Why would a guy want his Wife/GF to fuck another man?

[JHotbrewer]

Found this indepth post and thought Id place it here for discussion:
Here are ten rules for a Open Marriage.
What do you think?

1. First and foremost, if one or both partners in the outside relationship become emotionally involved (start to fall in love) with the other, that outside relationship will end.

If this happens the outside relationship becomes a threat to the primary relationship—not to mention create emotional entanglements that will hurt one or more of the people involved.

2. The primary relationship will always remain primary.

This means that one spouse will check with the other before meetings with an outside partner. If conflicts occur, they will be discussed with the marriage partner. If a compromise can't be reached, the decision will favor the needs of marriage partner.

3. The marriage partner has the option of disapproving a particular outside relationship with a specific person; or to turn it around, that partner may want to approve or even meet the other person.

4. Meeting with any one outside person can't take place on a daily basis. Regularly seeing just one outside person can easily result in a personal and emotional dependence on that relationship by one or both people involved. To help avoid this it may be advantageous to have more than one outside sexual relationship.

5. Assuming the agreed upon rules are followed, the outside relationship can't be used against a spouse at any time, as in a later claim of adultery.

6. If one spouse is meeting another person, the other spouse must know where he or she is at all times. Any change of plans will be made known. Although this is primarily a safety issue for wives, should the need arise the marriage partners need to know how to get in contact with each other. This is especially important if a spouse plans an overnight stay.

7. Although this should come under the heading of common civility, comparing attributes, attitudes, or sexual capabilities of a person outside of the marriage to those of a spouse is "off limits."

8. Given the attitude of general society to open relationships and the professional and personal harm that might ensue if generally known, it is often necessary to be discrete in meetings with the outside person or persons—out of sight, of friends, business associates, or family members. In small towns this may mean out-of-town meetings.

Where these concerns are not a factor, some couples find that the number of prospective partners increases if it is generally known that the couple has an open marriage.

9. There will be "full disclosure" at all times and there will be no secret conversations or meetings with the outside person—things that can easily lead to mistrust and jealously.

10. And finally, no outside relationship will endanger another person's monogamous marriage or relationship.

There's a lot I'd agree with here. One difference however is comparison of attributes and capabilities. I simply love to hear my wife talk about her bulls and even how they satisfy her more than me. That is a lot of our pleasure. Despite that, also, secrecy. One thing I don't insist on is knowing anything about her overnight stays if she doesn't want to share.

 

[Catholic_Wife]

This is a very active topic on Hotwife sites. I really enjoy our site here at Wife Want To Play and didn’t see this specific Topic.

I copied this down and like this response to start a conversation:

“I look at it as swinging with a twist. Most swingers are educated, balanced, family people with stronger than normal marriages. Sounded like home to me. Only the politics changed with another couple, where it felt better for both of us with her playing, I found it more satisfying, and she did not feel her marriage to me was threatened.

SO I addressed all the arguments against this life style.

I am latently homosexual:
No our erotic thoughts are of women, and watching a woman and man go at it is not gay, guys watch live porn all the time. The focus is the woman and her sexuality. Yes we discuss the guys equipment and body, but that is in the context of how he will look with her, no different than picking out a favorite porn movie. Do you think people watched Mandingo for the wallpaper color? Beside the porn show stars the most favorite woman in the world, the wife.

I am not "manly"
Seems many porn sites refer to this life as the husband is a shmuck. Well I do understand the mate poaching fantasy, and it is ok for the boyfriend/bull to experience it, but within the comfort of the couple. Well look at all the Hollywood studs who are rich and good looking, their marriage disintegrate in short order. Their wives are out sneaking in no time because the marriage is not what they hoped for. We HWHubs/Cucks do not need to put on airs, we can watch him do her, and know who she loves and is coming home to. We allow wifey to live free, and thus pursue her happiness, not be tied to my macho wanna be ideas. So we live in the real world more than the John Wayne hopefuls.

