Would a cage help?

[Hamster]

My self and my wife have went back and forth with this lifestyle for a couple of years now we have always stopped before she's met up with other guys. I personally feel regret every time after I get off, generally after we have sex we both back out of agreeing with a cuckold lifestyle then agree never to revisit it. We have spoke about how small my cock is compared to other men she's had and how I give her no thrill I just can't get away from being turned on by being a cuck. I want her to be fucked by a real man without me having regret without me ruining it, I also get too excited when we agree she can talk to other guys and get in the way wanting to know everything. Would being caged help me calm down/feel less regret and let her go get what she needs and let her be who she is ?

 

[SmallHubbyTexas]

First off, having a big cock does not make you a real man. Being a man is much more than the size of your cock.

I also get too excited when we agree she can talk to other guys and get in the way wanting to know everything.

What you said here jumped out at me. One of the hardest things for me was not asking my wife for details when she informed me my fantasy had come true and I was a cuckold. All I asked her was “did she enjoy herself.” I think if I would have pushed her for details, it would have turned her off. Eventually I ended up caged, it was her idea, and now we are both happy and enjoying this lifestyle.

So my recommendation is give her some space and do t be pushy.

 

[Hamster]

Thank you for your reply, we have went through periods of her texting men ect she met up with one aswell but just to talk but he backed out. We are currently at a phase where although she has told me how much better her exes have fucked her ect we are kidding on ad if nothing has happened and it was all said in heat of the moment.
Although she's definitely a size queen and she likes men who can man handle her (not my style) she has told me the attention is the main factor for her, getting male attention is what she craves.
She's currently pregnant with our 4th child so I don't see her agreeing to re vist things soon understandably.
I feel I need to take the time to accept within myself that I like being a cuck and try and get the regret away.
Your definitely right I need to just leave her be although not easy because I feel like I need every detail possible. She is the one who's mentioned a cage I the past although we didn't go into much detail.

 

[Sam Leone]

First off, having a big cock does not make you a real man. Being a man is much more than the size of your cock.

What you said here jumped out at me. One of the hardest things for me was not asking my wife for details when she informed me my fantasy had come true and I was a cuckold. All I asked her was “did she enjoy herself.” I think if I would have pushed her for details, it would have turned her off. Eventually I ended up caged, it was her idea, and now we are both happy and enjoying this lifestyle.

So my recommendation is give her some space and do t be pushy.

Splendid advice and I fully agree!

 

[NH1980]

I have zero actual experience but have read and watched a lot. Some of the things I have noticed from watching videos - real and fake.

In real videos, quite often, the bull is similar sized to the cuck, there isn’t a huge difference. I guess the age old adage ‘it’s not what you have it’s what you do with it’ is quite relevant. I wonder whether the difference is the thrill of something new and exciting, something different from the usual routine, the act of sex being an event, getting dressed up, travelling somewhere, having a meal, going dancing. Also that the bill takes charge, he tells the hotwife, what to where, what to do, doesn’t ask. I imagine if the bull with an average penis can tick those boxes then he will be much more appealing than the cuck.

I have seen photos and videos of men with very small penises, 3” and smaller, and I can Understand that would be an issue for the wife. Of course there are forms of sex other than PIV but I understand that if the wife needs that then there is little option to get it elsewhere - you could almost consider it a treatment for a medical condition.

Then there are the giant cocks. They look amazing but one thing I have noticed in videos is that they can only insert so far, they often have trouble sustaining an erection, often the amount of ejaculate is low, and a lot of women can’t handle the size (depth and girth) comfortably. In my younger years I was around 7” (I’ve shrunk a little now through the natural ageing process) and that was really the limit of what my wife could take - in certain positions she would stop me as it was too deep and hurting her. I think if I could wish the cock of my dreams it would be no more than 8” with proportional girth.

The other thing that I question is the multiple orgasm thing. I can make my wife orgasm strongly every time leaving her convulsing and twitching, whether though oral, fingering, toy, or PIV - but one thing common to all is that once she has orgasmed she is extremely sensitive down there and cannot bear any continued stimulation. Sure she can cool off and go again but there is no way she could do the “he made me cum 4 times one after the other”, she just isn’t made that way, I guess every woman is built differently.

But to be honest, from what I have seen, a man that has an average penis (6”) but who is confident, takes the lead, can make an exciting bull.

For me, I’m average size and although I have cuckold fantasies, we are perfectly happy together and my wife has no interest in looking elsewhere. For me, cuckold and hotwife scenarios are my personal porn.

