Any woman would tell you a dildo is never the same as the real thing! Guys I think you just need to give her to a bbc and let her experience the hugeness of the real deal. It worked for my husband and I, our first mfm threesome was with a black guy and it was amazing, he was long and thick and I took it all, deep and hard from the beginning, and have never had to use a toy to make me ready.