The wife must not be satisfied with her husband:
What nobody ever ate some dessert after being full of a good dinner? Do we eat only at one restaurant? Variety is the spice of life. Sex between spouses of most HW couples is excellent on it's own, now put hot sex in turbo. How many typical guys complain their wives are frigid and boring. Most HW's are ready, willing, and able to take her husband to the next level. Why? Because her marriage is a happy home full of love, communication and respect. Those are the elements of a satisfying marriage, which leads to sex the vanillas only dream of.

I am looking to get rid of or I don't love my wife:
This one ticks me off. If I wanted to leave her the door works just fine. Sickos who want to tape her just to show the judge are not life stylers, they are something else. What if the other guy fucks her so good she leaves me for him? Well I am glad to have this information about her sooner than later. Odds are she was looking to leave and this gave her the excuse she was looking for. (Hardcore Cucks might look for this, but again choice) Again these are not issues of the lifestyle, they are other issues before the other ever man arrived. Loving someone so much that you would risk another lover for her? Love with out freedom is slavery, and false, we love of free will. If I wanted a cheap slut to watch fuck, I could hire a call girl. No, we want the intimate meaning this life brings for us. We love her so much we trust her to go get fucked, scream with ecstasy, and try things she did not think to try with husband. And welcome her home hotter for her than the first time you had her. Yeah we do not love our wives, enough said.

Finally, I must be insane:
So many times you hear women/men act all offended and say "leave him now, only a sicko would want you to sleep around like some slut." I bet most of them are out screwing behind someones back, they just have a power trip to be on TV trying to look important. Of course many of these negative people also say that when a woman dresses provocative she deserved to be raped and other silly statements. Some are not into the life, and that is fine. We all have the right to choose our values, not shove them down other peoples throats. Some couples use sex toys, or erotic aids to set a mood. We just go for the aid of a living person. Besides there is good evidence that we are not really hardwired to be monogamous. Women are designed to show, men are designed to watch, women can receive multi partners easier than most men. What consenting adults do that harm no one is fine. What happened to personal freedom? Yeah a happy marriage how insane is that?”

There are a bunch of reasons ou there. Mostly them depend on each couple's lifestyle.

Ours (couple) biggest reason is to have found a way to sustain our relationship sexually. Husband travels with mandatory frequency due his work and Wife just couldn't cope with that sexual-lag during the absences. So instead of cheating or to let each one have their affairs on spouse's back, we decided to do some swinging and then a hotwife sexual lifestyle - that is our main reason.

Husband got pretty excited sharing Wife's sexual naughtiness and willingness to other. It causes a mixture of jealousy, anticipation, a weird proud feelings towards what is occuring between Wife and Male Friends. Husband was already somewhat of a voyeur himself even before the marriage. Husband used to feel both aroused and angry whenever he got to see his ex-girlfriends photos with their past lovers or bf, wondering how they used to fuck around and such.

But we know those aren't the very same reasons for other couples out there. We knew some men that were into humiliation and inadequecy feelings and the act of share their wives somehow triggers them and let some release to flow. So, there are more deep rooted psychological reasons involved for many guys.

 

[JHotbrewer]

Found this indepth post and thought Id place it here for discussion:
Here are ten rules for a Open Marriage.
What do you think?

1. First and foremost, if one or both partners in the outside relationship become emotionally involved (start to fall in love) with the other, that outside relationship will end.

If this happens the outside relationship becomes a threat to the primary relationship—not to mention create emotional entanglements that will hurt one or more of the people involved.

2. The primary relationship will always remain primary.

This means that one spouse will check with the other before meetings with an outside partner. If conflicts occur, they will be discussed with the marriage partner. If a compromise can't be reached, the decision will favor the needs of marriage partner.

3. The marriage partner has the option of disapproving a particular outside relationship with a specific person; or to turn it around, that partner may want to approve or even meet the other person.

4. Meeting with any one outside person can't take place on a daily basis. Regularly seeing just one outside person can easily result in a personal and emotional dependence on that relationship by one or both people involved. To help avoid this it may be advantageous to have more than one outside sexual relationship.

