I guess I didn't explain enough detail. I agree with you that we should be so super careful. But it's not as bad as you think. I met him online, and we also met for coffee a couple of times to talk strategy. And he did look to me for approval when he said he was going to take her, and I nodded ok. Of course I was so mesmerized by my wife that I would have said yes to anything, but my point is that I felt he was always being considerate and careful. Also, he was always very sensitive and gentle from the beginning, which is why it was able to happen. Sure, he was fucking her brains out eventually, but he took a very careful and loving approach, and he seemed genuinely blown away by her too. My wife had lots of bad sex before she met me, which is why she had no interest to try this. She is very delicate, and not someone that you can suddenly handle rough sex or a gang bang. I coached this guy and explained what he needed to do if he wanted a chance with her, and he did everything perfectly. She lets me track the location on her phone, and it matches his address. I also know his work, and I am comfortable that he did not want to make any trouble for himself. Again, I appreciate your concern, and I do agree that we need to protect our wives first. Maybe I'm wrong and this ends horribly, but I'll know soon, as it seems she is about to come home. I got a short text from her finally, and another from him. Thank you for raising this caution. I'll let you guys know how it went once I can speak to her.