Why would a guy want his Wife/GF to fuck another man?

[Siesta Swingers]

This is a very active topic on Hotwife sites. I really enjoy our site here at Wife Want To Play and didn’t see this specific Topic.

I copied this down and like this response to start a conversation:

“I look at it as swinging with a twist. Most swingers are educated, balanced, family people with stronger than normal marriages. Sounded like home to me. Only the politics changed with another couple, where it felt better for both of us with her playing, I found it more satisfying, and she did not feel her marriage to me was threatened.

SO I addressed all the arguments against this life style.

I am latently homosexual:
No our erotic thoughts are of women, and watching a woman and man go at it is not gay, guys watch live porn all the time. The focus is the woman and her sexuality. Yes we discuss the guys equipment and body, but that is in the context of how he will look with her, no different than picking out a favorite porn movie. Do you think people watched Mandingo for the wallpaper color? Beside the porn show stars the most favorite woman in the world, the wife.

I am not "manly"
Seems many porn sites refer to this life as the husband is a shmuck. Well I do understand the mate poaching fantasy, and it is ok for the boyfriend/bull to experience it, but within the comfort of the couple. Well look at all the Hollywood studs who are rich and good looking, their marriage disintegrate in short order. Their wives are out sneaking in no time because the marriage is not what they hoped for. We HWHubs/Cucks do not need to put on airs, we can watch him do her, and know who she loves and is coming home to. We allow wifey to live free, and thus pursue her happiness, not be tied to my macho wanna be ideas. So we live in the real world more than the John Wayne hopefuls.

The wife must not be satisfied with her husband:
What nobody ever ate some dessert after being full of a good dinner? Do we eat only at one restaurant? Variety is the spice of life. Sex between spouses of most HW couples is excellent on it's own, now put hot sex in turbo. How many typical guys complain their wives are frigid and boring. Most HW's are ready, willing, and able to take her husband to the next level. Why? Because her marriage is a happy home full of love, communication and respect. Those are the elements of a satisfying marriage, which leads to sex the vanillas only dream of.

I am looking to get rid of or I don't love my wife:
This one ticks me off. If I wanted to leave her the door works just fine. Sickos who want to tape her just to show the judge are not life stylers, they are something else. What if the other guy fucks her so good she leaves me for him? Well I am glad to have this information about her sooner than later. Odds are she was looking to leave and this gave her the excuse she was looking for. (Hardcore Cucks might look for this, but again choice) Again these are not issues of the lifestyle, they are other issues before the other ever man arrived. Loving someone so much that you would risk another lover for her? Love with out freedom is slavery, and false, we love of free will. If I wanted a cheap slut to watch fuck, I could hire a call girl. No, we want the intimate meaning this life brings for us. We love her so much we trust her to go get fucked, scream with ecstasy, and try things she did not think to try with husband. And welcome her home hotter for her than the first time you had her. Yeah we do not love our wives, enough said.

Finally, I must be insane:
So many times you hear women/men act all offended and say "leave him now, only a sicko would want you to sleep around like some slut." I bet most of them are out screwing behind someones back, they just have a power trip to be on TV trying to look important. Of course many of these negative people also say that when a woman dresses provocative she deserved to be raped and other silly statements. Some are not into the life, and that is fine. We all have the right to choose our values, not shove them down other peoples throats. Some couples use sex toys, or erotic aids to set a mood. We just go for the aid of a living person. Besides there is good evidence that we are not really hardwired to be monogamous. Women are designed to show, men are designed to watch, women can receive multi partners easier than most men. What consenting adults do that harm no one is fine. What happened to personal freedom? Yeah a happy marriage how insane is that?”

 

[Lynnandhubby]

