I started it wrong. Can I get a second chance? I feel stuck.

[Tomkat84]

I'll tell our story as short as possible.

We've been married for almost 10 years. She is 42. She's been only with 2 men in her life, one of them is me (trust is strong between us, I'm 100% sure it's true, she's also a very trustworthy person). I'm 12cm long (14cm when I press the skin) and girth is also 12cm. Her ex had the same length with me, but noticeably thinner. Sex with him was bad, because he didn't do any foreplay at all, lasted never above 2 minutes, and generally didn't care about her pleasure, only about his. I know him in person, he is a very rude, disgusting person, no confidence and low intelligence. And I'm trying to be objective here.

Now, sex with me was good. I didn't last ever over 5 minutes, but she said it was intense and she enjoyed it much. I could tell, since she was very wet. I know she's very attracted to me, since even now she compliments me a lot and I can see it in her eyes. Our sex was always vanilla, but none of us had problem with that.

Now, the incidents...

First, I brought up the size discussion up. I asked her "why do you think many people often say that a big dick is better". She said that she doesn't know, but she thinks that all women have different vaginas, and her's isn't build for a big one. I told her that when she's very excited and I'm in her, she feels very loose, which i still get much pleasure of, but it feels like her vagina could be filled way more than I fill it. She says she doesn't feel what I describe. Discussion ended with her believing that I fit perfectly and me believing she could feel multiple times better with a bigger one and also hsving vaginal orgasms, since with me only very rarely she feels close but she doesn't orgasm.

After that, every year I brought it up 1-2 times. I was indirectly saying something to bring up the size discussion up.

Our discussions never evolved, up until I suggested her to try a dildo and find out, to explore herself.

One day, I do foreplay for about 10 minutes and she seems very turned on. I penetrate her with my penis and she enjoys. After that, I bring out the dildo and she seems to not want it, being afraid of it being too big (23cm long, 16cm around). I told her to take in as much as she wants. No discomfort should be felt, so she can control it. She tried for a good 5-10 minutes and stopped. Disliked it much.

I apologized for buying a very big one and I suggested to buy one a bit smaller. Bought a 20cm long, 15cm girth dildo, she could handle it better, received some pleasure, she said it was more intense than my dick, but still much discomfort. In the end, she likes mine more.

No problem if that's how her vagina is build, but I believe she wasn't as turned on, plus she was afraid, plus it's not the real thing, that's why she didn't feel the super-feeling she maybe has the potential to feel.

Lastly, after that, I only brought it up once, explaining to her why I believe that the fact she didn't like the experience with this dildo is because maybe it was still too girthy and also she wasn't turned on and the material is no where close to the real thing.

So, now she has no interest to discuss about this because she thinks she knows now, and believes that big dicks hurt.

I feel like I missed my chance. Like, she won't want to ever again give it a shot, nor can I suggest her to watch some amateur homemade porn so maybe she gets turned on, nor will she discuss the possibility of trying a third one. It's like this subject is "closed" because "now she knows, bigger hurts".

And some might say, "your wife is faithful and feels like you are the best sex for her, you have a happy marriage, why trying to ruin it?" Well, I notice all the details in her (sexually) and I strongly believe she could receive unimaginable pleasure from sex, that she'll be thankful I introduced her to this. I love her, so I want her to experience the best in life, that's why I would want her to explore this a little more.

So, is the door completely closed? What do you people think?

 

[hubbysexywife]

Hi, I think you just did a mistake, you should tried a smaller first. Maybe 16/17 cm long and 13/14 cm girth, cause she never felt nothing bigger than your cock for many years (according to your words) and introduce bigger ones time to time.
I had nice experience about that. PM if you want.

 

[Caldosch]

Sounds like our wives are similar. I can offer a few suggestions.
We started with smaller cheap dildos. She never liked them. I spent more on a dual density one. It's 7 inch long and 5 around. At first she was pretty negative about it but she still tried it because she knows it turns me on. After several sessions, she can now usually take the whole thing...just.
She still says she prefers my cock which is apparently the perfect fit for her and I'm significantly smaller than the dildo.
I can say that it's all about her mood which is the hardest thing to pick. When she's into it, that dildo will be dripping with her juices and it's the only time I've seem her get creamy. But when she's just in an average mood, she usually ask me not to use it on her.
Message me if you need more details etc

 

[PNNP]

I'll tell our story as short as possible.

We've been married for almost 10 years. She is 42. She's been only with 2 men in her life, one of them is me (trust is strong between us, I'm 100% sure it's true, she's also a very trustworthy person). I'm 12cm long (14cm when I press the skin) and girth is also 12cm. Her ex had the same length with me, but noticeably thinner. Sex with him was bad, because he didn't do any foreplay at all, lasted never above 2 minutes, and generally didn't care about her pleasure, only about his. I know him in person, he is a very rude, disgusting person, no confidence and low intelligence. And I'm trying to be objective here.

