Hello all,
I don't have much to add on how to talk a wife into the lifestyle, but I can sure tell you how NOT to lol. So here's my failure of a story...
Me and the wife had been mildly kinky up to getting married, but then it stopped, she wasn't in the mood as often, and so things just got stale and eventually died. Not that I didn't try, but she seemed bored with it. I figured it was the lack of excitement. She knew I was into group sex and sharing, but that all seemed to fade after marriage also.
Around 2015 our bedroom was officially dead. She took me out for my birthday and I got a little tipsy, and of course, I just blurted out (on the drive home) all my crazy cuck fantasies, hotwife fantasies, etc.. She was horrified. After that, we didn't have sex for 5 years.
We're just starting to get back into sex again. She says she doesn't understand the fetishes and that it weirds her out. I guess I can understand that, I should have brought it up slowly, but with such infrequent sex (or sex talk), it's difficult to ease into it. I royally screwed up bringing it up, but I also realize that it didn't really matter anyways, it was never going to fly. But if I had a new woman, I would just bring it up on the first or second date, let her know I'm into kinky stuff, then let her explore and tell her as she asks.
Point is, don't just blurt it all out at once. Probably said a million times here already but I figured I'd highlight why.
I don't have much to add on how to talk a wife into the lifestyle, but I can sure tell you how NOT to lol. So here's my failure of a story...
Me and the wife had been mildly kinky up to getting married, but then it stopped, she wasn't in the mood as often, and so things just got stale and eventually died. Not that I didn't try, but she seemed bored with it. I figured it was the lack of excitement. She knew I was into group sex and sharing, but that all seemed to fade after marriage also.
Around 2015 our bedroom was officially dead. She took me out for my birthday and I got a little tipsy, and of course, I just blurted out (on the drive home) all my crazy cuck fantasies, hotwife fantasies, etc.. She was horrified. After that, we didn't have sex for 5 years.
We're just starting to get back into sex again. She says she doesn't understand the fetishes and that it weirds her out. I guess I can understand that, I should have brought it up slowly, but with such infrequent sex (or sex talk), it's difficult to ease into it. I royally screwed up bringing it up, but I also realize that it didn't really matter anyways, it was never going to fly. But if I had a new woman, I would just bring it up on the first or second date, let her know I'm into kinky stuff, then let her explore and tell her as she asks.
Point is, don't just blurt it all out at once. Probably said a million times here already but I figured I'd highlight why.