Oh boo hoo. It is not your call as to what is or is not permissible or acceptable methodology to get a partner introduced to sharing. It is a great story. This part of the forum is about how to convince a wife/partner. His plan was very simple - fake ED, get her horny from lack of cock, deprived himself as well, and she finally opted for an mfm as a way to relieve herself . The plan worked. You get all preachy abour a lifestyle that is marginal at best - as if there is some sweety sweety intellectual component to it. There is not. It is just sex. Hopefully it is good sex for both parties (and the 3rd and 4th involved). Anyway - CanadaCpl won. He convinced his otherwise reluctant wife to enjoy a threesome. She liked it. And he is entitled to experience the joy of mfm sex. Don't go making rules and piling on conditions for sharing by others. It is not your call.