Wife knows now, next steps

[Cuckoldcouple99]

She's already cheating on you..

Nah that's not the case. We are super domestic. Work and taking care of our kids. There is literally no time to socialize with other adults unless we explicitly make time to do it.

I also probably have a way different definition of cheating then you do. If she went out there and fucked around on me, that's not cheating, she knows there is a consent and a desire on my part for her to do that. Mostly i'd just want to be clued into the details and how it happened.

I am literally trying to encourage her to make time to do things with her friends and asking her to be a little slutty while she is out with them. So far that's been a miss most the time, she is far more interested in doing things as a couple and scoping out the scene that way. Right now, that seems to be what we are planning on doing once we get to the summer months.

You know I finally got her to do some vids/pictures too. She doesn't want to post/share anything yet, but even that was a huge step in the last couple months. Things have been moving along great honestly.

 

[Tjmill]

Nah that's not the case. We are super domestic. Work and taking care of our kids. There is literally no time to socialize with other adults unless we explicitly make time to do it.

I also probably have a way different definition of cheating then you do. If she went out there and fucked around on me, that's not cheating, she knows there is a consent and a desire on my part for her to do that. Mostly i'd just want to be clued into the details and how it happened.

I am literally trying to encourage her to make time to do things with her friends and asking her to be a little slutty while she is out with them. So far that's been a miss most the time, she is far more interested in doing things as a couple and scoping out the scene that way. Right now, that seems to be what we are planning on doing once we get to the summer months.

You know I finally got her to do some vids/pictures too. She doesn't want to post/share anything yet, but even that was a huge step in the last couple months. Things have been moving along great honestly.

Sounds like you're both moving along nicely. This should be a great summer!

 

[BigJake]

The background on this is;

I didn't actually have this fetish until we were fucking around one day and she was talking about past sexual experiences and mentioned her ex boyfriend fucked her while his brother watched. She said the brother got out his dick and she basically showed him her tits while she was being fucked while laying down on her stomach. She said the whole thing didn't last very long but the story has been brought up multiple times in the past and she really enjoys me talking about her fucking other men (and occasionally I can get her to either talk through a story or scenario on her own when we are fucking or she is giving a blowjob.

Anyway bottom line, she gets insanely wet and will get off during these talks, much faster than usual. But actually broaching the subject has resulted in her turning down the idea of doing things in person. She also loves watching cuckold themed porn or swinger type stuff.

Anyway, not sure if this is where it ends or what. Next steps aren't clear because she is a hard no so far on doing any meet up type things, but I feel like she has gotten way more used to the idea over the years. She also is losing weight and is starting to look much healthier and sexy (basically down to 130 pounds after our kids were born and she got heavier).

Arrange for a guy to teach you both massage.
Then pre-plan with him how if she responds you can have it go further.
This way she a polite way out if there is no chemistry.

 

[toolman2c]

Scoring a man might be a nice way for your wife to break into it and boost her ego at the same time. (You could lick the results later when you or she gets home). A threesome is also a good way for both of you.

Now is the time for you both to have your fun. There will be plenty of opportunities not to.

Good advice... Imho

 

[Riversideman]

The background on this is;

I didn't actually have this fetish until we were fucking around one day and she was talking about past sexual experiences and mentioned her ex boyfriend fucked her while his brother watched. She said the brother got out his dick and she basically showed him her tits while she was being fucked while laying down on her stomach. She said the whole thing didn't last very long but the story has been brought up multiple times in the past and she really enjoys me talking about her fucking other men (and occasionally I can get her to either talk through a story or scenario on her own when we are fucking or she is giving a blowjob.

Anyway bottom line, she gets insanely wet and will get off during these talks, much faster than usual. But actually broaching the subject has resulted in her turning down the idea of doing things in person. She also loves watching cuckold themed porn or swinger type stuff.

Anyway, not sure if this is where it ends or what. Next steps aren't clear because she is a hard no so far on doing any meet up type things, but I feel like she has gotten way more used to the idea over the years. She also is losing weight and is starting to look much healthier and sexy (basically down to 130 pounds after our kids were born and she got heavier).

Ditto, same here!

