Is there a way back?

[DownCuck]

Hello everybody,

I'm new to the scene and me and my wife are starting to experiment with cuckolding. For now, we experimenting with chastity and me pleasing her while being denied myself. Also talking about other men for her, and she is very open to the idea, although we haven't reached that stage jet. At this point, everything turns me on big time. My biggest wish is to be teased and denied further and further, while she finds a true alpha-man who can fuck her. However, sometimes I wonder: what if this happens? Is there a way to turn it back? Could I become "her man" again in the future, like a was in the beginning of our relationship? Or are we driving up a one-way-street?

like to hear your toughts and expierences

 

[Jeanswatcher]

In my view, once she has crossed the line it will change your relationship, you may well remain her "man" but once she sampled her pleasures elsewhere and with your permission she may well want to continue.

To become more like a true cuck she needs to really come home and later tell you she has being fucked, her choice and her decision and follow this with something like, i am meet him again next week, Note the "i" not we.

 

[Iahotwifeshusband]

From my experience, there is a price to pay for having a hotwife. My wife plays with other men while I remain faithful to her. Initially, she was thrilled with this freedom and treated me better in and out of the bedroom. However, over the years, this lifestyle has become normal to my wife and she doesn’t consistently treat me as though I am the number one man in her life.

To be fair, I think all relationships change over time, but I do sense differences in her level of focus on our relationship since starting this lifestyle.

 

[DownCuck]

In my view, once she has crossed the line it will change your relationship, you may well remain her "man" but once she sampled her pleasures elsewhere and with your permission she may well want to continue.

To become more like a true cuck she needs to really come home and later tell you she has being fucked, her choice and her decision and follow this with something like, i am meet him again next week, Note the "i" not we.

I'm all about open communication, so if/when this time comes, I sure hope she tells me she's fucking another man. Not to get my permission (don't think you really get in the position where she needs your permission anymore), but just as an investment in our relationship and seeing an communicating with eachother.

 

[DownCuck]

From my experience, there is a price to pay for having a hotwife. My wife plays with other men while I remain faithful to her. Initially, she was thrilled with this freedom and treated me better in and out of the bedroom. However, over the years, this lifestyle has become normal to my wife and she doesn’t consistently treat me as though I am the number one man in her life.

To be fair, I think all relationships change over time, but I do sense differences in her level of focus on our relationship since starting this lifestyle.

I guess, no matter what kind of relationship you have, communication and investing in eachother remains very important. But besides communication, do you ever have sex with her? Do you wish that would happen? Or are you still satisfied with the role als cuck?

 

[Iahotwifeshusband]

I guess, no matter what kind of relationship you have, communication and investing in eachother remains very important. But besides communication, do you ever have sex with her? Do you wish that would happen? Or are you still satisfied with the role als cuck?

Yes, I still have sex with my wife on a regular basis. It is becoming more often that we only have sex after she plays with others. My wife rarely initiates sex. As with everything, it is an evolution. I have thought about asking to open up the relationship so I play with others too, since she seems to have lost some interest in playing with me more than once a week.

 

[coastalkid]

Yes, I still have sex with my wife on a regular basis. It is becoming more often that we only have sex after she plays with others. My wife rarely initiates sex. As with everything, it is an evolution. I have thought about asking to open up the relationship so I play with others too, since she seems to have lost some interest in playing with me more than once a week.

How do you think she will respond to your request? It seemed like things were back on track for you two but this post sounds like things are slowly going back to where things weren't so good. Are you feeling that you're slipping back into that place where you are being ignored or an afterthought again? Do you think she's aware when you two have less frequent sex? How does she respond to you when you initiate wanting to have sex with her?

 

[Jake44]

For me there is no way back. My wife has denied me intercourse for over 11 years. She has along the way taught me how to suck cock and swallow. Up until a year ago she has let me keep my virgin asshole. That ended a year ago when she and a date went to a party, She brought him home after the party. I served them drinks and they fucked in our bed. Around 1:00 a m I was watching a movie and they came downstairs. She had me suck his cock for only a brief time. She then said "He is going to bust your cherry tonight." I was not happy about it but she wanted it. I got on my nands and kness naked and submissive. My wife lubed my asshole and her date rammed it home. It hurt and it felt like my rectum was splitting. He laughed and said I was tight. He unloaded in me. My wife then said " Clean his dick" He then fucked my mouth. I still have not gotten over that night but she is my Queen.

