Something I have wondered about for a long time, but can't really discuss with my liberal feminist friends. I read in today's news that a married woman claimed sexual assault while at a convention. She and another woman were drinking at the hotel bar, and got angry when their male friend rubbed one of their legs. After their argument ended, one of the women voluntarily went to the man's hotel room. She is married, and her husband was also at the hotel with their children. The man claims that they had consensual sex, that both knew it was wrong, and that she said she would tell her husband that she fell asleep in another hotel room. The husband was looking for her, but never found her. She returned to her husband early the next morning. She claims no memory of what happened in the guy's hotel room, and says that he probably put something in her drink. Three days after the alleged sexual assault, she seems to remember that something had happened and went for a sexual assault test and then lodged a criminal complaint. She did not tell her husband about the possible sexual assault until the three days after her night in the guy's room.
Personally, I tend to believe the guy's claim that it was consensual and that she planned to lie to her husband. Why did she go to his room, especially after it was clear in the bar that he was trying to get one of the women interested in sex? Why did she wait 3 days to tell her husband? Oddly, her husband seems to believe her story. I wouldn't. Perhaps, he can't bear the thought that his wife cheated.
I have read of many cases like this. Some involve single college women, others involve a girlfriend or a wife. In some cases, the woman is with multiple men, none of whom are her husband or boyfriend. When the sex becomes known to hubby, or to schoolmates at college or high school, then the sexual assault claim emerges. I find these claims doubtful. What do you think about this? Are we to always believe the woman's version? My feminist friends would say "yes." Doubting the woman's claim is sexism, they would say. I also think that, if I am correct about the women making up the assault claim, it points to how sexually inhibited many in our society are.
Personally, I tend to believe the guy's claim that it was consensual and that she planned to lie to her husband. Why did she go to his room, especially after it was clear in the bar that he was trying to get one of the women interested in sex? Why did she wait 3 days to tell her husband? Oddly, her husband seems to believe her story. I wouldn't. Perhaps, he can't bear the thought that his wife cheated.
I have read of many cases like this. Some involve single college women, others involve a girlfriend or a wife. In some cases, the woman is with multiple men, none of whom are her husband or boyfriend. When the sex becomes known to hubby, or to schoolmates at college or high school, then the sexual assault claim emerges. I find these claims doubtful. What do you think about this? Are we to always believe the woman's version? My feminist friends would say "yes." Doubting the woman's claim is sexism, they would say. I also think that, if I am correct about the women making up the assault claim, it points to how sexually inhibited many in our society are.
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