Hi Alex. Thank you for your very valuable insight into your experiences. I really value your view and will take all of what you said in deciding whether this is really what I want. Cheers.
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Hi Wiseold. I have also thought the same thing. In that I don't want her to act any different as she would with a one on one sexual experience with someone. Thank you for taking the time to respond.
shymalea
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jealousy destroys the strongest relationships,it,s poison and the best thing you can do is (my personal view)to have a honest discussion with your wife,tell her how you feel,that you,re affraid to loose her because you,re jealous,listen at her how she feels about it,it,s very simple if you realy realy love each other,and want to try this then you must know that nobody can cum,lol,come between you and if you,re not sure there are other things to do,showing off in sexy lingerie&heels at home to family,strangers etc,dirty talk,tasks ,etc is also very hot
The best way to dip your toe into the lifestyle is by sharing pictures of your wife on this site. If your not comfortable sharing her pictures, you probably won't be comfortable sharing HER.
Thank you Shymalea. My level of jealousy I don't believe will be a huge problem. I don't rant and get angry or anything like that.
I have been encouraging her to wear things that she my not have previously worn. For example. She has started to wear some sexy gym outfits that she never would have worn before. She has asked me to see if any guys are checking her butt out. All of this type of talk turns me on and doesn't make me jealous. Like I said before. I am just unsure how the actual sex act will make me feel. I suppose we will find out soon. As we are getting closer to finding a suitable play partner. Thank you for your response.
We have already posted pictures of her on another platform. Where guys have commented on her. I am completely ok with the comments. No jealousy. More sexually excited that anything.
Has she told you what she is looking for in a guy, has she told you all about her past lovers yet. her past will give you an insight into what shes hoping for from this. Is she looking for just some fun, a lover to help you out to satisfy her sexually, a guy that eats pussy better, a former lover that she still has the hots for, a well hung guy that will make her cum like you only wish you could, is it her arse she wants fucked, does she want to try a cut/uncut guy. You need to think about who's going to be fucking her, where their going to fuck her, are you going to watch them fuck her, when are they going to fuck her, can you handle her her begging for her lover's big cock to fuck her harder and that's just for starters
Do you realize that now your got her started down this road, even just her wearing sexier clothes and her being aware she is attracting more attention from other guys, she will never be the same wife again in your eyes, you will be wondering if she's wanting other guys to fuck he or if in-fact someone else already is. once she finds herself one or more well hung lovers and she's been having it off with them for a while and her pussy loosens up as it gets use to there bigger superior penises, how will you be feeling then. As I've said it's most likely already to late to go back now as with all the extra attention shes attracting she will be so horny now she will start fucking other guys behind your back anyway. As for you being jealous, forget it you are the one that put her into this wonderful sexy situation and if your man enough you will be able to enjoy it near as much as she will, if your not man enough she will simply cuckold you and not care what you think, enjoy, she sure will
"She is very attractive. Any guy would love to be with her. She used to date a few young guys (15 years younger) with large cocks before me. This can make me a little down and depressed sometimes then other times it turns me on. I can't work it out. I wish I really didn't have this fetish."
I think this right here demonstrates that it isn't the big cocks you have to worry about by themselves. Most women (Cathy excluded it seems) don't think like men and make life / relationship decisions primarily based on their vagina like we often do with our penis (for better or worse 😈)...
The danger is that she finds someone who not only has a big cock, who she has great sex with but who also has a great personality, that she forms an emotional attachment with. I think this is a greater danger with a girlfriend, outside of a marriage, because you don't exactly have a life together yet, she is less invested in you and your life together at this stage.
I do think there is a very real danger here for you to be concerned about. She knows you, all your ups and downs but whatever new man she is with, will have the excitement of being new, will potentially be putting his best effort forth (as we all do when we begin dating but which is unsustainable over the long-term) and she may not necessarily know about his downsides. Say, maybe she hates how you chew with your mouth open but she doesn't realize her new lover constantly pees on the toilet seat.
I had a female friend who was in that sort of situation. Her husband got off on having her go out and meet other men and eventually she fell for one of them. The guy she was ...... with started getting jealous of the husband, she eventually "ran away" with him and her husband divorced her. Then after 6 months, her and the new guy realized they didn't like one another that much but her husband had found a new woman and now she's alone with 2 kids.
