she receives and it is turning her on in the bed room. This didn't take place until we retired the kids moved out and we have the house all to ourselves now. Maybe your day is coming.

 

[coastalkid]

Don't worry, your wife may slow down enough to realize she has been missing out on lots of fun and excitement. My wife and I were the same way a year ago. I have always been interested in swinging and hot wife life style. But the wife wasn't or at least I didn't think so. We still are taking baby steps and not jumped into the life style but I think we are getting there. To my surprise we are having conversations about threesomes, She has been all for joining this web site and letting me post pics of her in the shower and on the bed necked. She is loving the comments she receives and it is turning her on in the bed room. This didn't take place until we retired the kids moved out and we have the house all to ourselves now. Maybe your day is coming.

Thanks for this post! We are also both retired and our son has his own place now. We've slowly been tearing down some of our attitudes about sex. The discussions aren't as explicit as yours are but we are managing to have some without feeling anxious or embarrassed. I've always wanted more sexual excitement for us as a couple in whatever form that might be. Things are better for us. They aren't as far along as you are, but they are headed in the right direction. I'd rather deal with the disappointment of my failure to bring us to a more satisfying sex life than the depression of only seeing the futility and giving up. Everybody's on their own path, right?

 

[gagerm]

Don’t give up. My wife was as vanilla as yours until I cracked the door open one day while she was at work. Later that night she was flirting with a guy whom a few weeks later said was like a sex texting therapist but with extra benefits.

Pandora’s box opened and she will never be able to go back. She’s turned into a very naughty wife.

Can you share more detail on the journey?