5. Assuming the agreed upon rules are followed, the outside relationship can't be used against a spouse at any time, as in a later claim of adultery.

6. If one spouse is meeting another person, the other spouse must know where he or she is at all times. Any change of plans will be made known. Although this is primarily a safety issue for wives, should the need arise the marriage partners need to know how to get in contact with each other. This is especially important if a spouse plans an overnight stay.

7. Although this should come under the heading of common civility, comparing attributes, attitudes, or sexual capabilities of a person outside of the marriage to those of a spouse is "off limits."

8. Given the attitude of general society to open relationships and the professional and personal harm that might ensue if generally known, it is often necessary to be discrete in meetings with the outside person or persons—out of sight, of friends, business associates, or family members. In small towns this may mean out-of-town meetings.

Where these concerns are not a factor, some couples find that the number of prospective partners increases if it is generally known that the couple has an open marriage.

9. There will be "full disclosure" at all times and there will be no secret conversations or meetings with the outside person—things that can easily lead to mistrust and jealously.

10. And finally, no outside relationship will endanger another person's monogamous marriage or relationship.

1. First and foremost, if one or both partners in the outside relationship become emotionally involved (start to fall in love) with the other, that outside relationship will end. YES

If this happens the outside relationship becomes a threat to the primary relationship—not to mention create emotional entanglements that will hurt one or more of the people involved. YES

2. The primary relationship will always remain primary. YES

This means that one spouse will check with the other before meetings with an outside partner. YES If conflicts occur, they will be discussed with the marriage partner. If a compromise can't be reached, the decision will favor the needs of marriage partner. YES

3. The marriage partner has the option of disapproving a particular outside relationship with a specific person; or to turn it around, that partner may want to approve or even meet the other person. YES and sometimes I have suggested or requested certain men, whom she can turn down also.

4. Meeting with any one outside person can't take place on a daily basis. YES Regularly seeing just one outside person can easily result in a personal and emotional dependence on that relationship by one or both people involved. To help avoid this it may be advantageous to have more than one outside sexual relationship. YES definitely. This way it remains 100% sex and emotionally safe.

5. Assuming the agreed upon rules are followed, the outside relationship can't be used against a spouse at any time, as in a later claim of adultery. YES

6. If one spouse is meeting another person, the other spouse must know where he or she is at all times. Any change of plans will be made known. Although this is primarily a safety issue for wives, should the need arise the marriage partners need to know how to get in contact with each other. This is especially important if a spouse plans an overnight stay.

YES. My wife often spends the night with one of her bulls at a hotel, and I will always know which hotel. She keeps her phone on every minute she is away - not for me to check on her but in case she needs me. But she may leave the bedroom with him to go drinking or eating or clubbing. She will tell me if so.... but

7. Although this should come under the heading of common civility, comparing attributes, attitudes, or sexual capabilities of a person outside of the marriage to those of a spouse is "off limits."

NO. We particularly enjoy this. I love hearing about how well another man fucks her and how she enjoys it. When she has a first time it's always exciting to hear about his cock, size, his balls, how he fucked, how much she enjoyed it, how much he cums.

8. Given the attitude of general society to open relationships and the professional and personal harm that might ensue if generally known, it is often necessary to be discrete in meetings with the outside person or persons—out of sight, of friends, business associates, or family members. In small towns this may mean out-of-town meetings. YES. We try to avoid places where friends/family may appear. There have been a few occasions where we bumped into a business acquaintance. One of those ended up bedding her and re-visits periodically for a bit of 'Fili puki' when he can.

Where these concerns are not a factor, some couples find that the number of prospective partners increases if it is generally known that the couple has an open marriage. We don't encourage this.

9. There will be "full disclosure" at all times and there will be no secret conversations or meetings with the outside person—things that can easily lead to mistrust and jealously. PARTLY. I allow and encourage my wife to be as private as she and her bulls want to be. A degree of secrecy is inevitable in that regard and adds to the spice of everything. Her bulls regularly video her during their sessions and she is under no obligation to share with me.