 

[DownCuck]

For me there is no way back. My wife has denied me intercourse for over 11 years. She has along the way taught me how to suck cock and swallow. Up until a year ago she has let me keep my virgin asshole. That ended a year ago when she and a date went to a party, She brought him home after the party. I served them drinks and they fucked in our bed. Around 1:00 a m I was watching a movie and they came downstairs. She had me suck his cock for only a brief time. She then said "He is going to bust your cherry tonight." I was not happy about it but she wanted it. I got on my nands and kness naked and submissive. My wife lubed my asshole and her date rammed it home. It hurt and it felt like my rectum was splitting. He laughed and said I was tight. He unloaded in me. My wife then said " Clean his dick" He then fucked my mouth. I still have not gotten over that night but she is my Queen.

Thank you for sharing your position. Sounds like my dream, but can imagine it is hard at times when you crave for her.

 

[Iahotwifeshusband]

How do you think she will respond to your request? It seemed like things were back on track for you two but this post sounds like things are slowly going back to where things weren't so good. Are you feeling that you're slipping back into that place where you are being ignored or an afterthought again? Do you think she's aware when you two have less frequent sex? How does she respond to you when you initiate wanting to have sex with her?

It seems to continue to be a rollercoaster. Beyond the lifestyle, things are crazy busy in all areas of life right now. We did have a longer talk the other day about how things are going and she agreed that we need to find more time for each other. We both seem to have more demands for our time than are heathy and she was under the impression that I most enjoyed playing with her after she fucks her other friend. While she isn’t wrong, I also don’t want that to be the only time we have sex. If anything, it’s a friendly reminder to keep lines of communication open

Outside of my wife and I, life is really complicated with work and family which makes relationship issues seem bigger than they really are.

 

[Hwcouple702]

Hello everybody,

I'm new to the scene and me and my wife are starting to experiment with cuckolding. For now, we experimenting with chastity and me pleasing her while being denied myself. Also talking about other men for her, and she is very open to the idea, although we haven't reached that stage jet. At this point, everything turns me on big time. My biggest wish is to be teased and denied further and further, while she finds a true alpha-man who can fuck her. However, sometimes I wonder: what if this happens? Is there a way to turn it back? Could I become "her man" again in the future, like a was in the beginning of our relationship? Or are we driving up a one-way-street?

like to hear your toughts and expierences

Of course, she'll tell you whatever you want to hear...🤣

But seriously, no, your sex life will never be "the same" again. She may quit, she may not, it depends upon whether and how much she
enjoyed sex with others. If she takes to it, it's doubtful she'll quit. Of course you can have sex with her and both of you may enjoy it. It's just that
it won't be "the same" as before. Of course, monogamy results in changes to the sex life as well.

 

[Iahotwifeshusband]

Of course, she'll tell you whatever you want to hear...🤣

But seriously, no, your sex life will never be "the same" again. She may quit, she may not, it depends upon whether and how much she
enjoyed sex with others. If she takes to it, it's doubtful she'll quit. Of course you can have sex with her and both of you may enjoy it. It's just that
it won't be "the same" as before. Of course, monogamy results in changes to the sex life as well.

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Holy cow! This pics looks like a lot of fun! I am not sure if I’d rather have your lips wrapped around my cock or have my face buried between your legs! Okay okay, both please! ;-)

 

[575Cuck]

As long as the wife has/had fun that’s all I care about, aside from her safety

 

[coastalkid]

It seems to continue to be a rollercoaster. Beyond the lifestyle, things are crazy busy in all areas of life right now. We did have a longer talk the other day about how things are going and she agreed that we need to find more time for each other. We both seem to have more demands for our time than are heathy and she was under the impression that I most enjoyed playing with her after she fucks her other friend. While she isn’t wrong, I also don’t want that to be the only time we have sex. If anything, it’s a friendly reminder to keep lines of communication open

Outside of my wife and I, life is really complicated with work and family which makes relationship issues seem bigger than they really are.

I know how life can get busy on you! This last year has been a horrible sidetracking of my sex life. It's just circumstances and the way the cards are dealt sometimes.

I think you're right that your sex not be constrained to "reclaiming sex". Even if it isn't intended that way, if you feel it's slipping into that then you should speak up. If it feels like those demands on "her" time are only about when she can get together with her boyfriend "du jour" then if it's making you feel something's off then why not tell her straight up. You've earned that. You've been upfront why change?

 

[DownCuck]

My wife is out for the weekend with a (female) friend, visiting a big city about 100km away. She has locked my up in chastity and took the key with her. She left a spare key for safety issues, but wrapped it up so I can't use is without her noticing it. Even though she has permission to do whatever she wants with other men, I don't think she is at a stage where she is actually going to do anything yet. For now: just fantasizing about the idea that she might, while being locked-up in chastity. I'm horny and frustrated at the same time. I love it.

