I know what you mean. I love the thought of my wife being fucked by another guy and then when we are going to bed, I sometimes lose the urge to have sex with her. It could be my age (55) or the fact that I have diabetes. When I am home alone or travelling, I’ll wank constantly whilst watching wife sharing or wife interracial porn on the internet. I have spoken to her about her being with another guys and she’s agreed to it in principal but only when we are on vacation somewhere, so we are unlikely ever to bump into the guy again. I’ve even made it easier for her as I admitted to her one day that I had played around previously when she asked me, when we had both been drinking. She didn’t ask for the details and I didn’t give any. I do love her but sometimes the urge to fuck her just isn’t there.
Our situation is very similar. Our sex life was good. Since we started inviting our friend to join us it's fantastic. Took quite a few times to get comfy with the whole deal but it's very good now. Wife is horny as fuck for days after he's been with us.
It is exactly what we hoped, and we are being careful to minimize the possibility of getting feels. It took a while, and many discussions, but she can now view sex as sex and not love.
My wife has learned to do exactly that. We are very normal and conservative. We started doing mfm with a guy we know. First times were VERY weird and awkward as hell. But wife was horny as fuck after he left and for days after. She said she felt guilty after, always said it was wrong and didn't want to do it again. I guess she'd get the itch and we'd call him. WHILE we were doing it with him she was SO into it, after horny as hell.
That ...... is key right there... A good fucking isn't going to pay your mortgage, take care of you when you're sick, pick up your kids from school, help you when there's a death in the family... A lot of people including myself start to figure that ...... out naturally as you get older and life kicks you in the balls repeatedly.
Unless I am missing something here, then I don’t see what the problem is with you going and getting ‘some’ elsewhere. Fortunately my wife is the one who initiates sex in most cases or tells me that she is in the mood tonight and to take my little blue pill. Always wanted her to fuck another guy but not happened yet.