10. And finally, no outside relationship will endanger another person's monogamous marriage or relationship. We hope not 🙂

 

[JHotbrewer]

The more I read the responses here the clearer it becomes that, though not 'normal' in the statistical sense (I am sure we are still a very small minority), the lifestyle we practice, the attitudes and behaviours we indulge in, are not 'abnormal' in any sense of being perverted - which most others would think we are. Like being gay - just because the majority doesn't understand it, and some would condemn it, doesn't mean anything. For me and my wife our lifestyle is entirely reasonable behaviour, it hurts no one and brings immense satisfaction and harmony. Once you move past the idea that a woman offering her body to another man in some way weakens your bond, diminishes you as her husband and love, or threatens your relationship, you arrive at a point, where we did, that says "Why not?"

She cooks lovely Philippines food for me, but doesn't take offence if I want to buy in a Thai, Chinese, pizza or ribs. She understands that I love the variety. Same for her and sex. I know she enjoys the variety that sex with different men can offer. I know she still needs more than me, more than I can offer. So why not let her enjoy it while she can? We are vey careful in every way and keep in touch with each other's feelings. By keeping a variety of men she avoids too much attention from or attraction to any one of them. I know she enjoys different aspects of all of them and really would not want to threaten that by engaging in a serious relationship with any single one. She'd miss his big cock or another's cum, or the way another does her doggy or another lasts so long or has such energy.

So when it comes down to it, it's all about wanting her to enjoy the pleasures of the flesh while she's young enough - and I enjoy sharing that experience too

 

[wwtp2]

This is a very active topic on Hotwife sites. I really enjoy our site here at Wife Want To Play and didn’t see this specific Topic.

I copied this down and like this response to start a conversation:

“I look at it as swinging with a twist. Most swingers are educated, balanced, family people with stronger than normal marriages. Sounded like home to me. Only the politics changed with another couple, where it felt better for both of us with her playing, I found it more satisfying, and she did not feel her marriage to me was threatened.

SO I addressed all the arguments against this life style.

I am latently homosexual:
No our erotic thoughts are of women, and watching a woman and man go at it is not gay, guys watch live porn all the time. The focus is the woman and her sexuality. Yes we discuss the guys equipment and body, but that is in the context of how he will look with her, no different than picking out a favorite porn movie. Do you think people watched Mandingo for the wallpaper color? Beside the porn show stars the most favorite woman in the world, the wife.

I am not "manly"
Seems many porn sites refer to this life as the husband is a shmuck. Well I do understand the mate poaching fantasy, and it is ok for the boyfriend/bull to experience it, but within the comfort of the couple. Well look at all the Hollywood studs who are rich and good looking, their marriage disintegrate in short order. Their wives are out sneaking in no time because the marriage is not what they hoped for. We HWHubs/Cucks do not need to put on airs, we can watch him do her, and know who she loves and is coming home to. We allow wifey to live free, and thus pursue her happiness, not be tied to my macho wanna be ideas. So we live in the real world more than the John Wayne hopefuls.

The wife must not be satisfied with her husband:
What nobody ever ate some dessert after being full of a good dinner? Do we eat only at one restaurant? Variety is the spice of life. Sex between spouses of most HW couples is excellent on it's own, now put hot sex in turbo. How many typical guys complain their wives are frigid and boring. Most HW's are ready, willing, and able to take her husband to the next level. Why? Because her marriage is a happy home full of love, communication and respect. Those are the elements of a satisfying marriage, which leads to sex the vanillas only dream of.