My wife and I were both in our 40s when we met and we come at this lifestyle from different but mutually compatible motivations. Lynn has always been promiscuous, she’s always slept around. She loves the variety of different sexual experiences, from the thrill of the hunt, the flirting, picking up and fucking someone new, right through to a full on BDSM session with her bull and friends using her as their fucktoy. None of that is anything to do with me - that’s just how she already was when we met.
For me, I’ve had a slutwife fetish ever since my teens. Reading porn mags back then (going back well over 50 years now) where my friends would get off over the photos of the models, I would wank myself silly over the readers letters of cheating wives/shared wives. I had fairly normal upbringing before boarding school and the thought that there were women out there who didn’t conform to the normal roles of faithful wives and mothers (showing my age now) just blew my mind and had me blowing my load. It’s an obsession with slutty women that has remained with me ever since.
So although we might come at this from different angles, the lifestyle works very well for us. My most intense pleasure/arousal comes from my wife willingly and wantonly giving herself to other men, being their slut, watching (or even just hearing about) them enjoying her, using her. For Lynn’s part, she gets to fuck whoever she wants, with my full support and encouragement. She doesn’t need my permission to indulge herself when the opportunity arises nor does she ever need to apologise for getting what she needs.
Aside from the sex, we have a very stable loving relationship, we are friends as well as lovers. However, unlike most couples it was our particular kinks that drew us together in the first place and the relationship that needed to grow to support that. I was hooked fairly quickly but she needed a lot more reassurance to leave one (even though unhappy) marriage and get into another with me. But all these years later, it’s the relationship and the love that comes with it, that has kept us together.
James

 

[Randr7896]

While there is no denying that my wife finds more sexual pleasure from a man with a very big cock. she isn't solely driven by the lust of her pussy. Her cuckolding me is exciting for us because no one else would ever suspect it. It is a secret that only we share.
We enjoy satisfying each other. And at the moment our kinks happen to be perfectly in line. That is kind of the bottom line.

 

[Siesta Swingers]

My wife and I were both in our 40s when we met and we come at this lifestyle from different but mutually compatible motivations. Lynn has always been promiscuous, she’s always slept around. She loves the variety of different sexual experiences, from the thrill of the hunt, the flirting, picking up and fucking someone new, right through to a full on BDSM session with her bull and friends using her as their fucktoy. None of that is anything to do with me - that’s just how she already was when we met.
For me, I’ve had a slutwife fetish ever since my teens. Reading porn mags back then (going back well over 50 years now) where my friends would get off over the photos of the models, I would wank myself silly over the readers letters of cheating wives/shared wives. I had fairly normal upbringing before boarding school and the thought that there were women out there who didn’t conform to the normal roles of faithful wives and mothers (showing my age now) just blew my mind and had me blowing my load. It’s an obsession with slutty women that has remained with me ever since.
So although we might come at this from different angles, the lifestyle works very well for us. My most intense pleasure/arousal comes from my wife willingly and wantonly giving herself to other men, being their slut, watching (or even just hearing about) them enjoying her, using her. For Lynn’s part, she gets to fuck whoever she wants, with my full support and encouragement. She doesn’t need my permission to indulge herself when the opportunity arises nor does she ever need to apologise for getting what she needs.
Aside from the sex, we have a very stable loving relationship, we are friends as well as lovers. However, unlike most couples it was our particular kinks that drew us together in the first place and the relationship that needed to grow to support that. I was hooked fairly quickly but she needed a lot more reassurance to leave one (even though unhappy) marriage and get into another with me. But all these years later, it’s the relationship and the love that comes with it, that has kept us together.
James

I Love !!! Your life story! I am right there with your sexual desires and adoration of Slutty Wives. I get perturbed when I hear of men divorcing their wives and destroying families and fortunes over the wife’s infidelity. Even more annoying to me are employer's that fire good productive workers for being swingers and enjoying promiscuous sexual lifestyles.
Dishonesty is serious. Can’t have any kind of relationship with liars, but Sluts are my Queens!

Lets hope that more women with Slutty sexual natures will find mates like us and live long happy fulfilling lives!

 

[Siesta Swingers]

While there is no denying that my wife finds more sexual pleasure from a man with a very big cock. she isn't solely driven by the lust of her pussy. Her cuckolding me is exciting for us because no one else would ever suspect it. It is a secret that only we share.
We enjoy satisfying each other. And at the moment our kinks happen to be perfectly in line. That is kind of the bottom line.

Isn’t that the best! That open communication about sexual desires and fantasies with the spouse open to exploring and fulfilling each other sexual wants and curiosities.

 

[Spice]

I don't mind my wife fucking other men, she's always had a high sex drive, I knew how she was before we got married and I accepted her that way, being in the army I knew that sex happens a lot especially while you're on deployment or out in the field training,

My wife and I talked about it before getting married and we both agreed that there might be times when we might fuck someone else, she's been with several other men before and after we got married,

We both get something different from the experience, for her it has nothing to do with size, I'm 7+ and she's been with guy smaller and larger than me, it's pure sex for her just like natural mating,

For me I get the excitement of knowing how she fucked someone else, how it came about, did she play hard to get or go up to him and tell him she wanted to fuck, it all depends on the mood she's in.