Now, sex with me was good. I didn't last ever over 5 minutes, but she said it was intense and she enjoyed it much. I could tell, since she was very wet. I know she's very attracted to me, since even now she compliments me a lot and I can see it in her eyes. Our sex was always vanilla, but none of us had problem with that.

Now, the incidents...

First, I brought up the size discussion up. I asked her "why do you think many people often say that a big dick is better". She said that she doesn't know, but she thinks that all women have different vaginas, and her's isn't build for a big one. I told her that when she's very excited and I'm in her, she feels very loose, which i still get much pleasure of, but it feels like her vagina could be filled way more than I fill it. She says she doesn't feel what I describe. Discussion ended with her believing that I fit perfectly and me believing she could feel multiple times better with a bigger one and also hsving vaginal orgasms, since with me only very rarely she feels close but she doesn't orgasm.

After that, every year I brought it up 1-2 times. I was indirectly saying something to bring up the size discussion up.

Our discussions never evolved, up until I suggested her to try a dildo and find out, to explore herself.

One day, I do foreplay for about 10 minutes and she seems very turned on. I penetrate her with my penis and she enjoys. After that, I bring out the dildo and she seems to not want it, being afraid of it being too big (23cm long, 16cm around). I told her to take in as much as she wants. No discomfort should be felt, so she can control it. She tried for a good 5-10 minutes and stopped. Disliked it much.

I apologized for buying a very big one and I suggested to buy one a bit smaller. Bought a 20cm long, 15cm girth dildo, she could handle it better, received some pleasure, she said it was more intense than my dick, but still much discomfort. In the end, she likes mine more.

No problem if that's how her vagina is build, but I believe she wasn't as turned on, plus she was afraid, plus it's not the real thing, that's why she didn't feel the super-feeling she maybe has the potential to feel.

Lastly, after that, I only brought it up once, explaining to her why I believe that the fact she didn't like the experience with this dildo is because maybe it was still too girthy and also she wasn't turned on and the material is no where close to the real thing.

So, now she has no interest to discuss about this because she thinks she knows now, and believes that big dicks hurt.

I feel like I missed my chance. Like, she won't want to ever again give it a shot, nor can I suggest her to watch some amateur homemade porn so maybe she gets turned on, nor will she discuss the possibility of trying a third one. It's like this subject is "closed" because "now she knows, bigger hurts".

And some might say, "your wife is faithful and feels like you are the best sex for her, you have a happy marriage, why trying to ruin it?" Well, I notice all the details in her (sexually) and I strongly believe she could receive unimaginable pleasure from sex, that she'll be thankful I introduced her to this. I love her, so I want her to experience the best in life, that's why I would want her to explore this a little more.

So, is the door completely closed? What do you people think?

Dude, know your time and timing, and also listen to your wife.

Christ sake, you are over the top on this one

 

[PNNP]

Sounds like our wives are similar. I can offer a few suggestions.
We started with smaller cheap dildos. She never liked them. I spent more on a dual density one. It's 7 inch long and 5 around. At first she was pretty negative about it but she still tried it because she knows it turns me on. After several sessions, she can now usually take the whole thing...just.
She still says she prefers my cock which is apparently the perfect fit for her and I'm significantly smaller than the dildo.
I can say that it's all about her mood which is the hardest thing to pick. When she's into it, that dildo will be dripping with her juices and it's the only time I've seem her get creamy. But when she's just in an average mood, she usually ask me not to use it on her.
Message me if you need more details etc

We have played with different sized dildos, and in the end, she only wants clitoris stimulation toys, that's it,

 

[Caldosch]

We have played with different sized dildos, and in the end, she only wants clitoris stimulation toys, that's it,

Yep. Mine only cums from toys on her clit. She enjoys sex but never cums from it so the dildos are just some entertainment

 

[PNNP]

Yep. Mine only cums from toys on her clit. She enjoys sex but never cums from it so the dildos are just some entertainment

And together with two fingers only, which is thinner than my penis but I can apply pressure on the g-point makes her come easily and strong.

Myself do not enjoy she using the womanizer toys while I'm inside her.

 

[TallBWCArizona]

I'll tell our story as short as possible.

We've been married for almost 10 years. She is 42. She's been only with 2 men in her life, one of them is me (trust is strong between us, I'm 100% sure it's true, she's also a very trustworthy person). I'm 12cm long (14cm when I press the skin) and girth is also 12cm. Her ex had the same length with me, but noticeably thinner. Sex with him was bad, because he didn't do any foreplay at all, lasted never above 2 minutes, and generally didn't care about her pleasure, only about his. I know him in person, he is a very rude, disgusting person, no confidence and low intelligence. And I'm trying to be objective here.