 

[shymalea62]

Where would you even find an adult theater lol? Sorry I am super new to all of this beyond just fantasy.

it don,t have to be a adulttheatre,let her wear miniskirts&braless&high heels&stockings etc on a regular base at home&shopping etc,in the beginning it feels a bit embarrassing but soon she,s gonna love it to see the reaction from men,how horny she made them

 

[majorem]

Nah that's not the case. We are super domestic. Work and taking care of our kids. There is literally no time to socialize with other adults unless we explicitly make time to do it.

I also probably have a way different definition of cheating then you do. If she went out there and fucked around on me, that's not cheating, she knows there is a consent and a desire on my part for her to do that. Mostly i'd just want to be clued into the details and how it happened.

I am literally trying to encourage her to make time to do things with her friends and asking her to be a little slutty while she is out with them. So far that's been a miss most the time, she is far more interested in doing things as a couple and scoping out the scene that way. Right now, that seems to be what we are planning on doing once we get to the summer months.

You know I finally got her to do some vids/pictures too. She doesn't want to post/share anything yet, but even that was a huge step in the last couple months. Things have been moving along great honestly.

Yeah, I don't imagine she is cheating. Although its funny, even with my wife, I think there is that potential to feel like it isn't so bad if they do something, because they know you want them to but then for them to be unable to tell you, due to fear of repercussions, guilty, fear you won't see them the same way, etc. But I wouldn't worry too much about that.

It definitely seems like this is something she wants to do - it sounds like it was originally her fantasy to a degree. I would guess the scenario with the two brothers really turned her on and for years after, she thought to herself "why didn't I do more?". The thing is, she may not want to just go meet a dude by herself, she may really want to make the 3-some scenario happen again, where you're one of the dudes. I would guess if she has a fear of how you might react, it would feel safer for her to do it with you.

 

[Cuckoldcouple99]

So the latest update here is that she has actually started talking to a guy that goes to our daughters cheerleading practice (another dad of a different girl). She said they started sitting together and she admitted to being attracted to him. During dirty talk she was very much into fantasizing about him when we fuck and dirty talk eachother.

I feel like we hit some kind of inflection point though because she is saying she is willing to do it under the right circumstances, which is a huge departure from her attitude earlier. I think it helps too that she is way more attractive then she was a few months ago. She is thinner now then at any time since I have known her and started dressing in tight fitting clothes whenever she is going out to these practices. I wouldn't be surprised if She's getting looks often dressed like this, she has a banging body.

Anyway, So like I said inflection point was reached last week. She mentioned that they both were talking and got on the topic of sex. He lamanted on not getting enough sex from his wife and I guess the conversation got pretty explicit (asking her how much she gives me sex/blowjobs/etc, asking her if she plays with herself and how many fingers she uses. I mean that's pretty explicit stuff to talk about with another guy right?

Anyway still encouraging it, diamonds thinking about it, Curious where it goes from here, they have another game/practice coming up soon.

 

[robbiewillsucku]

November 2024, Hello wantabe cuckold(s). I am Robbie in Norman, Oklahoma, a bimale with a nice c*ck and nice tits.

If you want her to fuck other cocks then after you fuck her - start licking her pussy clean - do this every time you fuck her then after the 10th time - while you are licking her pussy - I am fantasizing that you fucked a cock earlier in the day and I am licking his cum from your pussy. It is all about pleasing you not my cock. I am OK being a sissy cuckold.

I want you to try this on your wife or GF - do this every time when you suck her tit. Suck her tit like a cock. Bounce or bobb your head on her tit just like you would if you were sucking a cock. Do this at least once a week. Third week, start sucking her tit then tell her that you are fantasizing. Hoping she says what are you fantasizing about. If not, suck her tit like a cock then just say -- I am fantasizing that I am sucking your tit like a cock. Don't wait - you say - tell me to suck your tit like a cock. When she tells you to suck her tit like a cock -- sucked harder and deeper.

Three more weeks -- start sucking her tit then you say - tell me to ask --- May I please suck your tit like a cock cause I am a sub sissy faggot cocksucker. Repeat it often to yourself and to her while you are sucking her tit. Yes I am a sub sissy faggot cocksucker - yes I am sucking your tit like a cock. Dry hump her while you are sucking her tit like a cock and you might just cum on her leg or in your panties.

Email me back (robbiewillsucku at gm ail) and tell me how she responded and what you are doing now to please her.

 

[Cuckoldcouple99]

Update is, she has said, 4 times now in the last month, while we are doing stuff, that if I invited a friend of ours in for a threesome she would be interested in doing it.

