My wife and I roleplay the hotwife fantasy. She does this as a favor to me. She really has no ideas of making it a reality, which if she doesn't want I'm cool with. I still desire that Fuller twinge of jealousy and sexual arousal. So looking for advice or someone to talk to to give me that arousal roleplay.
Hotwife Roleplay
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One way I used to get my exgf so aroused she would play away was to allow her to dance alone one the dance floor of a busy nightclub. She would soon be joined by one or more young guys looking to laid. I would give her Goals to reach and she did this by having a few to drink. Some of the goals were a bit too far but other such as dancing with her back to a guy and reach around her back to feel his cock or another was if she was wearing a very short skirt she had to let a guy or guys play with her bare puss and in all cases she had to come back to me, sometimes with the guys in tow. She would be dancing so that I could just see her through the crowd and then sometimes not but each time she would come back all hot and horn to tell me how she was brought to a climax or how big his cock was. It got to be a really horn game and when we went to the swing clubs we would go dancing first to get her in the mood. The jealousy is right up there making you as horny as hell
I love the jealousy level there. It's just not what my wife would not be willing to do. I think I might be chasing a ghost when it comes to hitting those hot jealousy levels with a wife that wants nothing of it....
KristieKream
Couple
hotwifeluvr
Male
That's what she says, and she may even believe it. In rare cases, it may even be true. But IMO, women say this because they think it's what they're supposed to say and feel. She may have all kinds of different fears around this. Starting with the fear that you are just testing her, or that you will feel differently if she were to do it for real. Truth be told, there is a very real possibility that you WILL feel differently if it happens for real, or even if she really gets into the fantasy and seems to be enjoying it. You may be shaking your head, "No way, not me!" I'm just telling you...don't be surprised if that happens, as it has happened to many others, catching them by surprise.
Wives also fear that there is a hidden agenda, that what you really want is to fuck other women. Once she fucks someone, it would be only fair that you also get to fuck someone. You telling her that is not the case will not immediately convince her.
Many women have an instinctive fear of being considered a slut. For their friends to think of them that way would be bad, but for her beloved husband to think that about her? Horrifying. Sometimes women embrace that, but it's pretty rare, in my experience.
She can fear getting found out, shamed, pregnant or catching an STD. Those are all valid fears actually. Those things can happen. Don't try to argue with her. Just be understanding of any fears she expresses. Feeling understood, she is in a better position to feel safe and to work through them on her own
Accept your wife's refusal at face value. Let her feel safe, knowing that she can dip her toe in the water with the fantasy without the fear that you'll push her into the deep end. It will take time, most likely years. Let her go at her own pace. Along the way, she'll see how hard you get and how hot you are when she indulges the fantasy, and that you don't then start pushing her to go further. If she says, "You know this is just fantasy right? It will never happen, so don't even dream about it" tell her that you understand.
Enjoy the journey. Give it time, and enjoy the fun along the way, wherever it leads. When it does finally happen, it will be all the hotter for it not being something she agreed to readily. No matter how much you are sure you would love that, there's a good chance that if she jumped at the offer, you could end up finding it disquieting.
Wives also fear that there is a hidden agenda, that what you really want is to fuck other women. Once she fucks someone, it would be only fair that you also get to fuck someone. You telling her that is not the case will not immediately convince her.
Many women have an instinctive fear of being considered a slut. For their friends to think of them that way would be bad, but for her beloved husband to think that about her? Horrifying. Sometimes women embrace that, but it's pretty rare, in my experience.
She can fear getting found out, shamed, pregnant or catching an STD. Those are all valid fears actually. Those things can happen. Don't try to argue with her. Just be understanding of any fears she expresses. Feeling understood, she is in a better position to feel safe and to work through them on her own
Accept your wife's refusal at face value. Let her feel safe, knowing that she can dip her toe in the water with the fantasy without the fear that you'll push her into the deep end. It will take time, most likely years. Let her go at her own pace. Along the way, she'll see how hard you get and how hot you are when she indulges the fantasy, and that you don't then start pushing her to go further. If she says, "You know this is just fantasy right? It will never happen, so don't even dream about it" tell her that you understand.
Enjoy the journey. Give it time, and enjoy the fun along the way, wherever it leads. When it does finally happen, it will be all the hotter for it not being something she agreed to readily. No matter how much you are sure you would love that, there's a good chance that if she jumped at the offer, you could end up finding it disquieting.
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