Wife is open to getting laid but hesitant to the cuckold part

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My wife is cool with having sex with other guys and telling me about the experiences but is uncomfortable with the cuckold aspects such as taking and sharing photos/videos, humiliating me, having sex in front of me, ordering me around, etc. She currently isn't seeing anyone and her sex drive has plummeted due to work stress and my work schedule being abnormal. Any advice would be huge, I've written stories about by fantasy of it and she is supportive of it but her love and appreciation of me makes it so she is uncomfortable with the stuff I previously mentioned
 

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STOP talking about all that "cuckold" stuff and just let her know it's ok for her to have sex with other guys whenever she wants.
Once she starts that (assuming she does) then you can have her tell you about it, details, etc. If things go well then perhaps slowly introduce
more brazen fantasies. Most people, including wives, find all of that "cuckold" stuff off putting. It's "normalized" here but in reality, all of this
is pretty "out there" for most people. (In reality anyway).
 
STOP talking about all that "cuckold" stuff and just let her know it's ok for her to have sex with other guys whenever she wants.
Once she starts that (assuming she does) then you can have her tell you about it, details, etc. If things go well then perhaps slowly introduce
more brazen fantasies. Most people, including wives, find all of that "cuckold" stuff off putting. It's "normalized" here but in reality, all of this
is pretty "out there" for most people. (In reality anyway).
I feel like this is the best advice you will get. Make it enjoyable for her and things might work out for you. Let her find someone she is comfortable with and perhaps he is familiar with the cuckold lifestyle and can help bring her around to it. But to throw everything at her all at once is pretty stressful and that's the last thing anyone wants.

My guess is once she has a new lover and is enjoying it then she will want to do things you enjoy as well.
 
STOP talking about all that "cuckold" stuff and just let her know it's ok for her to have sex with other guys whenever she wants.
Once she starts that (assuming she does) then you can have her tell you about it, details, etc. If things go well then perhaps slowly introduce
more brazen fantasies. Most people, including wives, find all of that "cuckold" stuff off putting. It's "normalized" here but in reality, all of this
is pretty "out there" for most people. (In reality anyway).
I don’t think you’ll get a better answer than this one - nailed it in one.
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STOP talking about all that "cuckold" stuff and just let her know it's ok for her to have sex with other guys whenever she wants.
Once she starts that (assuming she does) then you can have her tell you about it, details, etc. If things go well then perhaps slowly introduce
more brazen fantasies. Most people, including wives, find all of that "cuckold" stuff off putting. It's "normalized" here but in reality, all of this
is pretty "out there" for most people. (In reality anyway).
Thank you so very much for this advice, it makes a lot of sense, she's had sex with a lot of people in her past before we met but she's never been in a relationship where she truly love someone so it's definitely different and she's different because that was nearly 10 years ago lol Thank you so much I will be patient and just let it rest, and let her become comfortable with it for herself in time.
I feel like this is the best advice you will get. Make it enjoyable for her and things might work out for you. Let her find someone she is comfortable with and perhaps he is familiar with the cuckold lifestyle and can help bring her around to it. But to throw everything at her all at once is pretty stressful and that's the last thing anyone wants.

My guess is once she has a new lover and is enjoying it then she will want to do things you enjoy as well.
I feel like this is the best advice you will get. Make it enjoyable for her and things might work out for you. Let her find someone she is comfortable with and perhaps he is familiar with the cuckold lifestyle and can help bring her around to it. But to throw everything at her all at once is pretty stressful and that's the last thing anyone wants.

My guess is once she has a new lover and is enjoying it then she will want to do things you enjoy as well.
Thank you very much for your feedback too, I greatly appreciate it, having more perspectives on it helps greatly. I am definitely hopeful someone worthy will come along, One of the challenges is she feels that there's no way to find someone by normal means who's comfortable by that style of relationship, She believes most guys wanted to be just her and him and not all the extra stuff which I assume is true but it discourages her.
 
Men can be found. The man who started this journey with us, my wife had known him for awhile. They were friends who met up and played Pokémon Go together. I did not know him at all until after he started being with my wife. He knew she was married and my wife basically propositioned him and he agreed. Over 5 years later and he is still with my wife and they are enjoying each other.
 
Men can be found. The man who started this journey with us, my wife had known him for awhile. They were friends who met up and played Pokémon Go together. I did not know him at all until after he started being with my wife. He knew she was married and my wife basically propositioned him and he agreed. Over 5 years later and he is still with my wife and they are enjoying each other.
Wow that is an awesome story, thank you for sharing. It is very encouraging to know. There is one guy who is basically her best friend but she told me she doesn't want to actively fuck him because he smells but she doesn't have the heart to tell him that's why she would never make it a all the time thing 😅
 
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There is NO Cuckold part, if she is your wife and sleeping with other men then she is in the main more like a Cuckoldress which makes you a Cuck.

Taking pictures, ordering you about or having sex infront of you makes you less of a Cuck not more of one as by true definition a cuck normally is a man unaware his wife has lovers.

From what you say, she is happy to fuck other men and tell you but not with your desire to be involved. Thats her choice a true cuck never get any say anyway.

You should consider yourself lucky, a lot on here will kill to be where you are anyway.
 