 

[Pampix]

Hello everybody,

I'm new to the scene and me and my wife are starting to experiment with cuckolding. For now, we experimenting with chastity and me pleasing her while being denied myself. Also talking about other men for her, and she is very open to the idea, although we haven't reached that stage jet. At this point, everything turns me on big time. My biggest wish is to be teased and denied further and further, while she finds a true alpha-man who can fuck her. However, sometimes I wonder: what if this happens? Is there a way to turn it back? Could I become "her man" again in the future, like a was in the beginning of our relationship? Or are we driving up a one-way-street?

like to hear your toughts and expierences

My experience is that once you are in in the Beta-men category in her eyes it will not change anymore... So be carefull for what you wish for...

 

[Phun Times 727]

I ask myself this same question, is there a way back? I think a lot depends on the people involved, you, your wife and whatever 3rd party or parties are part of it. Of course the question arises, do you as a couple want to stop, does she "really" want to stop? I think how far in you are makes a big difference. In our case she sees one guy and has been that way for some time. The three of us only have sex within the relationship so it is a less complicated situation. If she is at a point of leaving you out and just going getting what she wants when and how she wants it and cuts you off, then I think that is a tough one to reverse. Aside from the sex the hunt is like a ...... and if you want to stop and she doesn't, I don't see that working. Now if she hits a point whre she has a bad experience and wants out, maybe then.

We actually went to a therapist recently to talk about our life, marriage and sex life. We both wanted to talk to someone and it was good. We did a few sessions and may do some more in the future. Needless to say therapist did not agree with our decisions but our approach was we want to be the best we can be within a given set of parameters. We know we should change the parameters but for now just help us as best as possible without having us change the one thing we do not want to change.

 

[sgdgolf]

I was wondering about that myself before we started down this slippery slope. After about 8 years now, I can tell you without hesitation, that you cannot unfuck someone. Once my wife had sex with other men it was a sealed deal, I was a cuckold. There are subtle changes in our relationship, nothing drastic. However, it will forever change how your wife views you. Whether I like it or not, I am a cuckold and there is nothing I can do about it. So be careful what you wish for.

 

[Phun Times 727]

I was wondering about that myself before we started down this slippery slope. After about 8 years now, I can tell you without hesitation, that you cannot unfuck someone. Once my wife had sex with other men it was a sealed deal, I was a cuckold. There are subtle changes in our relationship, nothing drastic. However, it will forever change how your wife views you. Whether I like it or not, I am a cuckold and there is nothing I can do about it. So be careful what you wish for.

I am curious about this. We are a few months in to a situation where my wife started to sex with another man, with my approval of course. I didn't really think it would last this long and I was trying to set up a one time birthday 3 some for her w 2 other men so we thought we had one just need to find another. She could get more used to thigs if she got comfortable with the situation and him. It never made it to the 3some w 2 other men but wife and I and him get together a lot. We are at a crossroads now. She is hanging out with an experienced hotwife who hasn't said it but I think is trying to bring her to the full hotwife status. Which for me/us is the point I think of no return.
Up til now I have more or less maintained my husband monogamy role in sharing her strictly under our boundaries. Yes, she sleeps with another man regularly but with my approval. She is not out clubbing and picking up random men for sex without me there. I feel that could be the tipping point if we haven't already hit it at the moment I asked if she would be willing to ...... with someone for my entertainment and she said yes.

 

[coastalkid]

I ask myself this same question, is there a way back? I think a lot depends on the people involved, you, your wife and whatever 3rd party or parties are part of it. Of course the question arises, do you as a couple want to stop, does she "really" want to stop? I think how far in you are makes a big difference. In our case she sees one guy and has been that way for some time. The three of us only have sex within the relationship so it is a less complicated situation. If she is at a point of leaving you out and just going getting what she wants when and how she wants it and cuts you off, then I think that is a tough one to reverse. Aside from the sex the hunt is like a ...... and if you want to stop and she doesn't, I don't see that working. Now if she hits a point whre she has a bad experience and wants out, maybe then.

We actually went to a therapist recently to talk about our life, marriage and sex life. We both wanted to talk to someone and it was good. We did a few sessions and may do some more in the future. Needless to say therapist did not agree with our decisions but our approach was we want to be the best we can be within a given set of parameters. We know we should change the parameters but for now just help us as best as possible without having us change the one thing we do not want to change.

Great post! I especially agree with the highlighted in red part. Kudos to you both for seeking out therapy to help assuage your concerns about your life, marriage and sex life. You probably needed to see a therapist that deals in non-monogamy, but whatever. The main point is you chose together to go. It shows an investment in your relationship on both of you. I keep going back to your first posts and thinking you were crazy. You have shown me that you have your ...... together better than most.