The guy in question I have known for a long time, we are good friends who regularly hang out, he is married with a kid (our kids play together often and he comes over several times a year for an overnight thing where we play video games and let my wife take care of all the kids while we basically just shoot the ...... and party). While I don't think there is any issue gauging his interest, it's not a sure thing that he will take the offer (he is under-sexed for sure and has talked about having an arrangement with his current wife to have a like side chick because he is super wealthy, but it never went anywhere and that was years ago).

Only thing is she seems less into it outside of us having sex/foreplay/etc, but hasn't explicitly said "No that was just something I said during sex", which has been her go-to for when she finally decides to talk dirty. Weirdly she gets way more turned on and way more into it when I just tell her what I expect her to do, she seems to get super into it when I imply, I will tell her to go and like "service" him vs asking her to talk about what she desires.

Not sure if she is embrassed or just doesn't really know how to dirty talk because she gets very in her head whenever I am asking her to tell me what she would want to do. It might just be a framing thing that she just has an easier time in her head enjoying things when she is doing it "for me" and is being told what she should do.

Anyway, that's the update, I have tried to get her to jump into some internet play but so far no progress on that front.

 

[tego]

Based on these updates, I don't know if you are progressing or regressing, but it does feel like you keep hitting a wall. The right buttons may not have been pressed yet.

Update is, she has said, 4 times now in the last month, while we are doing stuff, that if I invited a friend of ours in for a threesome she would be interested in doing it.

The guy in question I have known for a long time, we are good friends who regularly hang out, he is married with a kid (our kids play together often and he comes over several times a year for an overnight thing where we play video games and let my wife take care of all the kids while we basically just shoot the ...... and party). While I don't think there is any issue gauging his interest, it's not a sure thing that he will take the offer (he is under-sexed for sure and has talked about having an arrangement with his current wife to have a like side chick because he is super wealthy, but it never went anywhere and that was years ago).

Only thing is she seems less into it outside of us having sex/foreplay/etc, but hasn't explicitly said "No that was just something I said during sex", which has been her go-to for when she finally decides to talk dirty. Weirdly she gets way more turned on and way more into it when I just tell her what I expect her to do, she seems to get super into it when I imply, I will tell her to go and like "service" him vs asking her to talk about what she desires.

Not sure if she is embrassed or just doesn't really know how to dirty talk because she gets very in her head whenever I am asking her to tell me what she would want to do. It might just be a framing thing that she just has an easier time in her head enjoying things when she is doing it "for me" and is being told what she should do.

Anyway, that's the update, I have tried to get her to jump into some internet play but so far no progress on that front.

 

[Bicuckple60]

It seems like for some wives, it is incredibly hard to even admit they are turned on or even curious to try this sort of thing, like it could be a trap and maybe you're just testing them or even if you think you want it, maybe if they do it, you will react badly. On average, women tend to be much more risk-averse than men, so there is this calculation where they weigh all they have to lose, in terms of relationship, family life, etc, with a sexual adventure that, even if they are interested and excited by it, its probably not to the level it excites you.

When my wife finally admitted the fantasy did turn her on, she also expressed that she felt it was weird and also worried that once she started, she might get out of control. So, I think even if there is interest, there are also a lot more hurdles on the female side. Unfortunately, they just are not quite as reckless as us men tend to be lol. I think the key is to take it slow and not get too obsessive about it - have a hot lovemaking episode or event where you play with the fantasy, then give it a rest of a few weeks before you bring it up again.

With my wife, I think she needs me to push for the fantasy if its ever going to happen - she has to feel like I really, for sure, definitely want it and that it's my doing, for her to feel comfortable. At this point, I think it can happen, it just needs to be the right time and right now, with young kids, its pretty hard to find the right time...