 

[Enigm63]

I have zero actual experience but have read and watched a lot. Some of the things I have noticed from watching videos - real and fake.

In real videos, quite often, the bull is similar sized to the cuck, there isn’t a huge difference. I guess the age old adage ‘it’s not what you have it’s what you do with it’ is quite relevant. I wonder whether the difference is the thrill of something new and exciting, something different from the usual routine, the act of sex being an event, getting dressed up, travelling somewhere, having a meal, going dancing. Also that the bill takes charge, he tells the hotwife, what to where, what to do, doesn’t ask. I imagine if the bull with an average penis can tick those boxes then he will be much more appealing than the cuck.

I have seen photos and videos of men with very small penises, 3” and smaller, and I can Understand that would be an issue for the wife. Of course there are forms of sex other than PIV but I understand that if the wife needs that then there is little option to get it elsewhere - you could almost consider it a treatment for a medical condition.

Then there are the giant cocks. They look amazing but one thing I have noticed in videos is that they can only insert so far, they often have trouble sustaining an erection, often the amount of ejaculate is low, and a lot of women can’t handle the size (depth and girth) comfortably. In my younger years I was around 7” (I’ve shrunk a little now through the natural ageing process) and that was really the limit of what my wife could take - in certain positions she would stop me as it was too deep and hurting her. I think if I could wish the cock of my dreams it would be no more than 8” with proportional girth.

The other thing that I question is the multiple orgasm thing. I can make my wife orgasm strongly every time leaving her convulsing and twitching, whether though oral, fingering, toy, or PIV - but one thing common to all is that once she has orgasmed she is extremely sensitive down there and cannot bear any continued stimulation. Sure she can cool off and go again but there is no way she could do the “he made me cum 4 times one after the other”, she just isn’t made that way, I guess every woman is built differently.

But to be honest, from what I have seen, a man that has an average penis (6”) but who is confident, takes the lead, can make an exciting bull.

For me, I’m average size and although I have cuckold fantasies, we are perfectly happy together and my wife has no interest in looking elsewhere. For me, cuckold and hotwife scenarios are my personal porn.

You are spot on, being a "bull" is as much an attitude although having a larger than average cock certainly helps, because part of it is about perceived image.
The last cuck couple that I was with he had a larger than average cock but zero sex drive whereas the wife's sex drive had gone into overdrive and that's where I came in.

 

[Enigm63]

My self and my wife have went back and forth with this lifestyle for a couple of years now we have always stopped before she's met up with other guys. I personally feel regret every time after I get off, generally after we have sex we both back out of agreeing with a cuckold lifestyle then agree never to revisit it. We have spoke about how small my cock is compared to other men she's had and how I give her no thrill I just can't get away from being turned on by being a cuck. I want her to be fucked by a real man without me having regret without me ruining it, I also get too excited when we agree she can talk to other guys and get in the way wanting to know everything. Would being caged help me calm down/feel less regret and let her go get what she needs and let her be who she is ?

Thank you for your reply, we have went through periods of her texting men ect she met up with one aswell but just to talk but he backed out. We are currently at a phase where although she has told me how much better her exes have fucked her ect we are kidding on ad if nothing has happened and it was all said in heat of the moment.
Although she's definitely a size queen and she likes men who can man handle her (not my style) she has told me the attention is the main factor for her, getting male attention is what she craves.
She's currently pregnant with our 4th child so I don't see her agreeing to re vist things soon understandably.
I feel I need to take the time to accept within myself that I like being a cuck and try and get the regret away.
Your definitely right I need to just leave her be although not easy because I feel like I need every detail possible. She is the one who's mentioned a cage I the past although we didn't go into much detail.

Most wives need 2 things to take that step of fucking a man other than her husband and the first of those is opportunity at a time when they are relaxed enough to enjoy it.

If she is pregnant with your 4th child when do you think that she will find the time to realx and enjoy great sex?

So to answer your original question...... No, caging you won't make any difference at the moment

But if the two of you think it might in the future and you want to try it for fun then go for it

 

[Jeanswatcher]

Her suggestion of caging you maybe her way of controlling you at a time when she does not want to play yet can still control your sexuality and ensure you remain loyal to her.

In my experience regret comes after a male cuck cums and a cage prevents this. I have been caged for years and seen my wife playing numerous times, i like being caged it demonstrates who i am as in a cuck husband, overtime i have found that i prefer the mental stimulation and permanent high of her plays rather than a 5 minute orgasm.

 

[NH1980]

i have found that i prefer the mental stimulation and permanent high of her plays rather than a 5 minute orgasm.

