Recent content by coastalkid

No worries on the long post! The part in green is what I think is awesome because I asked my wife to start talking dirty while we are having sex. She was very reluctant but did it for me. She was really awkward at first but she has become really skilled at it now. She has come up with some stuff...

Given what you have said, I'd say you have a lot of blessings to be thankful for. My wife and I have been married 47 years and she came from an extremely conservative religious household. If your wife accepts your bisexual activity and is turned on by it, that alone is huge leap for a...

It's just my opinion and nothing more, but since she said, "you would like it in the moment then regret it", I'd start there. She knows the idea excites you "in the moment". She's not sure how you would feel afterwards. She sees the potential for it turn in a bad way for you both. I'm sure her...

I'm pretty sure Anonymousrob HAS been a "good boy", maybe not in the same way as robbiewilsucku. Everybody has their own way of doing things. If being a "good boy" is fun then hell yeah! If being a "good boy" isn't fun then why be good?

Please, do continue.

Because some people will suggest that NO MATTER what YOU feel you should just take it and accept it. Some people get their thrill from being jealous and insecure. It seems common that people believe that their attitude fits everyone's situation. In truth what works for them and what drives them...

The whole "I had a dream" scenario does seem like a way to approach a discussion/declaration of some kind. It seems like a way to "blame" the thoughts as being involuntary and avoid the perception that her daytime thoughts aren't the issue. If it were me, I'd tell her that you really enjoyed...

I suppose the finding of the porn could mean a lot of different things. I would also suggest that it doesn't necessarily mean that she's unsatisfied. I wouldn't assume anything until you get a chance to ask her about it. What is more concerning to me is that she was "hyper sexual" before being...

I can personally attest to the great difficulty in being married to a wife raised in an ultra conservative Christian household. It has taken decades to put a small dent in that wall. My wife knows I crave sex but after years of her being ambivalent towards sex caused me to shut down. She's...

Thanks for the update. I have a better understanding of what "unfinished business" meant now. Your question regarding about the ongoing nature of this new development is telling. Since she's taking the initiative and "ownership" does it feel like there is little less communication that leaves...

It's good to hear that you feel closer relationship wise. That's important! It is also important that your communication is not inhibited by any type of fear or worry. I get that this step of her taking the initiative is a desired thing. It shows that it's not just you wanting this. I proves a...

I'm sorry that some people have chosen to be hateful in their response. I can understand why that would make you reluctant to share more. I woiuld say just ignore them but I know it's just not that simple. Ultimately the important part is that you are enjoying your part of the experience.

I'll have to say that the tone of your post is pretty blurry. Even with you checking in with "him" it doesn't sound like he's in the loop either. I think you've been wise to "let her process things" on her own but it leaves you in an very unaware position. The fact that you had assumed something...

Any updates?

Wow!