how to tell my husband

[peihotwife]

Best way to raise it is sometime when you can be intimate and tell him you had a dream ... you don't have to tell him it was a daydream.

Bob, a few nights ago I had this really weird dream. In the dream, we were nude with some other men and women on a nude beach. A man was giving me the eye and after about an hour or so came over to say hello. He asked us point blank if we could go back to his hotel as he wanted to make love to me...

Be observant to his reaction. Its called testing the waters. If he gets a little excited, gets hard etc. you may just have planted the seed. He may have the same fantasy as you.

Or, he may be thoroughly disgusted by the idea in which case you will need to keep that your private never to come true fantasy.

My prediction is that he will say "well, I hoped you gave him a big 'NO WAY'" and you will have to say, well yes, of course I did but the idea will eat away at him over time and become his fantasy too.

 

[Jon Day]

I certainly would love to hear that from my wife.

 

[Mat1429]

You said that you been trying new things. Other than nudism what else have you two experienced ?

Have you asked him about his Fantasies? He will have some too! Maybe go from there?

 

[Tomblack]

I'm 47, I've been married to my husband for almost 30 years. We are both very conservative, involved in church, etc.. My husband was my first sexual experience ever. I have never been with or even came close to being with anyone else. Now that our kids are grown and moved out we have been trying new things like nudism. Seeing all of the different sizes and types of penises has really been making me think more and more how I would really like to experience another man inside me. I recently bought a large reel feel dildo, my husband has no idea. I couldn't believe how good it felt. I was so embarrassed and ashamed by how I fantasized it was another man inside of me. I can't stop thinking about it. We spent last weekend at a nudist resort, I kept staring at other men. I had to excuse myself to the bathroom a few times to clean myself because my juices were running down my leg.

I deeply love my husband and don't want to hurt him in any way, but I can't stop fantasizing about experiencing another man. I'm not looking for offers from perverts. I'm looking for real advise regarding how to talk to my husband or if I should even bring it up.

Talk to him about it. May be his fantasy to watch

 

[SDCuck]

I'm 47, I've been married to my husband for almost 30 years. We are both very conservative, involved in church, etc.. My husband was my first sexual experience ever. I have never been with or even came close to being with anyone else. Now that our kids are grown and moved out we have been trying new things like nudism. Seeing all of the different sizes and types of penises has really been making me think more and more how I would really like to experience another man inside me. I recently bought a large reel feel dildo, my husband has no idea. I couldn't believe how good it felt. I was so embarrassed and ashamed by how I fantasized it was another man inside of me. I can't stop thinking about it. We spent last weekend at a nudist resort, I kept staring at other men. I had to excuse myself to the bathroom a few times to clean myself because my juices were running down my leg.

I deeply love my husband and don't want to hurt him in any way, but I can't stop fantasizing about experiencing another man. I'm not looking for offers from perverts. I'm looking for real advise regarding how to talk to my husband or if I should even bring it up.

Have either of you commented on the others at the resort? Maybe he's noticed a couple of hot women. If you break the ice maybe he'll also "confess" to looking at the women. It's an easy next step to ask about having sex with others, as a fantasy.

 

[ColoCpl]

I'm 47, I've been married to my husband for almost 30 years. We are both very conservative, involved in church, etc.. My husband was my first sexual experience ever. I have never been with or even came close to being with anyone else. Now that our kids are grown and moved out we have been trying new things like nudism. Seeing all of the different sizes and types of penises has really been making me think more and more how I would really like to experience another man inside me. I recently bought a large reel feel dildo, my husband has no idea. I couldn't believe how good it felt. I was so embarrassed and ashamed by how I fantasized it was another man inside of me. I can't stop thinking about it. We spent last weekend at a nudist resort, I kept staring at other men. I had to excuse myself to the bathroom a few times to clean myself because my juices were running down my leg.

I deeply love my husband and don't want to hurt him in any way, but I can't stop fantasizing about experiencing another man. I'm not looking for offers from perverts. I'm looking for real advise regarding how to talk to my husband or if I should even bring it up.

we are in the exact same boat as you. I would love to chat with you about it some time. I dont know your husband but my guess is he would probably like seeing you use your new toy.

