Who regrets getting into the lifestyle and why

[Golden Roadie]

My wife cheating on me with one of our friends, twice gave one bj's in car and once went to his house for a full fuck session.
I found out after getting suspicious of her being on phone texting and talking, ends contact as soon as she sees me, so, I set a hidden cam in our bathroom since she been spending a long time taking showers. I saw that she was putting on a hot sexy show for someone who I could not tell how through face-time
when I confronted her she insisted it was a guy she just met on line and who she is planning to tell me about, for three days she insisted the same.
On the 4th day we went out clubbing and happen to see our friends there. At the end of the night me and one of them ended up having a few drinks and cant drive. My wife did not drink much so she drove us home, she dropped me off home first and told me she's dropping him off 2nd. I kind of knew the way she was looking at him at the club she had the huts for him and likes to make out with him and give him a bj at least. The thought turned me on too and said ok to her and go for it and I'd be waiting home fore her and so it was done. Telling me how hot it was the making out, the kissing and the sucking.

The next morning she admits to me it was him all alone who she gave 3 bj's to so far and one fuck session at his house.

I liked it at first and it was a turn on, but the thought of her choosing to cheat where she did not have to started killing me. I ended every contact between us and him. Our sex life been mellow and cold ever since. I dont know if it will ever start again.

Who among us hasn’t made big ass mistakes? Do you talk about it at ALL?

Calm down and promise yourself you won’t blow up! Speak to her in a gentle caring tone AND LISTEN! You might be surprised what heartfelt communication can do for you.

 

[Loridan]

I would have handled my early dating experiences and my first marriage differently had I been freed of traditional ideas about sex and marriage. I would have been more open and courageous about sharing my desires with my sex partners instead of feeling guilty about wanting something different. In reality, they probably wanted the same things, so we just prevented each other from fulfilling our desires.

That's well said.
Way befor I was married I got with several cheating wives, all openly told me they loved their husband and didn't want to hurt him and did NOT want him to find out. They all also said they absolutely loved the sex they were having with me and I know they would have been VERY into mfm fun with me and hubby. They all openly told me after leaving my place they were going home to have sex with him.
There's no way I'm suggesting a couple goes exploring with others for sex fun but I'm still surprised how these women got into very nasty sex fun.
Wife and I get with a guy we know pretty regularly and I'm blown away with how turned on my wife gets.

 

[Kudalskies]

We only do this together. I wouldn't be OK with her seeing anyone without me.

Yes. I'd say no matter how hot and wild the fantasy gets.. never one side do it alone, both will regret it that if the relationship stays together.

 

[Kudalskies]

Who among us hasn’t made big ass mistakes? Do you talk about it at ALL?

Calm down and promise yourself you won’t blow up! Speak to her in a gentle caring tone AND LISTEN! You might be surprised what heartfelt communication can do for you.

Sometimes wished I did. But it did turn out for the better, I am with a much better person in everyway.