Here's 2 pictures of my wife riding my cock,



Here's 2 pictures of my wife riding a guy she met at a club,



Here's a picture of my wife relaxing after cumming several times.

 

[Lynnandhubby]

I Love !!! Your life story! I am right there with your sexual desires and adoration of Slutty Wives. I get perturbed when I hear of men divorcing their wives and destroying families and fortunes over the wife’s infidelity. Even more annoying to me are employer's that fire good productive workers for being swingers and enjoying promiscuous sexual lifestyles.
Dishonesty is serious. Can’t have any kind of relationship with liars, but Sluts are my Queens!

Lets hope that more women with Slutty sexual natures will find mates like us and live long happy fulfilling lives!

I agree, we should celebrate and encourage our slutty women a lot more than we do. There’s still a lot of slut shaming going on. It’s very unfair. There has always been a significant proportion of men who played the field, were on the lookout for a easy lay on the side and they never received the same degree of judgement that a woman doing the same would receive. Why shouldn’t women have the same freedom to fuck around. Obviously I know I’m biased, and I wouldn’t want to change but Ive been blessed with being married to two sluts, my first wife Ruth, who I lost far too early and then Lynn who I’ve been married to for 23 years.
Even after all these years I can’t fully rationalise my particular kink and to be honest I no longer try too. All I know is that I find the sexuality of slutty women, in general, and not just my first and current wives, very attractive and exciting. For me that excitement increases a hundred fold when the slut is my wife and I’m watching her enjoying getting fucked by other men and also seeing how much they are loving having her. I also think that there is nothing new under the sun, it’s just that now people are more comfortable talking about these things.
James

 

[My redhed 4 bbc]

It's a chance for my wife to let go a bit and allow her slutty side to drive her. She is a highly respectable person in her public life so this is a sort of escape. There are so many social taboos that she likes to confront and in taking a younger, black lover she achieves a lot of that. Her ambition does not stop there though. But that will come in time.

 

[BigSkies]

I agree, we should celebrate and encourage our slutty women a lot more than we do. There’s still a lot of slut shaming going on. It’s very unfair. There has always been a significant proportion of men who played the field, were on the lookout for a easy lay on the side and they never received the same degree of judgement that a woman doing the same would receive. Why shouldn’t women have the same freedom to fuck around. Obviously I know I’m biased, and I wouldn’t want to change but Ive been blessed with being married to two sluts, my first wife Ruth, who I lost far too early and then Lynn who I’ve been married to for 23 years.
Even after all these years I can’t fully rationalise my particular kink and to be honest I no longer try too. All I know is that I find the sexuality of slutty women, in general, and not just my first and current wives, very attractive and exciting. For me that excitement increases a hundred fold when the slut is my wife and I’m watching her enjoying getting fucked by other men and also seeing how much they are loving having her. I also think that there is nothing new under the sun, it’s just that now people are more comfortable talking about these things.
James

Interestingly, I have been saying this for over 50 years..... I used to sake the question back at school even.... how come a guy that fucks around is lauded and admired for being such a 'STUD', getting a free pass on any other character flaws, but girls that exercise their own personal choice to fuck who and when they want for THEIR OWN PLEASURE, how come they instantly get 'slut-shamed' and societally shunned.... what happened to good for the goose and gander, if we turn that around and say what's good for the gander is surely damn well just as good for the goose.... so hear hear James, very well said indeed!👏👏👏

Oh and btw, some advice I have occasionally offered in encouraging and supporting self -expressive women, is that insults and words are only as offensive as you take and allow them to be.... it's about time the term 'slut' was reclaimed, taken away from the insecure idiotic repressives and OWNED, proudly owned, by our 'girls' (as a broadly inclusive term for all women) - if women stood up and just OWNED the term, it takes away the weapon of insult, because if instead of being insulted the target thanks you for the compliment and straight out owns it as a proud slut... they have nothing! 🤷‍♂️

 

[My redhed 4 bbc]

Oh, and it's also bloody exciting for everyone involved!