 

[Endowed-Master69]

Hello I’m 46 and I recently found what this is . I just don’t know where to start . I want something more exciting. Instead of fucking around with out him knowing . I’d rather be open about it and show him .

DM me, we can talk about some ideas

 

[Hot4maturelady]

You have nothing to be ashamed of by fantasizing about another man fucking you. I don’t think you would actually fuck someone else unless your husband was 100 percent for you doing so. You need to lead him to that discussion. In lieu of fucking someone else you could ask your husband to blindfold you, plug your ears, and tie you to your bed for an extended time then fuck you throughout the day. Nothing should be off limits. You need oral, anal, vaginal, nipple clamps, flogging, etc. Your senses will be heightened and you can fantasize about many men waiting their turn to fuck you. When tied you can’t resist so you can give yourself permission to enjoy what happens to you.

Good Thought, Quite Imaginative.

 

[Bull4ladies]

Hi Dear I saw your post .If u really wants to ...... and sex with other man .you can told about it with your husband .And if your husband do respect your feeling and love you so definitely he agreed for it.you talk with her about it when you having sex with your husband,tell him about your fantasy .

 

[Hot4maturelady]

Yeah, I agree. Start with pointing out other guys to him, mentioning them while playing with his cock later when you're alone together. Maybe mention how a penis looks, if your husband is circumcised then mention an uncut one and wonder how it looks hard, or vice versa if your husband is uncut. Maybe float the idea during sex of how hot it would be for another guy to join in.

I know this is a cuckold site, but there is also the angle of pointing out women to him. I don't know your husband, but if going to a nudist club was your first step in sexual exploration he might be looking at taking things that direction rather than having a guy join you. With a little nudging you two can discuss some fantasies to see if you're on the same page and see what you like.

Exactly, May be taking to you to nudist beach or place is with intention to welcome Third into bedroom. But will be better to find out whether he wants to bring it for you or for him

 

[Samberg503]

Best way to raise it is sometime when you can be intimate and tell him you had a dream ... you don't have to tell him it was a daydream.

Bob, a few nights ago I had this really weird dream. In the dream, we were nude with some other men and women on a nude beach. A man was giving me the eye and after about an hour or so came over to say hello. He asked us point blank if we could go back to his hotel as he wanted to make love to me...

Be observant to his reaction. Its called testing the waters. If he gets a little excited, gets hard etc. you may just have planted the seed. He may have the same fantasy as you.

Or, he may be thoroughly disgusted by the idea in which case you will need to keep that your private never to come true fantasy.

My prediction is that he will say "well, I hoped you gave him a big 'NO WAY'" and you will have to say, well yes, of course I did but the idea will eat away at him over time and become his fantasy too.

Well said, that is perfect advice! Then you will know!! I hope her fantasy comes true!!

 

[Samberg503]

So many exciting ideas! But I'm in agreement with those that say be honest and up front with him!! Start with seeing the other penises and your thoughts!! Then introduce the bigger dildo, and have him take part in pleasuring you with it, you will know if to keep pursuing by his reaction!! Enjoy yourself and the moment!! Good Luck!

 

[Samberg503]

After all of this time being married, you must have discussed some sorts of sexual fantasies? You should have a feel for whether he might be receptive to any ideas you have regarding being shared. After all, he is taking you to nudist resorts so there must be some sort of interest there. Does he get irritated with you when he perceives that you are flirting with another guy or another guys is flirting with you? Does he get antsy if you are having a conversation one on one with another guy at the nudist resort? Do you ever talk sexual fantasy with him? Does he have fantasies? You have every right to bring up your desires with him. You really only have one life and denying sexual pleasure for no good reason is a tragedy in my mind. You really MUST find a way to take that plunge.

Mrs Hotwife

Great advice! I hope her fantasy cums true!!