My GF was very similar, in that the thought of doing it excited her, however she was reluctant to take the next step when I suggested we go further. We talked often about it often.....she was increasingly excited so I decided to set it up for her. I have a friend that is very well endowed, has plenty of stamina and I knew would respect her wishes.
On Saturday morning she arranged to do some things in town and said she would be home around 1:00 pm. I had already arranged my mate to come over earlier and we would surprise her!!!!
I texted her, telling her I had plans for when she returned.... I was naked
when she came into the basement.... I already had the swing set up and sent her to shower ..... when she returned I placed her in the swing, fitting restraints and blindfolded her. I slowly massaged, kissed, fondled and licked her all over...she was breathing heavily and moaning as I slowly entered her.....she rose to my slow thrusts...after a few minutes I withdrew and and placed my cock on her lips.......she devoured my pussy soaked cock.
Whilst this was taking place my friend had exited the robe and was watching.....as she sucked my cock I motioned him to enter her....she froze as he placed his big knob at her pussy......I assured her it was okay....he thrust into her and she winced.....he is much larger than me in girth and 2" longer. After a couple of minutes she was crying out and rising to meet his thrusts...... I couldn't believe how she was enjoying his big cock.....she came twice before he finally started to hammer it into her and cum.......she came so hard she cried.........that was nearly ten years ago and she has hundreds of BULLS since......and loves it!!!!

 

[Tjmill]

Update is, she has said, 4 times now in the last month, while we are doing stuff, that if I invited a friend of ours in for a threesome she would be interested in doing it.

The guy in question I have known for a long time, we are good friends who regularly hang out, he is married with a kid (our kids play together often and he comes over several times a year for an overnight thing where we play video games and let my wife take care of all the kids while we basically just shoot the ...... and party). While I don't think there is any issue gauging his interest, it's not a sure thing that he will take the offer (he is under-sexed for sure and has talked about having an arrangement with his current wife to have a like side chick because he is super wealthy, but it never went anywhere and that was years ago).

Only thing is she seems less into it outside of us having sex/foreplay/etc, but hasn't explicitly said "No that was just something I said during sex", which has been her go-to for when she finally decides to talk dirty. Weirdly she gets way more turned on and way more into it when I just tell her what I expect her to do, she seems to get super into it when I imply, I will tell her to go and like "service" him vs asking her to talk about what she desires.

Not sure if she is embrassed or just doesn't really know how to dirty talk because she gets very in her head whenever I am asking her to tell me what she would want to do. It might just be a framing thing that she just has an easier time in her head enjoying things when she is doing it "for me" and is being told what she should do.

Anyway, that's the update, I have tried to get her to jump into some internet play but so far no progress on that front.

Sounds like she's there, but maybe steer her away from people you know to start with. She can always try him later when you're comfortable with people you know. Kind of tough to stir the pot right off the bat. IMHO. Especially if he has a wife etc to deal with.

 

[farmlandcouple]

Update is, she has said, 4 times now in the last month, while we are doing stuff, that if I invited a friend of ours in for a threesome she would be interested in doing it.

The guy in question I have known for a long time, we are good friends who regularly hang out, he is married with a kid (our kids play together often and he comes over several times a year for an overnight thing where we play video games and let my wife take care of all the kids while we basically just shoot the ...... and party). While I don't think there is any issue gauging his interest, it's not a sure thing that he will take the offer (he is under-sexed for sure and has talked about having an arrangement with his current wife to have a like side chick because he is super wealthy, but it never went anywhere and that was years ago).

Only thing is she seems less into it outside of us having sex/foreplay/etc, but hasn't explicitly said "No that was just something I said during sex", which has been her go-to for when she finally decides to talk dirty. Weirdly she gets way more turned on and way more into it when I just tell her what I expect her to do, she seems to get super into it when I imply, I will tell her to go and like "service" him vs asking her to talk about what she desires.

Not sure if she is embrassed or just doesn't really know how to dirty talk because she gets very in her head whenever I am asking her to tell me what she would want to do. It might just be a framing thing that she just has an easier time in her head enjoying things when she is doing it "for me" and is being told what she should do.

Anyway, that's the update, I have tried to get her to jump into some internet play but so far no progress on that front.

My husband and I agreed that if we ever proceeded with it, it would not be anyone we know. I messaged a friend of his one night and that even caused some awkwardness

 

[majorem]

Update is, she has said, 4 times now in the last month, while we are doing stuff, that if I invited a friend of ours in for a threesome she would be interested in doing it.

The guy in question I have known for a long time, we are good friends who regularly hang out, he is married with a kid (our kids play together often and he comes over several times a year for an overnight thing where we play video games and let my wife take care of all the kids while we basically just shoot the ...... and party). While I don't think there is any issue gauging his interest, it's not a sure thing that he will take the offer (he is under-sexed for sure and has talked about having an arrangement with his current wife to have a like side chick because he is super wealthy, but it never went anywhere and that was years ago).

