Such nonsense.The mainstays definitions don't even all align and many of them can be interpreted in a way I agree with.
More importantly though, you can also look up "retard" and it will say something like "a person with mental disability" but it has become a pejorative term and people with mental disabilities typically don't appreciate being called that. So instead of worrying about people creating their own definitions, maybe just please stop being a dick and telling people they're wrong about what they prefer to call themselves?
Insisting on the absolute application of centuries-old pejoratives from an oppressive time period dominated by religion is the antithesis of promoting this lifestyle of openness, acceptance and pursuit of sexual fulfillment.
"definitions don't even all align" they all align with an "unfaithful wife"
"wrong about what they prefer to call themselves" Just because one calls themselves 'king of the world' doesn't make it so, only makes one delusional.
"Insisting on the absolute application of centuries-old pejoratives" every word you use is based upon this. If you're unhappy with it, there's simple answer, WRITE YOUR OWN FUCKING DICTIONARY then have it accepted as authority.