There is NO Cuckold part, if she is your wife and sleeping with other men then she is in the main more like a Cuckoldress which makes you a Cuck.

Taking pictures, ordering you about or having sex infront of you makes you less of a Cuck not more of one as by true definition a cuck normally is a man unaware his wife has lovers.

From what you say, she is happy to fuck other men and tell you but not with your desire to be involved. Thats her choice a true cuck never get any say anyway.

You should consider yourself lucky, a lot on here will kill to be where you are anyway.
Thank you for your input, I do absolutely go wild hearing her sexual experiences and you make great points
 
My wife is cool with having sex with other guys and telling me about the experiences but is uncomfortable with the cuckold aspects such as taking and sharing photos/videos, humiliating me, having sex in front of me, ordering me around, etc. She currently isn't seeing anyone and her sex drive has plummeted due to work stress and my work schedule being abnormal. Any advice would be huge, I've written stories about by fantasy of it and she is supportive of it but her love and appreciation of me makes it so she is uncomfortable with the stuff I previously mentioned
This is a lifestyle meant to be lived as a couple, not one-sided. Make sure to let her experiment and try new things she is comfortable with, build her self confidence, learn how to feel pleasure with other men again. The watching/recording/humiliation part will eventually pop up if she feels like it.
 
This is a lifestyle meant to be lived as a couple, not one-sided. Make sure to let her experiment and try new things she is comfortable with, build her self confidence, learn how to feel pleasure with other men again. The watching/recording/humiliation part will eventually pop up if she feels like it.
Those are really great points, just like every relationship it takes both to make it work, I definitely love to be supportive and patient, wish I could help her build her confidence in herself.
 
My wife is cool with having sex with other guys and telling me about the experiences but is uncomfortable with the cuckold aspects such as taking and sharing photos/videos, humiliating me, having sex in front of me, ordering me around, etc. She currently isn't seeing anyone and her sex drive has plummeted due to work stress and my work schedule being abnormal. Any advice would be huge, I've written stories about by fantasy of it and she is supportive of it but her love and appreciation of me makes it so she is uncomfortable with the stuff I previously mentioned
Wishing you the best of luck my friend, hope you can both find enjoyment together 👍
 
I don’t think you’ll get a better answer than this one - nailed it in one.
I appreciate it greatly!
Im a bull but as I think about the lifestyle it makes no sense to me why a husband would be in the room. I might be a total square. if my wife were to say to me: "I want other men to pound me", my response would: be good for you and see you later. I would have no interest in being there.
Alright, folks, buckle up for a tale that'll make you chuckle and maybe even blush a little! Picture this: Miami, 20 years ago, at the oh-so-trendy Nikki Beach club. Our protagonist, a self-proclaimed "quintessential square," was getting his groove on, dancing solo and living his best life.

But wait! Plot twist incoming! A husband, bold as brass, sidles up to our dancing friend with an offer that would make most people's eyebrows shoot up faster than a champagne cork. "Hey," he says, cool as a cucumber, "my wife over there? She's got her eye on you and wants to know if you'd like to join us at our place for some... quality time."

Well, folks, our innocent dancer nearly did a backflip! He shut that down faster than you can say "No thank you!" with a dash of "Are you out of your mind?" for good measure. He was convinced he'd just dodged a bullet – or worse, a headline that would've read: "Man Lured to Couple's Home, Becomes Unwitting Star of Sacrificial Ritual!"

But hold onto your hats, because the real kicker came the next day! When our square friend regaled his pals with this wild tale, expecting gasps of horror, what did he get? Laughter! Buckets of it! His worldly-wise friends had to break it to him gently: "Oh, you sweet summer child! They weren't planning your demise – they were swingers!"

Our poor, bewildered protagonist was left scratching his head, wondering if he'd just time-traveled to a different planet. "Swingers? Cuckolds? What in the world are those?" he asked, his innocence shining brighter than a disco ball.

And there you have it, dear readers – a cautionary tale of clubbing, close calls, and cultural cluelessness! Remember, sometimes when you think you're avoiding becoming the main course, you might just be turning down dessert!
 
My wife is cool with having sex with other guys and telling me about the experiences but is uncomfortable with the cuckold aspects such as taking and sharing photos/videos, humiliating me, having sex in front of me, ordering me around, etc. She currently isn't seeing anyone and her sex drive has plummeted due to work stress and my work schedule being abnormal. Any advice would be huge, I've written stories about by fantasy of it and she is supportive of it but her love and appreciation of me makes it so she is uncomfortable with the stuff I previously mentioned
Literally start watching porn constantly don't give her a orgasam unless it's the part you're wanting and tell her to listen how she speaks to her husband while being gangbanged.
Also take her to a adult bookstore and let her blow a few different men and colors and if she needs convincing you want this as much as you can get her to do start sucking black cock in front of her as you're fingering her slit.
Very soon you're going to get your desired results.
I'm talking I walked my girlfriend 3rd date into a club and walked straight into the men's restroom and pulled her skit down bent her over slammed into her pussy about three minutes before the line started forming and I stepped aside and let 23 black guys wreck the slut and made her fall in love with me since she's well aware I love to see her sexually satisfied and physically happy with having a husband who worships and adores her body.