Only thing is she seems less into it outside of us having sex/foreplay/etc, but hasn't explicitly said "No that was just something I said during sex", which has been her go-to for when she finally decides to talk dirty. Weirdly she gets way more turned on and way more into it when I just tell her what I expect her to do, she seems to get super into it when I imply, I will tell her to go and like "service" him vs asking her to talk about what she desires.

Not sure if she is embrassed or just doesn't really know how to dirty talk because she gets very in her head whenever I am asking her to tell me what she would want to do. It might just be a framing thing that she just has an easier time in her head enjoying things when she is doing it "for me" and is being told what she should do.

Anyway, that's the update, I have tried to get her to jump into some internet play but so far no progress on that front.

When we're sexually aroused, hormones make us less inhibited, so it is natural she would feel more comfortable expressing interest then. It is also pretty classic for many women, my wife included, to want the husband to take the lead with this fantasy, especially when it comes to making it a reality. It is natural for your partner to feel some apprehension here, fearing that you might not like it if she comes on too strong with her interest in having sex with another man or, more so, actually doing it and worrying how you might react if it plays out in a way you dislike.

I think your wife is interested and possibly ready for things to move forward based on what you've described but she's not going to give you a strong commitment or take the lead in it because she's cautious and is afraid of doing anything to jeopardize your relationship.

 

[majorem]

My GF was very similar, in that the thought of doing it excited her, however she was reluctant to take the next step when I suggested we go further. We talked often about it often.....she was increasingly excited so I decided to set it up for her. I have a friend that is very well endowed, has plenty of stamina and I knew would respect her wishes.
On Saturday morning she arranged to do some things in town and said she would be home around 1:00 pm. I had already arranged my mate to come over earlier and we would surprise her!!!!
I texted her, telling her I had plans for when she returned.... I was naked
when she came into the basement.... I already had the swing set up and sent her to shower ..... when she returned I placed her in the swing, fitting restraints and blindfolded her. I slowly massaged, kissed, fondled and licked her all over...she was breathing heavily and moaning as I slowly entered her.....she rose to my slow thrusts...after a few minutes I withdrew and and placed my cock on her lips.......she devoured my pussy soaked cock.
Whilst this was taking place my friend had exited the robe and was watching.....as she sucked my cock I motioned him to enter her....she froze as he placed his big knob at her pussy......I assured her it was okay....he thrust into her and she winced.....he is much larger than me in girth and 2" longer. After a couple of minutes she was crying out and rising to meet his thrusts...... I couldn't believe how she was enjoying his big cock.....she came twice before he finally started to hammer it into her and cum.......she came so hard she cried.........that was nearly ten years ago and she has hundreds of BULLS since......and loves it!!!!

Yeah, I feel like for things to progress, eventually I'm going to have to try to make something happen but I don't have any suitable friends, nor am I sure I'd want it to be someone we know, so it will probably require us meeting the right person out some night. Fortunately, my wife is very outgoing and often starts conversations with random people - just need to find the right one, on the right night... going on vacation next week, probably nothing will happen, but who knows...

 

[Cuckoldcouple99]

Sounds like she's there, but maybe steer her away from people you know to start with. She can always try him later when you're comfortable with people you know. Kind of tough to stir the pot right off the bat. IMHO. Especially if he has a wife etc to deal with.

Yea I would actually like to opt for something more 'stranger' adjacent but she hasn't been interested at all, won't even look really.

 

[Cuckoldcouple99]

When we're sexually aroused, hormones make us less inhibited, so it is natural she would feel more comfortable expressing interest then. It is also pretty classic for many women, my wife included, to want the husband to take the lead with this fantasy, especially when it comes to making it a reality. It is natural for your partner to feel some apprehension here, fearing that you might not like it if she comes on too strong with her interest in having sex with another man or, more so, actually doing it and worrying how you might react if it plays out in a way you dislike.

I think your wife is interested and possibly ready for things to move forward based on what you've described but she's not going to give you a strong commitment or take the lead in it because she's cautious and is afraid of doing anything to jeopardize your relationship.

Yea, interesting enough me being more assertive seems to be a thing she enjoys. She seems to enjoy it most when I tell her what I want her to do, when she talks it is like she is doing it only for me (and doesn't get much out of it). Maybe I will 'tell' her I intend to do it on a certain date or something to make it seem more real and see if she wants to inform that process or be involved more beyond just being available when its time to do it. I haven't suggested that kind of dynamic yet. Thanks for the suggestion.