Now, sex with me was good. I didn't last ever over 5 minutes, but she said it was intense and she enjoyed it much. I could tell, since she was very wet. I know she's very attracted to me, since even now she compliments me a lot and I can see it in her eyes. Our sex was always vanilla, but none of us had problem with that.

Now, the incidents...

First, I brought up the size discussion up. I asked her "why do you think many people often say that a big dick is better". She said that she doesn't know, but she thinks that all women have different vaginas, and her's isn't build for a big one. I told her that when she's very excited and I'm in her, she feels very loose, which i still get much pleasure of, but it feels like her vagina could be filled way more than I fill it. She says she doesn't feel what I describe. Discussion ended with her believing that I fit perfectly and me believing she could feel multiple times better with a bigger one and also hsving vaginal orgasms, since with me only very rarely she feels close but she doesn't orgasm.

After that, every year I brought it up 1-2 times. I was indirectly saying something to bring up the size discussion up.

Our discussions never evolved, up until I suggested her to try a dildo and find out, to explore herself.

One day, I do foreplay for about 10 minutes and she seems very turned on. I penetrate her with my penis and she enjoys. After that, I bring out the dildo and she seems to not want it, being afraid of it being too big (23cm long, 16cm around). I told her to take in as much as she wants. No discomfort should be felt, so she can control it. She tried for a good 5-10 minutes and stopped. Disliked it much.

I apologized for buying a very big one and I suggested to buy one a bit smaller. Bought a 20cm long, 15cm girth dildo, she could handle it better, received some pleasure, she said it was more intense than my dick, but still much discomfort. In the end, she likes mine more.

No problem if that's how her vagina is build, but I believe she wasn't as turned on, plus she was afraid, plus it's not the real thing, that's why she didn't feel the super-feeling she maybe has the potential to feel.

Lastly, after that, I only brought it up once, explaining to her why I believe that the fact she didn't like the experience with this dildo is because maybe it was still too girthy and also she wasn't turned on and the material is no where close to the real thing.

So, now she has no interest to discuss about this because she thinks she knows now, and believes that big dicks hurt.

I feel like I missed my chance. Like, she won't want to ever again give it a shot, nor can I suggest her to watch some amateur homemade porn so maybe she gets turned on, nor will she discuss the possibility of trying a third one. It's like this subject is "closed" because "now she knows, bigger hurts".

And some might say, "your wife is faithful and feels like you are the best sex for her, you have a happy marriage, why trying to ruin it?" Well, I notice all the details in her (sexually) and I strongly believe she could receive unimaginable pleasure from sex, that she'll be thankful I introduced her to this. I love her, so I want her to experience the best in life, that's why I would want her to explore this a little more.

So, is the door completely closed? What do you people think?

I have a plan for you. Message me and we can chat about it. I have helped many couples.

 

[majorem]

You sound like you're approaching this in a sort of weird technical way, trying to talk her up about bigger dicks, which probably weirds her out that you're bringing this up. She is probably confused why you would want to hear that and maybe even afraid to make you think she would enjoy a bigger cock or isn't satisfied by yours. Women generally do not want to talk about this stuff. They also want to feel like their man is powerful - talking about how your dick is small may just be turning her off. You are much more likely to get her into this fantasy talking about how hot you think it is to watch her pleasure herself for you / be a slut, whatever... You need to figure out what your wife likes by trying things during sex (without talking too much about them) and seeing how she reacts - unfortunately, you can't just ask her because women like your wife will never tell you and may not even be able to admit it to themselves.

It's maybe too late to do this, since you already tried with the dildos but you should have just bought it and said you think it would be hot to see her use it. She is way more likely to get into it if she thinks it is something that is going to turn you on, rather you trying to "fix" the lack of satisfaction you imagine she might be feeling from your dick.

What you should do is get her pretty turned on with foreplay, then start fucking her and, when she's getting into it, slip in a finger or two with your cock (if you can manage to last long enough). My wife always enjoys this. I think she enjoys feeling stretched but she also really gets off on the fact that she knows it really turns me on to stretch her pussy out.

My wife is similar to yours in that she would never use a dildo on herself but if she is very turned on (especially after drinking), she will enjoy me using one on her for a bit, especially when we 69,. Once she starts to get turned on though, she wants my cock. We have some fairly large dildos, the biggest is over 20cm around and she enjoys feeling really full but she has trouble cumming with them and, after a while, wants "the real thing".

 

[robbiewillsucku]

it is important that you start licking her pussy after you fuck her - on the third time - as you licking her pussy --- say I will lick others cum from your pussy. I want to lick your pussy clean after you have fucked other cocks.