Hotwifing seems like the riskiest form of wife-sharing to me, since it provides more opportunity for her to be alone with other men, where a relationship may develop. It's a pretty fine line between your wife just going out to SPAM other men vs. her dating them. In this sort of situation, it's not even about trust - sometimes one just can't help falling in love if put into the right situation with the right person.
Maybe try a 3-some or a meet-up in a hotel where you watch her with another man. I'd talk to her and voice your concerns and try to agree upon some mutually comfortable framework where there is maybe less opportunity for making an emotional connection / forming a long-term relationship.
I think this right here demonstrates that it isn't the big cocks you have to worry about by themselves. Most women (Cathy excluded it seems) don't think like men and make life / relationship decisions primarily based on their vagina like we often do with our penis (for better or worse 😈)...
The danger is that she finds someone who not only has a big cock, who she has great sex with but who also has a great personality, that she forms an emotional attachment with. I think this is a greater danger with a girlfriend, outside of a marriage, because you don't exactly have a life together yet, she is less invested in you and your life together at this stage.
I do think there is a very real danger here for you to be concerned about. She knows you, all your ups and downs but whatever new man she is with, will have the excitement of being new, will potentially be putting his best effort forth (as we all do when we begin dating but which is unsustainable over the long-term) and she may not necessarily know about his downsides. Say, maybe she hates how you chew with your mouth open but she doesn't realize her new lover constantly pees on the toilet seat.
I had a female friend who was in that sort of situation. Her husband got off on having her go out and meet other men and eventually she fell for one of them. The guy she was ...... with started getting jealous of the husband, she eventually "ran away" with him and her husband divorced her. Then after 6 months, her and the new guy realized they didn't like one another that much but her husband had found a new woman and now she's alone with 2 kids.
Hotwifing seems like the riskiest form of wife-sharing to me, since it provides more opportunity for her to be alone with other men, where a relationship may develop. It's a pretty fine line between your wife just going out to SPAM other men vs. her dating them. In this sort of situation, it's not even about trust - sometimes one just can't help falling in love if put into the right situation with the right person.
Maybe try a 3-some or a meet-up in a hotel where you watch her with another man. I'd talk to her and voice your concerns and try to agree upon some mutually comfortable framework where there is maybe less opportunity for making an emotional connection / forming a long-term relationship.
Hi Cathy(if that is your real name) I have a feeling that you are a male and using this forum and people's genuine issues and concerns to get off on your own fantasies/fetishes.
Please do not respond to any of my comments anymore.
Your comments do not add any positive direction or advice. Unlike most of the genuine, positive and helpful people on here.
You are only trying to cause anxiety and a sense of negativity to my situation. You know from what I have written your comments
Hi Majorem
Thank you for taking the time to write your response. It's great to get different positive and informative views such as yours.
I have no plans for my girlfriend to play by herself. I am trying to be in control of all communication between the 3rd person and my girlfriend. We have been vettung the guys together. Making sure we are both comfortable with them.
She has no interest in being emotionally attached to the 3rd person and have already established an actual set of written rules for both of us. This was one of the rules. Thank you again for your time.
would causes me sadness and depression.
So please spend your time and comments on actual cuckolds that would enjoy those types of comments as everything you described is not how my girlfriend thinks.
I hope you have a happy new year.
Hi Majorem.
I'm sorry. I think the end of another message ment for another member ended up after your message. The layout of this website can be confusing and not easy to use.
Early 50s here, we enjoy mfm with a guy we know. He does have a bigger dick that me, he is younger but its the whole thing that's exciting for us. He's a really nice guy, has a job, divorced, has his own place, he's responsible. He's clean, polite....wife (we) likes him because of who he is. Wife is attracted to men her age, well dressed and in shape with confidence. Our friend is younger, skinny nerd type, not what you'd think she's I to. When he visits it's a relaxing night with a lot of sex. There's plenty of hard fast pounding but there's more of slow sensual love making type sex. A lot of just laying there caressing and rubbing and kissing and easy conversation. He does have a big dick, I'd say 8 maybe 9 and it's easy to see she likes sex with him but there's more to it that a big tool.
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