 

[Cathy]

Just be honest and up front with him, tell him that the well endowed guys at the nudest resort have made you really curious about how a big penis would feel inside you. Re-enforce to him that he is the only man you will ever love, but let him know that the sight of those big penises make you very horny and that you can't get them out of your mind. Tell him that those thoughts have driven you to buy a big dildo that you want him to use on you so that you can see for yourself what all the hype is about a big penis. there's no need for you to mention that your already used the dildo several times. Hubby will jump at opportunity to pleasure you with a big fake penis, once he gets use to pleasuring you with it is when you can than start getting him into roll play (him being the well hung guy). When he's comfortable with the roll play start dropping hint about a real cock that size. Once your been pleasured by a big penis you will never regret the effort it cost you to lead your husband into this life style, you will both love it. I agree with the other comments hubby wont take much convincing he is already sharing your body with other guys at least visually. Go for it honey you deserve it xxx

 

[CS2694]

I'm 47, I've been married to my husband for almost 30 years. We are both very conservative, involved in church, etc.. My husband was my first sexual experience ever. I have never been with or even came close to being with anyone else. Now that our kids are grown and moved out we have been trying new things like nudism. Seeing all of the different sizes and types of penises has really been making me think more and more how I would really like to experience another man inside me. I recently bought a large reel feel dildo, my husband has no idea. I couldn't believe how good it felt. I was so embarrassed and ashamed by how I fantasized it was another man inside of me. I can't stop thinking about it. We spent last weekend at a nudist resort, I kept staring at other men. I had to excuse myself to the bathroom a few times to clean myself because my juices were running down my leg.

I deeply love my husband and don't want to hurt him in any way, but I can't stop fantasizing about experiencing another man. I'm not looking for offers from perverts. I'm looking for real advise regarding how to talk to my husband or if I should even bring it up.

And I’m over here trying to figure out how to tell my wife i want her to experience new men. Lol the irony

 

[free2fli]

I'm 47, I've been married to my husband for almost 30 years. We are both very conservative, involved in church, etc.. My husband was my first sexual experience ever. I have never been with or even came close to being with anyone else. Now that our kids are grown and moved out we have been trying new things like nudism. Seeing all of the different sizes and types of penises has really been making me think more and more how I would really like to experience another man inside me. I recently bought a large reel feel dildo, my husband has no idea. I couldn't believe how good it felt. I was so embarrassed and ashamed by how I fantasized it was another man inside of me. I can't stop thinking about it. We spent last weekend at a nudist resort, I kept staring at other men. I had to excuse myself to the bathroom a few times to clean myself because my juices were running down my leg.

I deeply love my husband and don't want to hurt him in any way, but I can't stop fantasizing about experiencing another man. I'm not looking for offers from perverts. I'm looking for real advise regarding how to talk to my husband or if I should even bring it up.

Does this sound real? 47 yr old one man woman with no prior history of sexual adventure buys a big dildo without husband's knowledge, then goes to a nudist colony with the husband , and is enthralled with new cocks and the possibility of getting boned by another guy. Then the wife happens to find this site (which means she is surfing porn) and posts looking for advice. I guess it could happen in some alternate universe. Face it. If wife and husband are going to nudist resorts neither has inhibitions about bringing up sexual desires, fantasies, plans or excursions. Just for fun let's assume this is all legit. There are two easy solutions to the wife's desire. First, she can say at any time at or after the nudist resort " honey, seeing all these guys excites me. Do you get excited seeing the women?" Second, she can ask the husband if he would like to book a week at Hedonism or some other adult resort. If he says yes to either question they are both off to the races.

 

[Jon Day]

But who cares. Lots of fun talking about it.

 

[confused wife]

Sorry it has been so long. Life has been busy.
To answer some of your questions, My husband is above average. His cock is as large as any other men I have seen. That's not an issue.
As I read your comments and as I have had an experience, I have realized I am deeply in love with my husband, but I am starting to feel old and unattractive. Hearing I am beautiful from my husband is great but to hear it and experience it from someone else lights a new fire.

 

[Hopefulhusband]

Glad you had an experience.

 

[rickncindy]

You didnt say, but are these men at the nudist resort that are making your pussy dribble, all bigger than hubby. I take it hubby is on the small side.

When you get to a resort, let you husband catch you staring a big cocks & licking your lips.