I am looking to get rid of or I don't love my wife:
This one ticks me off. If I wanted to leave her the door works just fine. Sickos who want to tape her just to show the judge are not life stylers, they are something else. What if the other guy fucks her so good she leaves me for him? Well I am glad to have this information about her sooner than later. Odds are she was looking to leave and this gave her the excuse she was looking for. (Hardcore Cucks might look for this, but again choice) Again these are not issues of the lifestyle, they are other issues before the other ever man arrived. Loving someone so much that you would risk another lover for her? Love with out freedom is slavery, and false, we love of free will. If I wanted a cheap slut to watch fuck, I could hire a call girl. No, we want the intimate meaning this life brings for us. We love her so much we trust her to go get fucked, scream with ecstasy, and try things she did not think to try with husband. And welcome her home hotter for her than the first time you had her. Yeah we do not love our wives, enough said.

Finally, I must be insane:
So many times you hear women/men act all offended and say "leave him now, only a sicko would want you to sleep around like some slut." I bet most of them are out screwing behind someones back, they just have a power trip to be on TV trying to look important. Of course many of these negative people also say that when a woman dresses provocative she deserved to be raped and other silly statements. Some are not into the life, and that is fine. We all have the right to choose our values, not shove them down other peoples throats. Some couples use sex toys, or erotic aids to set a mood. We just go for the aid of a living person. Besides there is good evidence that we are not really hardwired to be monogamous. Women are designed to show, men are designed to watch, women can receive multi partners easier than most men. What consenting adults do that harm no one is fine. What happened to personal freedom? Yeah a happy marriage how insane is that?”

I'll come down to sarasota and you can watch me use her...you will be sucking my cock for me as I pull out. You lucky bastard...your a Fag. Shes gonna luv watching cum drain out Your nose. The wife will do whatever I want. I like long sloppy blow jobs...you like licking bung. Look at pic I sent as your gonna rim me long....

 

[Siesta Swingers]

I'll come down to sarasota and you can watch me use her...you will be sucking my cock for me as I pull out. You lucky bastard...your a Fag. Shes gonna luv watching cum drain out Your nose. The wife will do whatever I want. I like long sloppy blow jobs...you like licking bung. Look at pic I sent as your gonna rim me long....

The more I read the responses here the clearer it becomes that, though not 'normal' in the statistical sense (I am sure we are still a very small minority), the lifestyle we practice, the attitudes and behaviours we indulge in, are not 'abnormal' in any sense of being perverted - which most others would think we are. Like being gay - just because the majority doesn't understand it, and some would condemn it, doesn't mean anything. For me and my wife our lifestyle is entirely reasonable behaviour, it hurts no one and brings immense satisfaction and harmony. Once you move past the idea that a woman offering her body to another man in some way weakens your bond, diminishes you as her husband and love, or threatens your relationship, you arrive at a point, where we did, that says "Why not?"

She cooks lovely Philippines food for me, but doesn't take offence if I want to buy in a Thai, Chinese, pizza or ribs. She understands that I love the variety. Same for her and sex. I know she enjoys the variety that sex with different men can offer. I know she still needs more than me, more than I can offer. So why not let her enjoy it while she can? We are vey careful in every way and keep in touch with each other's feelings. By keeping a variety of men she avoids too much attention from or attraction to any one of them. I know she enjoys different aspects of all of them and really would not want to threaten that by engaging in a serious relationship with any single one. She'd miss his big cock or another's cum, or the way another does her doggy or another lasts so long or has such energy.

So when it comes down to it, it's all about wanting her to enjoy the pleasures of the flesh while she's young enough - and I enjoy sharing that experience too

Love your response. I do think Hotwife lifestyle is growing and many many more couples are enjoying the rewards.

 

[JHotbrewer]

Love your response. I do think Hotwife lifestyle is growing and many many more couples are enjoying the rewards.

I do hope so. I think they miss out if not.

 

[Hotwifelove]

So she could enjoy a big fat cock

 

[Lovefeet]

I'll come down to sarasota and you can watch me use her...you will be sucking my cock for me as I pull out. You lucky bastard...your a Fag. Shes gonna luv watching cum drain out Your nose. The wife will do whatever I want. I like long sloppy blow jobs...you like licking bung. Look at pic I sent as your gonna rim me long....

Obviously has no idea what the conversation is going on with this thread and frankly lives in fantasy mode as he doesn't get laid..at all.