This is a very good point, you could argue that the sex act for a cuckold lasts for days, weeks, months not a few minutes.

I wonder if we see anticipation being better than realisation in other parts of our life.

For example I find the research and planning for a home/hobby project much more satisfying that actually getting on and doing it. I much prefer the research, planning and anticipation for a holiday then actually going on that holiday.

I love Christmas, my favourite time of the year, but for me it starts on 1st December, maybe even earlier. I get truly giddy with excitement with all the planning and preparation, but when it comes to be big day it’s like “meh”, total anti-climax. I wonder if that is a good analogy for the cuckold lifestyle.

Interestingly, my lifestyle flows over to my career, or maybe my career choice has driven my lifestyle. I am Solution Architect, I design very big and complex IT systems. I really get a kick out of analysing what the customer wants, proposing realistic alternatives, researching what products could provide that and designing the solution to hand over to the developers. I get a big buzz out of that - I then have to hang around for the rest of the project acting as Design Authority but if I’m honest the buzz has gone by then and I really want to move onto something new.

 

[Jeanswatcher]

This is a very good point, you could argue that the sex act for a cuckold lasts for days, weeks, months not a few minutes.

I wonder if we see anticipation being better than realisation in other parts of our life.

For example I find the research and planning for a home/hobby project much more satisfying that actually getting on and doing it. I much prefer the research, planning and anticipation for a holiday then actually going on that holiday.

I love Christmas, my favourite time of the year, but for me it starts on 1st December, maybe even earlier. I get truly giddy with excitement with all the planning and preparation, but when it comes to be big day it’s like “meh”, total anti-climax. I wonder if that is a good analogy for the cuckold lifestyle.

Interestingly, my lifestyle flows over to my career, or maybe my career choice has driven my lifestyle. I am Solution Architect, I design very big and complex IT systems. I really get a kick out of analysing what the customer wants, proposing realistic alternatives, researching what products could provide that and designing the solution to hand over to the developers. I get a big buzz out of that - I then have to hang around for the rest of the project acting as Design Authority but if I’m honest the buzz has gone by then and I really want to move onto something new.

As 99% of our encounters with other men are pre planned the excitment for me does commence days before the meet, i am then on a mental high, i look at my "normal vanilla" wife and her body doing her normal tasks yet still in a way disbelieving she will mentally and physcially soon willingly surrender to her lover for him to do as he wishes to her and she enjoys this so much.

This will not just be normal sex, she will surrender completely and enjoy being tied up in rope or chain, suspension, heavy BDSM, waxing and may include electrobes, then the final act of her begging for his cum over many hours.

As a respectable middle class couple, this is pure kink and forbidden fruit, this makes it so exciting in my mind too, people we know would be shocked to the core if they knew of our adventures or me a normal 6ft 4 dominant alpha male was actually a locked pantied, collared cuck looking forward to this experience of handing his wife to her lover or to be realistic watching her go to him and surrendering her body and mind.

I agree the actual act is not quite as exciting for me, still a major turn on but not quite at the level and degree of anticipation, i may watch in part then leave, or sometimes allow her to go alone to him, dozens of permitations i have practiced them all bar being tied and forced to watch. My high continues on a lower level for the following few days, boosted knowing i have the pictures and or video i have taken during the encounter, rarely do i view them for a week or so.

Viewing later is hughly stimulating more than actually standing and taking them was.

I suspect her experience and views are different,

She will happily agree to the meet, she knows what she wants and is happy she has a husband that affords her and also enjoys these pleasures, the day or so before she changes, becoming like an excited schoolgirl knowing the free sweet shop awaits, her whole persona changes.

On the day she will allocate me my clothing for the meet, taking time to dress me as her semi feminised cuck husband, nothing out the ordinary really, except a larger collar, tighter girlie jeans with suspenders underneath. Locked, knickers, painted toe nails are normal for me, she may change my CB though.

A lot is written about a cuckoldress or hotwife dressing and what she wears, this is rarely necessary as often her lover comes here, she knows what she wears will not remain on so why go to hugh lengths to dress for him when she knows he will undress her or dress her as he requires.

On the day it is me that is nervous not her, she will kiss me and go to him and she is his.

She will talk to me look at me but in the main she is zoned out with a look more like a drug user blank and in a different world of pain and pleasure but without taking drugs, as she has said its like an out of body experience driven by sexual simulation and orgasms. Its a strange sight the first time you see this.

If she captures his cum in her knickers she gives me those to wear.

The following day she has a glow of fullfilment then days later normal life has returned...till next time.